No child is going to scream at me in my own house and then, get his way. Why aren’t you willing to take anything away from him? Don’t simply blame Covid, I suspect you lost control long ago.

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Anonymous wrote:Obnoxious, disrespectful and nasty? Eye rolling didn’t ever bother me, but disrespectful?? Nope. Their life (as they know it) would change. What exactly is your child doing/saying? Can you give examples? Is he generally unhappy due to Covid and DL?

He will come and scream if I put time limits on his games, use cuss words to us, act like how we are ruining his life. Anything I say is taken in a wrong spirit and would snap at me. defnitely a lot of this has to do with COVID and all the isolation. He changed schools and hasn't been able to make friends at the new school so part of it is that. He just spents all day in his room, despite of us trying to persuade him to get some fresh air. Again, he is not bad bad. He is trying to keep his grades up (so they are not as well as they were in previous years), taking hard courses, plays sports, etc. Just seems to be in a very mood all the time with his brother and Dad and especially me.

If your son is screaming at you about video game limits, the appropriate “shock and awe” inducing response would be to take the machine, drive to the local dumpster and trash it.

On the drive over, you might consider the example you set in the way you treated him over the years, along with any other part your conduct may be playing in the circumstances.

With Pandemic and online school, its hard to take the devices away and put permanent ban on the internet.

Yes, I often think what I did wrong in my upbringing. We have tried our best in raising them the way we knew best. He lives in a happy household where he has easy access to everything. I changed my job to wfh so that I could drive them to their activities when they were little. He has all the comforts of life, goes to private school, etc. We are not perfect people in anyway but tried our best in raising them. The only thing I can think of is they got everything very easily and do not appreciate the privileges. That being said I am sure there are aspects that I missed in raising him. However I am not sure what I would do differently if I have to redo this.

Anonymous wrote:19 year old boys .. I mean, young men ... are not meant to be home.

Even 18 is stretching it

True, but let us get out of the pandemic first.