Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:My whole family is on screens all day long, after being a pretty strict screen-free household pre-pandemic.
What I don't allow is inane activities and websites. What I don't allow is any time whatsoever on Tiktok.
Sure. All the moms who say things like this have the kids who are doing the most inane crap online, because mom is naive.
The fact is not all kids and teens are going to be obsessed with screens or do these things online. I don't know why so many act like it's a given.
I would hope it’s not a given, but the situation over the past year has made it exponentially harder to stave off. Some of the devices and some of the apps/games are addictive by design, and when we’ve told them for the past year to do all of their schooling and socializing on these devices for their own safety, things just got a lot more complicated.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:My whole family is on screens all day long, after being a pretty strict screen-free household pre-pandemic.
What I don't allow is inane activities and websites. What I don't allow is any time whatsoever on Tiktok.
Sure. All the moms who say things like this have the kids who are doing the most inane crap online, because mom is naive.
The fact is not all kids and teens are going to be obsessed with screens or do these things online. I don't know why so many act like it's a given.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:My whole family is on screens all day long, after being a pretty strict screen-free household pre-pandemic.
What I don't allow is inane activities and websites. What I don't allow is any time whatsoever on Tiktok.
Sure. All the moms who say things like this have the kids who are doing the most inane crap online, because mom is naive.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:My whole family is on screens all day long, after being a pretty strict screen-free household pre-pandemic.
What I don't allow is inane activities and websites. What I don't allow is any time whatsoever on Tiktok.
Pray tell about this inanity filter you’ve discovered.
My rules and their word?
OP here. I see where you're coming from PP, and I too have blocked various websites that are particularly inane, and I'm also strict about the types of video games the kids can play. But there is an unlimited supply of inanity on the internet, and even when I block stuff (she only gets 15 minutes a day on Tiktok for example), her friends send her recordings through chat apps. Are you really able to filter out all the stupid stuff?
PP with rules and no filter (lol) here. I guess I don't actually have experience with the real problems you all are talking about, because my kid's 10 and doesn't really have online friends, so there's less pressure toward inanity.
Anonymous wrote:My whole family is on screens all day long, after being a pretty strict screen-free household pre-pandemic.
What I don't allow is inane activities and websites. What I don't allow is any time whatsoever on Tiktok.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:My whole family is on screens all day long, after being a pretty strict screen-free household pre-pandemic.
What I don't allow is inane activities and websites. What I don't allow is any time whatsoever on Tiktok.
Pray tell about this inanity filter you’ve discovered.
My rules and their word?
OP here. I see where you're coming from PP, and I too have blocked various websites that are particularly inane, and I'm also strict about the types of video games the kids can play. But there is an unlimited supply of inanity on the internet, and even when I block stuff (she only gets 15 minutes a day on Tiktok for example), her friends send her recordings through chat apps. Are you really able to filter out all the stupid stuff?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:We expect a reading break, exercise break and musical instrument break plus none at family meals. Are you sure she isn't seeing friends because the friends say no? We don't allow ours to see friends even outside so when you send your kid to our house trying to get a break, they get immediately sent home. Our open door policy is now very closed till Covid is better.
OP here. Only one friend has restrictions on outside gatherings, the other families are in the same boat, I know because I talk to the other parents and they for the most part are also trying to encourage their daughters to get off their phones and meet in person.
I started a thread about 12 year old girls yesterday and this has been my observation, too. They don’t seem to care at all about seeing each other in person, even when they’re allowed to. They’re totally content, if not way more comfortable, with the screen interactions.
Anonymous wrote:I'm having the same struggle. 10 year old is super extra social and when she is online she is laughing and interacting with her friends. I feel bad limiting her but the screens are becoming like an appendage. I am slowly dialing the unfettered access back and I'm hoping that as the weather gets nicer and the days get longer it will be easier.
13 year old DD would be a hermit if I let her. I know it's a combination of her introverted personality and her age but she would stay in her room on screens 24/7 if I let her. She is now forced to walk the dog 1x per day but man its tough to get her outside.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:We expect a reading break, exercise break and musical instrument break plus none at family meals. Are you sure she isn't seeing friends because the friends say no? We don't allow ours to see friends even outside so when you send your kid to our house trying to get a break, they get immediately sent home. Our open door policy is now very closed till Covid is better.
OP here. Only one friend has restrictions on outside gatherings, the other families are in the same boat, I know because I talk to the other parents and they for the most part are also trying to encourage their daughters to get off their phones and meet in person.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:We expect a reading break, exercise break and musical instrument break plus none at family meals. Are you sure she isn't seeing friends because the friends say no? We don't allow ours to see friends even outside so when you send your kid to our house trying to get a break, they get immediately sent home. Our open door policy is now very closed till Covid is better.
OP here. Only one friend has restrictions on outside gatherings, the other families are in the same boat, I know because I talk to the other parents and they for the most part are also trying to encourage their daughters to get off their phones and meet in person.
Anonymous wrote:We expect a reading break, exercise break and musical instrument break plus none at family meals. Are you sure she isn't seeing friends because the friends say no? We don't allow ours to see friends even outside so when you send your kid to our house trying to get a break, they get immediately sent home. Our open door policy is now very closed till Covid is better.