Anonymous
Post 12/24/2020 15:02     Subject: DH brought home a 4 month old puppy from hell!
Will he rehome the puppy if it’s you or the dog? I second Homeward Trails. Call them ASAP.
Anonymous
Post 12/24/2020 15:00     Subject: Re:DH brought home a 4 month old puppy from hell!
Anonymous wrote:My DH will NEVER rehome her! He flat out refuses. Meanwhile I’m spending more and more time away from the two of them so that I can have some peace in my life. I’m a gourmet cook and now I’m constantly screaming at a animal that can literally easily jump up on kitchen counter and steal food she’s so big! I literally dread when he gets home from work now. I use to get excited but now it just means all hell is gonna break lose in the house. Also she’s been barking in her crate at 3am now so I’m not getting my much needed sleep. The solution for that is for me to sleep in guest room and she can sleep next to him on her dog bed. I’m wondering how long my DH will be ok with the new dynamics in our marriage?? Less and less time together and sleeping in separate bedrooms . Of course this is until she “calms down”. Hahaha .


So you’ve received some thoughtful responses about re-homing as well as daycare and a trainer. Yet your solution is to complain some more and sleep in the guest room. You and your husband are both immature and lack communication skills. Good luck with your approach.
Anonymous
Post 12/24/2020 14:53     Subject: Re:DH brought home a 4 month old puppy from hell!
Anonymous wrote:My DH will NEVER rehome her! He flat out refuses. Meanwhile I’m spending more and more time away from the two of them so that I can have some peace in my life. I’m a gourmet cook and now I’m constantly screaming at a animal that can literally easily jump up on kitchen counter and steal food she’s so big! I literally dread when he gets home from work now. I use to get excited but now it just means all hell is gonna break lose in the house. Also she’s been barking in her crate at 3am now so I’m not getting my much needed sleep. The solution for that is for me to sleep in guest room and she can sleep next to him on her dog bed. I’m wondering how long my DH will be ok with the new dynamics in our marriage?? Less and less time together and sleeping in separate bedrooms . Of course this is until she “calms down”. Hahaha .

Your DH is a jerk.
Anonymous
Post 12/24/2020 14:49     Subject: Re:DH brought home a 4 month old puppy from hell!
Anonymous wrote:My DH will NEVER rehome her! He flat out refuses. Meanwhile I’m spending more and more time away from the two of them so that I can have some peace in my life. I’m a gourmet cook and now I’m constantly screaming at a animal that can literally easily jump up on kitchen counter and steal food she’s so big! I literally dread when he gets home from work now. I use to get excited but now it just means all hell is gonna break lose in the house. Also she’s been barking in her crate at 3am now so I’m not getting my much needed sleep. The solution for that is for me to sleep in guest room and she can sleep next to him on her dog bed. I’m wondering how long my DH will be ok with the new dynamics in our marriage?? Less and less time together and sleeping in separate bedrooms . Of course this is until she “calms down”. Hahaha .


I think you need to go to therapy with your DH. At some point, your only option is to leave if he is that disrespectful of you.
Anonymous
Post 12/24/2020 14:48     Subject: Re:DH brought home a 4 month old puppy from hell!
Anonymous wrote:My DH will NEVER rehome her! He flat out refuses. Meanwhile I’m spending more and more time away from the two of them so that I can have some peace in my life. I’m a gourmet cook and now I’m constantly screaming at a animal that can literally easily jump up on kitchen counter and steal food she’s so big! I literally dread when he gets home from work now. I use to get excited but now it just means all hell is gonna break lose in the house. Also she’s been barking in her crate at 3am now so I’m not getting my much needed sleep. The solution for that is for me to sleep in guest room and she can sleep next to him on her dog bed. I’m wondering how long my DH will be ok with the new dynamics in our marriage?? Less and less time together and sleeping in separate bedrooms . Of course this is until she “calms down”. Hahaha .


I would seriously move out of the house until he came up with an acceptable solution to the mess he created.
Anonymous
Post 12/24/2020 14:47     Subject: DH brought home a 4 month old puppy from hell!
Board and train is not going to solve for the exercise this dog needs. A large breed puppy is a huge lifestyle change- we have an 80lb 9 month old lab who needs 4-5 miles a day total. Plus dog park time. Rehome the dog if DH can’t even throw the ball. There are plenty of families out there who would kill for a puppy.
Anonymous
Post 12/24/2020 14:41     Subject: Re:DH brought home a 4 month old puppy from hell!
My DH will NEVER rehome her! He flat out refuses. Meanwhile I’m spending more and more time away from the two of them so that I can have some peace in my life. I’m a gourmet cook and now I’m constantly screaming at a animal that can literally easily jump up on kitchen counter and steal food she’s so big! I literally dread when he gets home from work now. I use to get excited but now it just means all hell is gonna break lose in the house. Also she’s been barking in her crate at 3am now so I’m not getting my much needed sleep. The solution for that is for me to sleep in guest room and she can sleep next to him on her dog bed. I’m wondering how long my DH will be ok with the new dynamics in our marriage?? Less and less time together and sleeping in separate bedrooms . Of course this is until she “calms down”. Hahaha .
Anonymous
Post 12/24/2020 12:34     Subject: Re:DH brought home a 4 month old puppy from hell!
Get a trainer ASAP.

Board and train is pointless if the owners don’t learn and follow through with the program.

If you both aren’t on board, then rehome before he gets too big and too untrained.
Anonymous
Post 12/24/2020 12:07     Subject: DH brought home a 4 month old puppy from hell!
So, your idiot husband can just bring a dog home without your consent, but, you can’t do anything about it because he won’t give permission????

So, first, grow a spine.

Then either call a rescue group and rehome OR send her away to board and train.

Stop whining and fix the problem and tell your husband to get bent...if he’s as lazy and worthless as you say, it’s not like he’s going to leave you.
Anonymous
Post 12/24/2020 11:59     Subject: DH brought home a 4 month old puppy from hell!
Rehome now. And read Decoding Your Dog by the american vet behaviorist assoc. In the meantime. Poor puppy.
Anonymous
Post 12/24/2020 09:54     Subject: DH brought home a 4 month old puppy from hell!
OP- I'm sorry, a dog is a joint decision and it needs to be discussed and planned carefully. I learned this the hard way a decade ago. I wanted a dog, my DH didn't. We agreed to the dog, but without a lot of enthusiasm on his part. Fast forward, the dog was difficult, hard to train, not fun at all. We ended up eventually re-homing it with a family that had love and experience with that breed of dog-- everyone was happier....but I acknowledge that the situation was my fault for not really listening to DH's objections which made a lot of sense (we had a challenging toddler at the time and we were inexperienced dog owners).
Anonymous
Post 12/24/2020 09:48     Subject: DH brought home a 4 month old puppy from hell!
^^ you CANT just tie up in yard. Sp check
Anonymous
Post 12/24/2020 09:47     Subject: DH brought home a 4 month old puppy from hell!
OP your DH has the maturity of a 5 year old. The dog isn’t the problem your DH is. Rehome the dog now while it’s still young and adoptable. Very large dogs need a home that fits their needs and yours clearly doesn’t. You can just tie it up in the yard.
Anonymous
Post 12/24/2020 09:45     Subject: DH brought home a 4 month old puppy from hell!
Contact a very good, smaller animal rescue organization that provides excellent personalized customer service (Homeward Trails comes to mind). They have a dearth of dogs these days (one positive result of the pandemic) and puppies are in huge demand. They could probably rehome this dog in one day, to an adopter they have screened for suitability to the puppy’s size and special needs. Keeping the puppy yourself is bad fir your marriage (which seems to need serious help) and unfair to the dog over the long haul.
Anonymous
Post 12/24/2020 09:37     Subject: DH brought home a 4 month old puppy from hell!
I'm 09:13 and should add that I had a dog that weighed 125 lbs. He was a gentle giant and he became the love of my life. Seriously. The worst part of having him in my life was losing him to old age. But dogs need to be trained, they need food, veterinary care, and some breeds need a huge amount of exercise. You have to honor what they require when you choose to bring them into your life.