Anonymous
Post 03/17/2021 17:09     Subject: Worried we (mainly Shiite) crossed boundary with nanny
Shiite and UTI
Anonymous
Post 03/17/2021 17:07     Subject: Re:Worried we (mainly Shiite) crossed boundary with nanny
Anonymous wrote:I totally expected this thread to be about a Shiite Muslim family imposing their beliefs/practices on a Sunni Muslim nanny . A little disappointed, but now I’m also confused as to why the nanny felt the need to specifically inform the family that she had a UTI rather than just taking a sick day and why the OP similarly felt the need to specify this in the post. Seems a little TMI on both sides.



I absolutely thought history was about Shiite Muslim and “Uti” was a Shiite holiday!

I disagree with the rest of your post however as this nanny is a live-in and the cause of illness (and possible contagion) are important to disclose to the family.
Anonymous
Post 03/17/2021 07:20     Subject: Re:Worried we (mainly Shiite) crossed boundary with nanny
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I totally expected this thread to be about a Shiite Muslim family imposing their beliefs/practices on a Sunni Muslim nanny . A little disappointed, but now I’m also confused as to why the nanny felt the need to specifically inform the family that she had a UTI rather than just taking a sick day and why the OP similarly felt the need to specify this in the post. Seems a little TMI on both sides.


Sounds like she is live in. A UTI doesn't have obvious symptoms so just guessing she wanted to be transparent.

... and in a pandemic, probably wanted everyone to be calm knowing it isn’t something contagious
Anonymous
Post 03/17/2021 00:19     Subject: Re:Worried we (mainly Shiite) crossed boundary with nanny
Anonymous wrote:I totally expected this thread to be about a Shiite Muslim family imposing their beliefs/practices on a Sunni Muslim nanny . A little disappointed, but now I’m also confused as to why the nanny felt the need to specifically inform the family that she had a UTI rather than just taking a sick day and why the OP similarly felt the need to specify this in the post. Seems a little TMI on both sides.


Sounds like she is live in. A UTI doesn't have obvious symptoms so just guessing she wanted to be transparent.
Anonymous
Post 03/16/2021 23:01     Subject: Re:Worried we (mainly Shiite) crossed boundary with nanny
I totally expected this thread to be about a Shiite Muslim family imposing their beliefs/practices on a Sunni Muslim nanny . A little disappointed, but now I’m also confused as to why the nanny felt the need to specifically inform the family that she had a UTI rather than just taking a sick day and why the OP similarly felt the need to specify this in the post. Seems a little TMI on both sides.
Anonymous
Post 03/16/2021 22:56     Subject: Worried we (mainly Shiite) crossed boundary with nanny
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Give her another day off.


+1000
Not money, a real day off.


I agree and make sure it doesn’t happen again.
Anonymous
Post 03/16/2021 22:49     Subject: Re:Worried we (mainly Shiite) crossed boundary with nanny
OP, don’t make a big deal about this! She was paid, you’re sorry, it won’t happen again. Done. No gift cards, no extra pay- just your complete respect for her time going forward.
Anonymous
Post 03/16/2021 22:31     Subject: Worried we (mainly Shiite) crossed boundary with nanny
Anonymous wrote:Give her another day off.


+1000
Not money, a real day off.
Anonymous
Post 03/16/2021 22:01     Subject: Worried we (mainly Shiite) crossed boundary with nanny
Give her another day off.
Anonymous
Post 03/16/2021 21:49     Subject: Worried we (mainly Shiite) crossed boundary with nanny
Maybe just apologize and tell her you understand if she needs more time off tomorrow.

I agree DHs are so clueless about this stuff sometimes.
Anonymous
Post 03/16/2021 21:01     Subject: Worried we (mainly Shiite) crossed boundary with nanny
Lol @ the subject line autocorrect. I was wondering how someone could be "mainly" Shiite. "Like, we're Persian, but sometimes we dabble..."
Anonymous
Post 03/16/2021 21:00     Subject: Worried we (mainly Shiite) crossed boundary with nanny
Don't obsess over it too much, but apologize and maybe Starbucks gift card or something nice for her. But making too big a "fuss" almost makes it worse, like she'll feel like she overreacted or had the wrong tone when you apologized.
Anonymous
Post 03/16/2021 17:44     Subject: Worried we (mainly Shiite) crossed boundary with nanny
Anonymous wrote:Since she is already getting paid for the day (paid sick day) I would give her pay on top of that. So let's say you pay her $20 an hour. If DD spent 3 hours down there, I would give her $60.


No, I wouldn’t do that, but I sure wouldn’t let it happen again.
Anonymous
Post 03/16/2021 17:41     Subject: Worried we (mainly Shiite) crossed boundary with nanny
Since she is already getting paid for the day (paid sick day) I would give her pay on top of that. So let's say you pay her $20 an hour. If DD spent 3 hours down there, I would give her $60.
Anonymous
Post 03/16/2021 17:38     Subject: Re:Worried we (mainly Shiite) crossed boundary with nanny
Op here no idea how DH was autocorrect to shitte!!! Anyway thanks for the advice, the day is paid regardless I just feel bad!