If the SIL isn't getting the vaccine, yes it's certainly her right. But there are also consequences. OP should tell her kids that their aunt has decided not to get the vaccine, and that means they can't be around their cousins for the time being. Let the SIL answer to her own kids for her own choices.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why did you make promises to your kids based on what other adults choose to do with their bodies?

Because I assumed all educated adults would choose to get the vaccine.
—Op

That was a really stupid assumption. Especially as “anti-vaxxer” has been a thing for decades.

So you’re telling me you already knew they were no-mask/life-as-normal people, but you assumed she’d get vaccinated?

Looks like you being “educated” does not mean you have common sense. Hey, just like SIL!

I guess I stupidly thought my brother’s education would rub off on her and for the sake of her extended family, she’d get it.
-OP

Wow. You’re a piece of work.

I would meet with them outside if everyone wears masks. And if they refuse you can’t see them.

Would your SIL be willing to quarantine for a bit before you get together? My SIL and brother also won’t vax but before they are allowed near my vaccinated parents, they do stay home and mask up for a few days.

WhT about the cousins OP? Are they old enough to get vaccinated? Why are the unvaccinated cousins ok and the unvaccinated aunt is not?

Also, I think it’s sad that your brother married an idiot, but Covid is really not a big deal for kids... really... I read up about it and it really is less than the flu. Relax and have fun with your brother and his kids and try to pretend SIL is smarter than she really is

Are you planning on sending your kids back to school in person? I can almost guarantee that they will be indoors in relatively close contact with unvaccinated adults in that scenario.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why did you make promises to your kids based on what other adults choose to do with their bodies?

Because I assumed all educated adults would choose to get the vaccine.
—Op

That was a really stupid assumption. Especially as “anti-vaxxer” has been a thing for decades.

So you’re telling me you already knew they were no-mask/life-as-normal people, but you assumed she’d get vaccinated?

Looks like you being “educated” does not mean you have common sense. Hey, just like SIL!

I guess I stupidly thought my brother’s education would rub off on her and for the sake of her extended family, she’d get it.
-OP

Is your SIL uneducated?

You not only made plans based on assumptions about someone else's body...you made promises to your kids about it?!

Being educated hasn't taught you much about life or about parenting, eh?

If you are OK with your unvaccinated kids being around their unvaccinated cousins, I'm not sure why it matters if SIL is also unvaccinated? (Not being snarky, just curious.)

How old are your kids? I work at a child care center and about half of the staff refuses to get vaccinated. It’s frustrating but it’s a fact of life. I personally would not choose to interact with your SIL and her family not because she won’t get vaccinated but because they don’t take any precautions. But then I know two people who died of covid last month after attending a family gathering where all but one attendee tested positive several days after the gathering. (One aged early 40’s, the other late 50’s).

They did don’t wear masks and ignored the pandemic, and you ASSumed they would get the vaccine?!

There are two idiots in this scenario, OP. SIL is but one of them.

I think your first mistake was making assumptions, especially considering they are people who don’t social distance or wear masks. Honestly, if I made any assumption in this circumstance it would have been the opposite one.

Just tell your kids they are required to wear masks around SIL and no hugging. Tell them she is unvaccinated and leave it at that. If they ask why, say “I don’t know”.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why did you make promises to your kids based on what other adults choose to do with their bodies?

Because I assumed all educated adults would choose to get the vaccine.
—Op

That was a really stupid assumption. Especially as “anti-vaxxer” has been a thing for decades.

So you’re telling me you already knew they were no-mask/life-as-normal people, but you assumed she’d get vaccinated?

Looks like you being “educated” does not mean you have common sense. Hey, just like SIL!

I guess I stupidly thought my brother’s education would rub off on her and for the sake of her extended family, she’d get it.
-OP

Yes, you were stupid to assume that. Glad you can admit it.

You know Ted Cruz went to Harvard, right? Educated does not equal smart, caring for humanity, good citizen, etc.

How very odd that you are so “educated” but are just now leading that you do not have the right to control the bodies or decisions of other adults. I’m glad I could help you become more aware of the world.

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Anonymous wrote:Get a hotel and see them only outdoors. As is completely your right. Your vaccinated brother’s family can get an Air BnB or beach house with you.

Choosing not to get it is completely her right.

They do not operate like this. They have been living normal life, no masks, no social distancing all year. Once we get together, it’s full contact at that point.
-OP

I would personally tell my kids the truth on why we can’t get together. Their actions as a family put them at risk. Had this been a person who has masking and social distancing and taking it seriously I might feel differently. Has she had Covid?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why did you make promises to your kids based on what other adults choose to do with their bodies?

Because I assumed all educated adults would choose to get the vaccine.
—Op

That was a really stupid assumption. Especially as “anti-vaxxer” has been a thing for decades.

So you’re telling me you already knew they were no-mask/life-as-normal people, but you assumed she’d get vaccinated?

Looks like you being “educated” does not mean you have common sense. Hey, just like SIL!

I guess I stupidly thought my brother’s education would rub off on her and for the sake of her extended family, she’d get it.
-OP