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Anonymous wrote:How long have you tried on your own?

About 6 months. Then my mom got cancer and I had no libido because of stress.

Get yourself to an RE.

Thank you, we are going next month.
Is IUI possible or I will need IVF right away?

Don’t waste time with iui. Unfortunately I know from experience. I did have hard egg shells like pp said. Icsi did the trick. I’m sorry about your mom. Good luck.

How did you find that out? (Hard egg shells)

39 and one try. Good luck!

Anonymous wrote:Those are just averages, OP. Your chances could be lower or higher. I did IVF at 41 and only needed one try. Good luck!

these are indeed averages. I was given similar numbers by my RE. Prior to that one blighted ovum trying on our own. 7 IVFs (ivfs, not FETs) between ages 39 and 42 - 1 pregnancy with miscarriage at 12 weeks. Donor eggs - 2 FETs from 1 donor - nothing. On 2nd FET from 2nd donor - I had my DC at 45. No male factor, DH is younger than me and is a picture of good health. I had unexplained diagnosis all along. No endometriosis, no PSOS, no health issues. Life is like a box of chocolates - you never know what you're going to get.

At your ages I would not even bother with IUI. I would go straight to IVF. It’s simply the fastest path to potential success.

FWIW, my husband and I did infertility treatments dealing with unexplained infertility. We were younger than you and your DH. Everything was absolutely perfect on paper and there was no reason why it was not working, other than sometimes it just doesn’t work. IVF was the only thing that worked for us, and even with that it took three cycles to have a baby (after many IUIs).

I would go in expecting the worst outcome, that it will not work, and preparing for the best outcome, that it will happen but maybe not the first or second try.

Those are just averages, OP. Your chances could be lower or higher. I did IVF at 41 and only needed one try. Good luck!

Anonymous wrote:New poster here - do the odds go up if someone is in this scenario but has been pregnant before, ie secondary infertility? Been trying for one year, but had one miscarriage in that window. I also have a son, so have been pregnant two times before. In the middle of testing but so far everything coming back "normal".

Yes esp with the same partner

I would not waste time with IUIs at 39

It's hard to know know your cycle will go. Some women get an amazing response the first time, others have multiple failed cycles

Anonymous wrote:New poster here - do the odds go up if someone is in this scenario but has been pregnant before, ie secondary infertility? Been trying for one year, but had one miscarriage in that window. I also have a son, so have been pregnant two times before. In the middle of testing but so far everything coming back "normal".

The odds do go up but it’s not a guarantee. Things change. I got pregnant twice on the first try and gave birth to two healthy kids, but never got pregnant again after 5 years of trying.