Anonymous
02/16/2021 08:40
Subject: You just wanted to talk to them; happy to oblige!
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:So annoying. I'm sorry, and seriously, good for you. You are doing more than most, including me, would do.
At the same time, possible that they feel like they don't want to burden you (I think the same thing about the MIL who said, I am here to see the baby, not you). I.e., could they feel like they wanted to leave you off the hook for being entertaining while having a newborn, etc.?
At best misguided and probably your instinct is 100% on, and it's rude.
Why do we do this to each other, as women? WHY? It's like we try to gaslight each other to make it seem that shitty treatment isn't shitty treatment.
A MIL who won't "endure" two minutes of small talk from her DIL who is facilitating grandkid time doesn't give a fig about her DIL. Point blank period. Stop with your fiction and your excuses. Just stop.
PP you are quoting. I swear I am not trying to gaslight - I'm trying to suggest the possibility that the benefit of the doubt or an alternative. And like I said, at best misguided and likely rude. But I know I have come across this way myself because of good intentions.
Really do stop. If someone literally doesn’t say hello to you when you are doing them a favor, that’s rude. If someone greets you and asks briefly about the weather, and you CUT THEM OFF to tell them you don’t want to talk to them, that is just rude!
Anonymous
02/15/2021 23:05
Subject: You just wanted to talk to them; happy to oblige!
That is so rude! If it were your own parents you could laugh it off with them hopefully and not be offended. But the in-laws? No. So rude I’m sorry. My mother in law did something not nearly as annoying the other day and it still bothered me.
Anonymous
02/15/2021 23:02
Subject: You just wanted to talk to them; happy to oblige!
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:So annoying. I'm sorry, and seriously, good for you. You are doing more than most, including me, would do.
At the same time, possible that they feel like they don't want to burden you (I think the same thing about the MIL who said, I am here to see the baby, not you). I.e., could they feel like they wanted to leave you off the hook for being entertaining while having a newborn, etc.?
At best misguided and probably your instinct is 100% on, and it's rude.
Why do we do this to each other, as women? WHY? It's like we try to gaslight each other to make it seem that shitty treatment isn't shitty treatment.
A MIL who won't "endure" two minutes of small talk from her DIL who is facilitating grandkid time doesn't give a fig about her DIL. Point blank period. Stop with your fiction and your excuses. Just stop.
PP you are quoting. I swear I am not trying to gaslight - I'm trying to suggest the possibility that the benefit of the doubt or an alternative. And like I said, at best misguided and likely rude. But I know I have come across this way myself because of good intentions.
Anonymous
02/15/2021 22:33
Subject: You just wanted to talk to them; happy to oblige!
OP, this is amazing. Well done.
Anonymous
02/15/2021 21:14
Subject: You just wanted to talk to them; happy to oblige!
I think it's genius and I not see anything to talk with your DH about. They made a request and you're honoring it. It's called natural consequences. They can call DH if they want, otherwise the get the kids and only the kids, exactly as requested.
Anonymous
02/15/2021 21:06
Subject: You just wanted to talk to them; happy to oblige!
Anonymous wrote:So annoying. I'm sorry, and seriously, good for you. You are doing more than most, including me, would do.
At the same time, possible that they feel like they don't want to burden you (I think the same thing about the MIL who said, I am here to see the baby, not you). I.e., could they feel like they wanted to leave you off the hook for being entertaining while having a newborn, etc.?
At best misguided and probably your instinct is 100% on, and it's rude.
Why do we do this to each other, as women? WHY? It's like we try to gaslight each other to make it seem that shitty treatment isn't shitty treatment.
A MIL who won't "endure" two minutes of small talk from her DIL who is facilitating grandkid time doesn't give a fig about her DIL. Point blank period. Stop with your fiction and your excuses. Just stop.
Anonymous
02/15/2021 20:51
Subject: You just wanted to talk to them; happy to oblige!
Yes this is my issue with FaceTime. Grandparents say that they’re babysitting the kids while talking. Except I have to sit there too bribing my kids, managing the phone. It’s just a big effing hassle. God I hate FaceTime.
Anonymous
02/15/2021 20:14
Subject: You just wanted to talk to them; happy to oblige!
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:How old are your girls? Sounds hilarious.
Good for you, op!
5.5 and 3
And yes, what I hear is fairly funny. There’s a lot of “showing Grandma” something, and they’re just shouting and covering the camera with half a finger.
You want just the girls? Your wish is my command!
Haha!!!
Perfect, OP!
Anonymous
02/15/2021 20:11
Subject: You just wanted to talk to them; happy to oblige!
I don’t blame you at all. Hopefully, she will realize her rudeness and apologize to you.
Anonymous
02/15/2021 20:07
Subject: You just wanted to talk to them; happy to oblige!
So annoying. I'm sorry, and seriously, good for you. You are doing more than most, including me, would do.
At the same time, possible that they feel like they don't want to burden you (I think the same thing about the MIL who said, I am here to see the baby, not you). I.e., could they feel like they wanted to leave you off the hook for being entertaining while having a newborn, etc.?
At best misguided and probably your instinct is 100% on, and it's rude.
At the same time, possible that they feel like they don't want to burden you (I think the same thing about the MIL who said, I am here to see the baby, not you). I.e., could they feel like they wanted to leave you off the hook for being entertaining while having a newborn, etc.?
At best misguided and probably your instinct is 100% on, and it's rude.
Anonymous
02/15/2021 18:47
Subject: You just wanted to talk to them; happy to oblige!
Anonymous wrote:Honestly, you deserve a lot of credit for answeringn the phone at all after that. I don't think I would.
+1
Anonymous
02/15/2021 18:18
Subject: You just wanted to talk to them; happy to oblige!
Anonymous wrote:Good for you OP, that's so rude & annoying on your ILs part.
+1.
Anonymous
02/15/2021 18:14
Subject: You just wanted to talk to them; happy to oblige!
I can't believe how rude she was. That is great though, your kids will slowly work things out.
I still can't get over that they actually said to you that they didn't want to talk to you, to your face.
I still can't get over that they actually said to you that they didn't want to talk to you, to your face.
Anonymous
02/15/2021 18:12
Subject: Re:You just wanted to talk to them; happy to oblige!
Damn, girl, you are my hero!
Anonymous
02/15/2021 18:09
Subject: You just wanted to talk to them; happy to oblige!
Good for you, OP! I should have shown my MIL the door when she literally said to new mom me: "I'm here to see (baby), not you!"
I'm proud of you, OP!
Some people are broken, and their broken isn't our broken.
I'm proud of you, OP!
Some people are broken, and their broken isn't our broken.