Anonymous wrote:My DH isn’t super successful like this guy, but plenty successful (biglaw partner) and I am hardly employable (SAHM with an advanced degree but out of the workforce for a long time). We didn’t start out this way, in fact I’m older so he was into my career by the time he finished law school. But I do still feel awkward when I think about it. I always thought I would be successful like him, and, well, I’m not.

But I try not to compare, and I’m getting close to believing DH when he says that all work in a partnership is equally valuable. Income and success are nothing in the grand scheme of things. What truly matters is relationships and other ways to make life meaningful.

But it’s a process! And not easy. But like most hard things, it’s worth it. Even if things don’t progress with this guy, I would do this inner work to separate success from your personal worth as a human being.

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Anonymous wrote:So I recently met this guy online (both of us divorced) and we've been talking. He's mentioned his work here and there but never really got into specific details. Anyways recently he finally told me what he really does - he's the President & CEO of a large company. He shared his online profiles and I found out he also sits on several boards. Me, on the other hand - I have a decent but average job at a Fortune 500 but I'm no rockstar. He's very down to earth and not flashy or braggy at all, but now I feel like my career just pales in comparison and I'm feeling a little self conscious.

He's really nice and we have been taking it slow and its still early on so might not even go anywhere. Anyone who's been in a similar situation, how did you navigate it? Did it create a weird dynamic in the relationship?

Are you saying that you never googled him before him telling you what he did?

Come on...

OP here. No because he gave me a different first name initially. I never asked for a last name and didn't give mine either. Just never came up. I figured all of that would come out eventually. I knew he was 'a' boss at work, I didn't know he was THE boss.

Anonymous wrote:I dated someone who was more accomplished in a way that made him famous-ish, but we made similar incomes. I value my privacy too much for his lifestyle, but he was very supportive of my career in a different field and is a good man. I think as long as the 'more accomplished' party doesn't diminish the career of the other it can be fine. In my case it was easy because he was very taken by what I do and our day to day was so different that there was always lots to talk about in a way that felt reciprocal. Be genuine and for the first little while try not to bring up his work unless he does first so he realizes that you care about him as a person and not just what he does.

Anonymous wrote:This story sounds awfully familiar. Someone asked a very similar question in the past year, I'm pretty sure.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m married to a prominent public official. For our second date he invited me to an event at the White House and I remember being overwhelmed (and too shy to attend).

I’m perfectly accomplished, with fancy degrees, but nothing compared to my husband.

But if the chemistry is there and you’re self-confident enough, the difference in success won’t be a factor.

And despite my husband’s relative success, I still get on his case about things like the dishes.

Hope it works out for you.

Jill?

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Anonymous wrote:So I recently met this guy online (both of us divorced) and we've been talking. He's mentioned his work here and there but never really got into specific details. Anyways recently he finally told me what he really does - he's the President & CEO of a large company. He shared his online profiles and I found out he also sits on several boards. Me, on the other hand - I have a decent but average job at a Fortune 500 but I'm no rockstar. He's very down to earth and not flashy or braggy at all, but now I feel like my career just pales in comparison and I'm feeling a little self conscious.

He's really nice and we have been taking it slow and its still early on so might not even go anywhere. Anyone who's been in a similar situation, how did you navigate it? Did it create a weird dynamic in the relationship?

Are you saying that you never googled him before him telling you what he did?

Come on...

Anonymous wrote:So I recently met this guy online (both of us divorced) and we've been talking. He's mentioned his work here and there but never really got into specific details. Anyways recently he finally told me what he really does - he's the President & CEO of a large company. He shared his online profiles and I found out he also sits on several boards. Me, on the other hand - I have a decent but average job at a Fortune 500 but I'm no rockstar. He's very down to earth and not flashy or braggy at all, but now I feel like my career just pales in comparison and I'm feeling a little self conscious.

He's really nice and we have been taking it slow and its still early on so might not even go anywhere. Anyone who's been in a similar situation, how did you navigate it? Did it create a weird dynamic in the relationship?

Anonymous wrote:I’m married to a prominent public official. For our second date he invited me to an event at the White House and I remember being overwhelmed (and too shy to attend).

I’m perfectly accomplished, with fancy degrees, but nothing compared to my husband.

But if the chemistry is there and you’re self-confident enough, the difference in success won’t be a factor.

And despite my husband’s relative success, I still get on his case about things like the dishes.

Hope it works out for you.

Anonymous wrote:Just remember, we all sit on a toilet and use toilet paper.

We really aren’t all that different.