Oh my.. another Team DH here. You are the one who gave the ultimatum. How you have the gall to complain about his libido when you have given him this treatment for years is beyond me.. Good for you to get a taste of it, you will understand how awful it is to live with someone who has a lower libido and doesn’t care to change it.

He is right to tell you that he is not going to stop taking it if you don’t change your own efforts. The pill actually helps him not suffer from your rejection, in his shoes I would see it as a win win.

Woman here btw. I have been on both sides of this equation (the low libido compared to high libido partner and the higher libido than DH), and I REALLY understand the issue on both sides. It needs to be a compromise, meeting halfway, and the lower libido partner CAN do something to get himself/herself in the mood instead of just magically waiting for it to happen. I have been there and have no patience for those who cannot make the effort to understand their partners’ needs.

Relationships are hard and diverse. I took propecia, the libido killer also gave me brain fog and reduced my ejaculation. Suspending the drug did not make unwanted side effects disappear, I understand diferente people have different reactions. It was hell.

I always choose a healthy libido-strong body over hair. This includes exercise, play and fun.

What gets me, is that couples should meet each other halfway. I want 4 times a year and he 52, halfway is 28. This is compromise.

Do yourself a favor, figure out why you have such low libido and take care of it, get counseling.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He's cheating on you. His new hair is for whomever he's sleeping with, he's exaggerating his low libido, and he can't get it up because he's no longer attracted to you.

Certainly didn’t have that problem when my spouse had an AP. He was on me like white on rice, as always. But she was a once or twice a month variety (the less attractive kind) bang only.

So he cheated with someone less attractive? You must be a real doormat to take that and stay with him

This sounds made up.

Wow OP you sound horrible. Totally team DH here.

Anonymous wrote:He's cheating on you. His new hair is for whomever he's sleeping with, he's exaggerating his low libido, and he can't get it up because he's no longer attracted to you.

Certainly didn’t have that problem when my spouse had an AP. He was on me like white on rice, as always. But she was a once or twice a month variety (the less attractive kind) bang only.

Props to a DH standing up to their “low libido” wife!
I am female btw.
Enjoy being in his shoes

How hurtful do you think it is to him to hear you say that having sex with him a few times a month amounts to a “lose-lose” situation? No matter how much you compartmentalize and understand that your spouse’s low libido isn’t necessarily personal, it still cuts like a knife to the other person, especially if there was a phase where you used to have sex more often.

Anonymous wrote:“I told him he needs to stop taking Propecia immediately.”

So YOU gave HIM an ultimatum?

Yeah. I usually try to see both sides of a relationship story and not get overly judgmental based on the text of one post, but this one is just appalling. You gave him the ultimatum, after you got a single dose of what he has been putting up with for years. His hair gives him self-confidence and happiness, and it’s not worth it to him to give that up just to please you a few times a year.

He's cheating on you. His new hair is for whomever he's sleeping with, he's exaggerating his low libido, and he can't get it up because he's no longer attracted to you.

They both gave ultimatums, so let's stop being stupid here.

There are options here for the both of you, you could discuss with your doctor how to increase your libido. He could discuss with his doctor options that will grow his hair and not impact his libido.

Or you both could carry on like the children you are currently acting.

“I told him he needs to stop taking Propecia immediately.”

So YOU gave HIM an ultimatum?

S3x organs are use it or lose it. Yours won’t be able to perform either when you are older of you only use it a few times a year.

I would be appalled if I was asked to stop taking medication for sex once a month or once every two months. Maybe every week.

OP maybe he could take viagra or another ED drug.