Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We are paying her $21 an hour.

And not paying her any benefits or leave. In effect you're halving the compensation that a regular nanny would get when you should have been topping it off.

Its not for you to judge if she 'needs' the money or not. You need the care and you pay for it.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

The going rate for an actual professional nanny in this area is $20-$25/hr. So if she's not cleaning up your daughter's plates and calling out - there's your reason why.

I don't think this is true. We have a college kid as a FT nanny and pay $20/hour plus time-and-a-half overtime. It took us months to get her to a basic level of cleaning up after the kids and even now it's spotty. She's used to her parents cleaning up after her and doesn't even realize that she's left a mess.

For example, as a favor we let her use our house for a weekend so she could have space from her parents while we were gone. We came home to fast food wrappers all over the counter. It didn't even occur to her to put them in the trash. It's the same thing after she feeds the kids lunch.
It never occurs to her to clean up. She also stays with us in a guest room several nights a week and on several occasions we've had to wake her up for work at 8 AM. She says she forgot to set an alarm. It's totally a maturity thing. We've kept working with her on these things and it has gotten better, but if there wasn't a pandemic-induced childcare shortage we'd probably have moved on to someone else last fall.

You call it maturity. I call it inexperience. An experienced, professional nanny would know not to agree to stay at your house so you can 'wake her up' for work at 8AM without overnight rates.

Every hour in your house is a paid hour. The fact that you're phrasing it is a favor to her is all I need to know.

No, every hour in our house isn't a paid hour. That's not how it works with live in help. She's working only when she's working. When she's not working, she is off duty. We provide a room because the commute to her parent's house is a bit long and she wants to save money for school instead of getting an apartment. We don't need her to stay here, but she wanted to so we agreed she could use a bedroom. It certainly wasn't so we could wake her up for work.

You clearly are inexperienced with live in help.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

The going rate for an actual professional nanny in this area is $20-$25/hr. So if she's not cleaning up your daughter's plates and calling out - there's your reason why.

I don't think this is true. We have a college kid as a FT nanny and pay $20/hour plus time-and-a-half overtime. It took us months to get her to a basic level of cleaning up after the kids and even now it's spotty. She's used to her parents cleaning up after her and doesn't even realize that she's left a mess.

For example, as a favor we let her use our house for a weekend so she could have space from her parents while we were gone. We came home to fast food wrappers all over the counter. It didn't even occur to her to put them in the trash. It's the same thing after she feeds the kids lunch.
It never occurs to her to clean up. She also stays with us in a guest room several nights a week and on several occasions we've had to wake her up for work at 8 AM. She says she forgot to set an alarm. It's totally a maturity thing. We've kept working with her on these things and it has gotten better, but if there wasn't a pandemic-induced childcare shortage we'd probably have moved on to someone else last fall.

You call it maturity. I call it inexperience. An experienced, professional nanny would know not to agree to stay at your house so you can 'wake her up' for work at 8AM without overnight rates.

Every hour in your house is a paid hour. The fact that you're phrasing it is a favor to her is all I need to know.

Anonymous wrote:I’m the OP and yes we only needed about 25 hours a week and honestly didn’t want to have a share due to space. We are paying her a competitive rate for one toddler. We definitely talked to professional nannies but they all understandably needed full time.
We also thought it would only need her last fall, but sadly no daycare spots have opened for us and she is available. It’s only frustrating because as far as a part time job goes we ask her to take our daughter out when the weather is nice, feed her lunch and provide general care and pick up toys.
Agree though that it may be time to just have a conversation.

I also think she doesn’t really need the job, and the money she makes is just for fun since it’s not like she has rent/mortgage or healthcare at her age.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We are paying her $21 an hour.

And not paying her any benefits or leave. In effect you're halving the compensation that a regular nanny would get when you should have been topping it off.

Its not for you to judge if she 'needs' the money or not. You need the care and you pay for it.

Anonymous wrote:

The going rate for an actual professional nanny in this area is $20-$25/hr. So if she's not cleaning up your daughter's plates and calling out - there's your reason why.

I don't think this is true. We have a college kid as a FT nanny and pay $20/hour plus time-and-a-half overtime. It took us months to get her to a basic level of cleaning up after the kids and even now it's spotty. She's used to her parents cleaning up after her and doesn't even realize that she's left a mess.

For example, as a favor we let her use our house for a weekend so she could have space from her parents while we were gone. We came home to fast food wrappers all over the counter. It didn't even occur to her to put them in the trash. It's the same thing after she feeds the kids lunch.
It never occurs to her to clean up. She also stays with us in a guest room several nights a week and on several occasions we've had to wake her up for work at 8 AM. She says she forgot to set an alarm. It's totally a maturity thing. We've kept working with her on these things and it has gotten better, but if there wasn't a pandemic-induced childcare shortage we'd probably have moved on to someone else last fall.

The going rate for an actual professional nanny in this area is $20-$25/hr. So if she's not cleaning up your daughter's plates and calling out - there's your reason why.

Anonymous wrote:We are paying her $21 an hour.

Anonymous wrote:We have a part time nanny who our daughter really likes, but she is not that great of a worker. She leaves the lunch on the high chair until well after lunch and often doesn't bring the stroller safely back inside. She also is 50-50 on whether or not she actually picks up the play area.

When we hired her we specified the only housework we needed completed was cleaning up after lunch and picking up the play area. My husband and I are both working from home so we also have been incredibly flexible with her if she has an appointment or needs to flex time and we provide lunch daily which I think most people do, but I am not sure.

We are paying her above board with a payroll system. She is a college student and living at home in D.C. while she completes school remotely. We pay her for hours worked, so there is not a PTO or sick leave policy.

Lately she has become increasingly unreliable, within the past month or so. We cannot decide if we need to let her go, or if we should stick with what we have. She frequently will text the night before or early morning letting us know she can't make it for one reason or another. We realize we have a rare set up with a part time nanny that we only have to pay for hours worked...and not provide leave, but I cannot help but wonder if there are more reliable college students out there who would love to work 5-6 hours a day making well over minimum wage.