Anonymous
Post 02/21/2021 12:10     Subject: Ex-husband is annoying
A polite but firm "no." The rest I would work on letting go as much as possible. He sounds kind of controlling with the whole drop off thing.
Anonymous
Post 02/21/2021 00:14     Subject: Ex-husband is annoying
Anonymous wrote:OP it's your house say no.

Period. This is not hard. Why are you obsessing about a guy that treated you poorly? Ignore move on say NO


Obsessing is quite the stretch, but thanks for taking the time. - OP
Anonymous
Post 02/21/2021 00:12     Subject: Ex-husband is annoying
Anonymous wrote:Why can’t this TV go in your sons room at his house?

Let me guess— your son doesn’t have a room at his house.

No, I don’t let strange men into my child’s bedroom and the fact that I was once married to them would not make a hint of difference.


No, he doesn't have a room at his house. He's lived two places since he left, our son hasn't had a room in either home.
Anonymous
Post 02/21/2021 00:11     Subject: Ex-husband is annoying
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I've been divorced for a little over a year. My ex-husband cheated/left for OP who he is still with, and now every month he thinks of some dumb reason to reach out to me. Sometimes he sorta nice, sometimes he angry and gruff. I really don't care about his mood because I'm over him, but it's annoying. Like, go play with your side chick and leave me alone! We have a place where we meet for visitation drop-offs because he absolutely refuses to drive our son home after visitation. It's been like this for the past 3+ years since he left. He insists that I meet him when it's a huge inconvenience to me since our child is a teen and can let himself in once he's dropped.

Now suddenly out of the blue he wants to buy our son a new TV and come to our house to mount it in our son's room. Why?!?! He hasn't been in my home since he got an appraisal done on it during our divorce over two years ago. Since he left, he has barely had visitation with our son and went almost a year without seeing him at all. Is this guilt?? Wth??

Your timeline is all over the place. WTH?


I said "during our divorce." It took two years because we were in and out of court a lot. We've been divorced for a little over a year now. - OP
Anonymous
Post 02/20/2021 19:52     Subject: Ex-husband is annoying
This sounds made up. He's the one who left you, is still with his Ap yet makes things difficult to be around you.. sure Jan
Anonymous
Post 02/20/2021 19:05     Subject: Ex-husband is annoying
Why can’t this TV go in your sons room at his house?

Let me guess— your son doesn’t have a room at his house.

No, I don’t let strange men into my child’s bedroom and the fact that I was once married to them would not make a hint of difference.
Anonymous
Post 02/20/2021 17:18     Subject: Ex-husband is annoying
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I've been divorced for a little over a year. My ex-husband cheated/left for OP who he is still with, and now every month he thinks of some dumb reason to reach out to me. Sometimes he sorta nice, sometimes he angry and gruff. I really don't care about his mood because I'm over him, but it's annoying. Like, go play with your side chick and leave me alone! We have a place where we meet for visitation drop-offs because he absolutely refuses to drive our son home after visitation. It's been like this for the past 3+ years since he left. He insists that I meet him when it's a huge inconvenience to me since our child is a teen and can let himself in once he's dropped.

Now suddenly out of the blue he wants to buy our son a new TV and come to our house to mount it in our son's room. Why?!?! He hasn't been in my home since he got an appraisal done on it during our divorce over two years ago. Since he left, he has barely had visitation with our son and went almost a year without seeing him at all. Is this guilt?? Wth??

Your timeline is all over the place. WTH?


People lie and troll here all the time. Outside of that, there are real posters that switch up a few details to have the broader discussion without identifying themselves.
Anonymous
Post 02/20/2021 17:08     Subject: Ex-husband is annoying
Anonymous wrote:I've been divorced for a little over a year. My ex-husband cheated/left for OP who he is still with, and now every month he thinks of some dumb reason to reach out to me. Sometimes he sorta nice, sometimes he angry and gruff. I really don't care about his mood because I'm over him, but it's annoying. Like, go play with your side chick and leave me alone! We have a place where we meet for visitation drop-offs because he absolutely refuses to drive our son home after visitation. It's been like this for the past 3+ years since he left. He insists that I meet him when it's a huge inconvenience to me since our child is a teen and can let himself in once he's dropped.

Now suddenly out of the blue he wants to buy our son a new TV and come to our house to mount it in our son's room. Why?!?! He hasn't been in my home since he got an appraisal done on it during our divorce over two years ago. Since he left, he has barely had visitation with our son and went almost a year without seeing him at all. Is this guilt?? Wth??

Your timeline is all over the place. WTH?
Anonymous
Post 02/20/2021 10:30     Subject: Ex-husband is annoying
Ha! I thought I was the only one whose ex would not get his kid a bed. He used to give him his own bed and sleep on the couch, but has moved closer and doesn’t want to do overnights since because it’s so easy to drop off and “he doesn’t have an extra bed”.
Anonymous
Post 02/20/2021 10:24     Subject: Ex-husband is annoying
Anonymous wrote:
This from a guy who cheated, remarried and purchased an expensive home with only two bedrooms although he has two kids and has never purchased any beds for them to use at his house. Ten years later, they still sleep on a sofa bed and an air mattress in his "office".


LOL mine is so much the same! When his new GF bought a big house he informed me he was cutting my child support because he would be giving her $300 a month for the children's bedroom. LOL no, it doesn't work like that.
Anonymous
Post 02/20/2021 09:48     Subject: Ex-husband is annoying
Say no. Set boundaries. Say to your DH, appreciate that you think this is a good idea, but I prefer to make my own decisions about my home.

Talk directly to your son also -- son, this is my home with you, your dad has a home and he is welcome to make decisions about home decor and TVs there.

I found that my DH, unreasonably, had expectations that my home was his since his kids lived there -- his to enter at any time, his to walk around as he pleased, his to make suggestions about how I decorated, etc.

I had to set firm boundaries with polite refusals.

This from a guy who cheated, remarried and purchased an expensive home with only two bedrooms although he has two kids and has never purchased any beds for them to use at his house. Ten years later, they still sleep on a sofa bed and an air mattress in his "office".
Anonymous
Post 02/20/2021 09:47     Subject: Ex-husband is annoying
Do you want the tv or no? If yes let him buy and Mount it; if not, say sorry it doesn’t work for me (I know how hard it is because my ex sounds like yours - it seems like his goal is to either inconvenience me or make me think about why on earth he would come up with a strange idea).
Maybe you can tell him oh yes let’s talk about it in a month and he will forget?
Anonymous
Post 02/20/2021 09:38     Subject: Ex-husband is annoying
Anonymous wrote:He can leave the tv with you at your drop-off location. That’s it. He can take it or leave it.


+1
Anonymous
Post 02/20/2021 09:33     Subject: Ex-husband is annoying
OP it's your house say no.

Period. This is not hard. Why are you obsessing about a guy that treated you poorly? Ignore move on say NO
Anonymous
Post 02/20/2021 09:30     Subject: Ex-husband is annoying
He doesn’t like thinking of himself as the bad guy, so he thinks if he’s doing “helpful” things he’s not a bad person.

That being said. I totally let mine do maintenance on my house (the one where our children are). Why should I I have to start doing that crap or paying someone to do it?