If drinking alcohol is causing a problem, the solution is to talk about it and maybe quit drinking. It's not worth arguing. If it's offered while having friends over say no thank you and watch how happy your husband will be. You really don't need to drink to have a nice time. But if you choose booze over your husband your marriage will fall apart.

The smell of liquor on someone's breath is gross. Your husband is telling you he doesn't want you to drink and you're defensive because you do.

To me the choice is easy but I don't need to drink.

OP, I think he's hyper attuned to any alcohol consumption due to the recent deaths. Try not take too personally, hopefully it's temporary.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You're doing cocktails on a weekday at home? Your friends came over today to drink beers?

Are you writing from a monastery?

Pretty much! I honestly didn’t know people were hanging out indoors with friends. For the cocktail part, if my husband was doing multiple cocktails by himself on a week night, I would definitely comment on that.

You have a very strict view of alcohol. Last night I had a beer, tonight two glasses of wine. Tomorrow I may drink something, I may not. It’s all good. There’s no problem.

You're doing cocktails on a weekday at home? Your friends came over today to drink beers?

The horror!

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DCUM is the worst. My husband suddenly doesn’t like alcohol = YOU must be an alcoholic!

It's more like my husband lost his parents in a short amount of time, his parents were alcoholics, he's now concerned about my drinking. Instead of being concerned about my husband, I'm upset about losing drinking time, but I don't have a problem with alcohol.

Chill on the OP. We are in a pandemic and she wants a drink. People need to grow
Up and get over their sad childhoods. Get some therapy but dont ruin it for everyone else.

You definitely have a problem with alcohol.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DCUM is the worst. My husband suddenly doesn’t like alcohol = YOU must be an alcoholic!

It's more like my husband lost his parents in a short amount of time, his parents were alcoholics, he's now concerned about my drinking. Instead of being concerned about my husband, I'm upset about losing drinking time, but I don't have a problem with alcohol.

You're extrapolating. Nobody said they were upset about losing "drinking time." But having your spouse suddenly critical is a life-altering change. Read thru the lens of facts, not your own preconceptions, emotions, or bias.

That's literally what the OP said. However, you ignoring that because you don't like that people are saying OP should be less concerned about drinking with friends and more concerned about her husband. You may have a problem with alcohol too, pp and that clouding your lens.

Chances are much higher that you would have a drinking problem because he is at home in that kind of chaos. If you do t have an issue, lay off for his sake. If you can’t do this easily, there is your answer.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DCUM is the worst. My husband suddenly doesn’t like alcohol = YOU must be an alcoholic!

It's more like my husband lost his parents in a short amount of time, his parents were alcoholics, he's now concerned about my drinking. Instead of being concerned about my husband, I'm upset about losing drinking time, but I don't have a problem with alcohol.

You're extrapolating. Nobody said they were upset about losing "drinking time." But having your spouse suddenly critical is a life-altering change. Read thru the lens of facts, not your own preconceptions, emotions, or bias.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DCUM is the worst. My husband suddenly doesn’t like alcohol = YOU must be an alcoholic!

It's more like my husband lost his parents in a short amount of time, his parents were alcoholics, he's now concerned about my drinking. Instead of being concerned about my husband, I'm upset about losing drinking time, but I don't have a problem with alcohol.

Chill on the OP. We are in a pandemic and she wants a drink. People need to grow
Up and get over their sad childhoods. Get some therapy but dont ruin it for everyone else.

Anonymous wrote:DCUM is the worst. My husband suddenly doesn’t like alcohol = YOU must be an alcoholic!

It's more like my husband lost his parents in a short amount of time, his parents were alcoholics, he's now concerned about my drinking. Instead of being concerned about my husband, I'm upset about losing drinking time, but I don't have a problem with alcohol.

DCUM is the worst. My husband suddenly doesn’t like alcohol = YOU must be an alcoholic!

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You're doing cocktails on a weekday at home? Your friends came over today to drink beers?

Are you writing from a monastery?

Pretty much! I honestly didn’t know people were hanging out indoors with friends. For the cocktail part, if my husband was doing multiple cocktails by himself on a week night, I would definitely comment on that.

This is the OP. We hang out outdoors, by a bonfire. Where did you read that we were inside?

I was assuming since it’s so cold. I’ll take that back! How old are you guys? Any kids? I can relate to your husband because it bothers me when my husband drinks at home. It’s not a good habit too keep past a certain age IMO. And then of course he passes out on the couch and snores. Lol. There’s the calories too.

Anonymous wrote:Children of alcoholics have different reactions to drinking and your husbands’ sounds similar to mine. I get worried when people are drinking more than a couple drinks around me.

I can’t even imagine how terrible it would be if both parents were alcoholics. Please stop thinking of yourself and tone it down. Your husband needs your understanding, not a whiny post about how you can’t have your wine time with the girls.

Are you arguing that someone married to the child of alcoholics should also abstain? Shouldn't that be something a couple agrees upon when they marry or at least down the line, brought up by the spouse with the alcoholic parents? Having a couple drinks with friends isn't acting out - not sure there is something to tone down. It's normal social behavior.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You're doing cocktails on a weekday at home? Your friends came over today to drink beers?

Are you writing from a monastery?

Pretty much! I honestly didn’t know people were hanging out indoors with friends. For the cocktail part, if my husband was doing multiple cocktails by himself on a week night, I would definitely comment on that.

This is the OP. We hang out outdoors, by a bonfire. Where did you read that we were inside?

Children of alcoholics have different reactions to drinking and your husbands’ sounds similar to mine. I get worried when people are drinking more than a couple drinks around me.

I can’t even imagine how terrible it would be if both parents were alcoholics. Please stop thinking of yourself and tone it down. Your husband needs your understanding, not a whiny post about how you can’t have your wine time with the girls.