If schedules permit, everyone goes.

At least once a year. I make my sons attend at least one Nutcracker or other ballet performance and my daughter attends a lacrosse tournament or two (especially if it's out of state and we don't want to leave a teen at home). That's about it, because all of them are busy in their own activities and there's a lot of overlap in the times...getting them all where they need to go is hard enough.

Ugh. My parents made me sit through endless kid soccer games for my younger brother. Please don't make you kids do this. Specifically, please don't make your daughters do this for your sons.

It's not an option for championship games. We all go, especially if it's out of state. Not during the last year, though because only 1 parent can enter the arena during games, no siblings allowed.

Not for every sport or activity. But I did ask my kids to support each other for activities that mattered and they did willingly. For example, everyone showed up to my son’ vocational skills contest, the occasional gymnastics meet and some of the tae kwon do belt tests but not the early morning first year basketball games.

My kids liked being there for each other but I am sure if I had forced the basketball games they would have revolted at giving up their sleep in times. They did do drop off and pick up from practice though and that was so much better than showing up for a game because mine always preferred siblings over parents to chauffeur them around.

Anonymous wrote:Of course not. They each have their own lives. "Sorry, you can't go to your basketball game because you have to sit around watching your brother's baseball game."

Wow, you're weird. Who here said "miss your own event to your sibling's event?" Oh, right. Nobody.

I think sometimes it can be really one sided. I was the older child by a lot and my sister did every sport known to man. I didn’t play any sports or have anything she had to go to. It was hell having to try to study while sitting through her sports games.

Anonymous wrote:"Sit through"? Try occasionally invest time in each other's lives.

Sorry but as a kid, I did a ton of dance, which my brother had zero interest in. He did a ton of tennis, which I had zero interest in. As adults neither of us do dance or tennis and we are invested in each other's lives and support each other. We "invested time in each others lives" by wandering into the other one's room and saying "What are you doing?" or both getting up early to eat breakfast and listen to Howard Stern. Or cutting high school together, or going to swim laps at the Y together each morning for an entire summer, or giving each other books we'd liked.

Yes sit through, bored, mostly on thier phone . They can support each without physically being there.
As long as one parent is there, my kid is happy - the whole family does not need to come, unless it's a something-out-ordinary event.

Not a chance. They are individuals, not joined at the hip.

"Sit through"? Try occasionally invest time in each other's lives.

No, they both do multiple sports. They are busy enough without having to sit through siblimg's events.

Anonymous wrote:Ideally yes. It can really make a difference in the older child *really* knowing the younger child as an individual. Know their friends. Their teachers, coaches. Their world. It's too easy for the older child to only see the younger child as someone who admired them. Always present at their things.

It matters when they are adults, when they are peers. They understand more about each other's younger lives.

I couldn't agree more with this. Our youngest is in HS and older two are in college. We really made an effort to work the logistics so that they could be there for each other as much as possible. Now as young adults, they're very supportive of one another -- we're really seen the blessing in that this year.

Of course not. They each have their own lives. "Sorry, you can't go to your basketball game because you have to sit around watching your brother's baseball game."

No, boring.