Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The OP says her husband has already had conversations with the kid. Now he needs a time-out. If you can't play the game appropriately even after explicitly being told how to, then you can't play the game.

Maybe OP and her DH didn't explicitly tell him what is appropriate behavior or how to behave differently. We don't know. In this type of situation the details matter.

By 11, a kid should know how to play nicely with others. This kid has been told by the other kids he's played with, and by his father. It seems like you just don't want to say "no" to your kid.

PP here with a different approach. Why is it about not being able to say "no" to your kid? The friends have complained to him enough times. Age 11 is when friendships start to shift. We all know where that is headed. The friends will drop him. Why get in the way of that? Just let it play out.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would stop allowing him to play. He needs to grow up. Have him stop for six months and then see if he's matured any.

As opposed to just having a conversation with the kid??? Seriously?

The OP says her husband has already had conversations with the kid. Now he needs a time-out. If you can't play the game appropriately even after explicitly being told how to, then you can't play the game.

Maybe OP and her DH didn't explicitly tell him what is appropriate behavior or how to behave differently. We don't know. In this type of situation the details matter.

By 11, a kid should know how to play nicely with others. This kid has been told by the other kids he's played with, and by his father. It seems like you just don't want to say "no" to your kid.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would stop allowing him to play. He needs to grow up. Have him stop for six months and then see if he's matured any.

As opposed to just having a conversation with the kid??? Seriously?

The OP says her husband has already had conversations with the kid. Now he needs a time-out. If you can't play the game appropriately even after explicitly being told how to, then you can't play the game.

Maybe OP and her DH didn't explicitly tell him what is appropriate behavior or how to behave differently. We don't know. In this type of situation the details matter.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would stop allowing him to play. He needs to grow up. Have him stop for six months and then see if he's matured any.

As opposed to just having a conversation with the kid??? Seriously?

The OP says her husband has already had conversations with the kid. Now he needs a time-out. If you can't play the game appropriately even after explicitly being told how to, then you can't play the game.