Anonymous
Post 12/23/2020 21:09     Subject: SIL annoyingly nosy about gifts
Is she from NY by any chance? Maybe she grew up in a family of over-sharers and that’s what she’s used to. It might be a cultural difference.
Anonymous
Post 12/23/2020 21:07     Subject: SIL annoyingly nosy about gifts
Is it possible it's just trying to show an interest in your life/a happy thing? I hear in the OP that you feel like it's about money, but I can't help but wonder if you're making inferences that aren't warranted.
Anonymous
Post 12/23/2020 21:05     Subject: Re:SIL annoyingly nosy about gifts
How about,

" We got each other sex toys. I can give you brand and models later on, followed by recommendations on whether they're worth it"
Anonymous
Post 12/23/2020 19:00     Subject: Re:SIL annoyingly nosy about gifts
Maybe I'm your SIL? I don't have too much to talk about with one of my SILs and so I ask questions about what she got and what she's up to and such. Maybe she thinks I'm nosy? I'm just trying to find a way to talk to her.
Anonymous
Post 12/23/2020 17:56     Subject: SIL annoyingly nosy about gifts
"We didn't do physical gifts this year in favor of having a few special escapades. But I'm certainly not going to give anyone details about THAT!"

That ought to do it!
Anonymous
Post 12/23/2020 13:06     Subject: SIL annoyingly nosy about gifts
She's trying to connect with her SIL and doing it over an occasion that you both now share? Maybe?
Anonymous
Post 12/23/2020 09:44     Subject: Re:SIL annoyingly nosy about gifts
Honestly, it just sounds like she is just making conversation - I don't think it too weird...
Anonymous
Post 12/23/2020 07:40     Subject: Re:SIL annoyingly nosy about gifts
"Why do you ask?"
Anonymous
Post 12/23/2020 07:29     Subject: Re:SIL annoyingly nosy about gifts
You and pps sound really paranoid. Who cares if she’s nosy abt the quart capacity of your new instapot or whatever. Just tell her and reciprocate with a question. “2.5 quarts. How do you like your new coffee maker?”
Anonymous
Post 12/23/2020 07:20     Subject: Re:SIL annoyingly nosy about gifts
I would assume she is just trying to figure out what the norms are for spousal gift giving in the family since she isn’t used to exchanging Christmas gifts. Who else is she going to ask? Just answer briefly and don’t think too much about it.
Anonymous
Post 12/22/2020 18:20     Subject: SIL annoyingly nosy about gifts
Anonymous wrote:SIL is incredibly nosy about the gifts DH and I give each other for xmas. She wants to know exact brands, models, etc for each gifts ("oh you got a bracelet? Is it gold? where did you buy it? Any diamonds on it? Is it a custom piece? Oh and DH got a widget? What brand? I heard only XYZ brand is worth buying. Did you consider the upgrade?" etc).

It's exhausting and pretty weird. DH and I don't even open our gifts in front of the family - we do it just the two of us at midnight on xmas eve every year - and even so SIL is always awkwardly interrogating us xmas morning during family gift opening. DH and I have tried to demure and avoid the questions (think "oh we are really happy with our gifts this year, anyone want some coffee? DD why don't you show us your gift?") but it's also just plain annoying that she thinks it's appropriate to ask in the first place. Anyone else have someone like this? Any advice on good replies or what to do to make sure it doesn't happen again this year?


Tell her you got DH a session with a dominatrix and he got you a threesome with the super hot fed ex guy. But you have to wait 2 weeks until he's done quarantining.
Anonymous
Post 12/22/2020 18:19     Subject: SIL annoyingly nosy about gifts
I'm super confrontational so I would just say "You ask so many specific questions about our gifts that it is uncomfortable, so I'm not going to talk about it at all with you."
Anonymous
Post 12/22/2020 18:15     Subject: SIL annoyingly nosy about gifts
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Tell her you didn't exchange gifts this year.


This, followed immediately by “Do you think it’s going to rain?”


+1

Nailed it.
Anonymous
Post 12/22/2020 18:15     Subject: SIL annoyingly nosy about gifts
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Is she like this with everyone or only you two?

If I were your H I'd say one time, sis you're so nosy! and ignore her from then on.




OP here, only with us. She doesn't say anything to MIL/FIL and SIL2 is single.
She also didn't grow up celebrating Christmas (she's jewish) so not sure if that's related to feeling new to xmas gift giving with her husband and wanting to compare with us?
Also she's DH's brother's wife, so not sure if either of us are in a position to call her nosy her face


THis is probably why. She's comparing your DH to his brother.


+1

Anonymous
Post 12/22/2020 18:14     Subject: SIL annoyingly nosy about gifts
Anonymous wrote:This is easy—-lie. “ Jim and I have everything we need so this Christmas was all about the kids.”


+1