Anonymous wrote:Talk to your ob. Maybe she can declare you an “emergency” and clear the room for the birth.

Umm no. Do not do this.

I guess my question is - why not separate at this point? Sounds like you're unhappy, therapy has been ineffective, and you want to divorce at this point. If that's the case, separate now. And then, I think it's totally reasonable to ask that he not be there (in the room) at the birth, although I think it would be reasonable for him to be in the waiting room so he gets to meet the baby basically immediately after.

Overall, if you still have some hope you can save the marriage, asking him not to be in the delivery room would be hard to come back from. But if you're ready to be out, then get out. I don't see how that gets easier once the baby is here (especially if he's not helpful anyway).

Sounds like a tough situation sorry for that. I'd ask someone who knows doctor and or lawyer about who would make medical decisions for you and the baby if he is not there and if you need to sign some paperwork so the person you prefer can make such decisions in the moment if you can't.

I would definitely talk to your OB. Hugs.

Anonymous wrote:I’m so sorry OP. Could you blame Covid restrictions? Partners can’t leave and come back and you don’t want the other kids without a parent for that long....?

+1 to blame covid/see if your OB can impose some rules.

I’m so sorry OP. Could you blame Covid restrictions? Partners can’t leave and come back and you don’t want the other kids without a parent for that long....?