Anonymous
Post 12/23/2020 20:22     Subject: I don't like my husband's last name
My GF’s last name is Goezinya and her husbands first name is Richard. I feel so bad for her.
Anonymous
Post 12/23/2020 18:00     Subject: I don't like my husband's last name
I actually like my DH's last name better than mine but for various reasons (didn't want to go through the hassle, didn't like the tradition of the wife taking the husband's last name, etc) kept mine. I am the only woman in my family or social circle who didn't change her name and there were people who had lots of opinions about it. So ridiculous-it's a personal decision and I certainly never gave anyone who changed their name flack but yet there were some who felt free to give me the side eye.
Anonymous
Post 12/23/2020 16:05     Subject: I don't like my husband's last name
DH full name is Gunnar Strong
Anonymous
Post 12/23/2020 15:01     Subject: I don't like my husband's last name
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Changing your last name is outdated, imo. I’m not my husband’s property, I have my own name. Honestly though OP no one cares.


Agree. Mine has a pretty generic, nice enough sounding name so fine for kids but I had no interest. He was basically like, "do whatever you want. Seems like most professional women keep their names so always assumed you would too, but you can have it if you want."

I REALLY don't understand women who take terrible last names. I have a few friends like that and I just do not get it. "I was never really a fan of my maiden name Coleman and it was important to DH so I am a Buttkiss now." No way, no how.


+1 There's nothing wrong with my DH's last name but I like my last name better. Besides, as the first PP said, I'm not my DH's property nor am I interested being subsumbed into his family. I suggested we both change our names - either hyphenating or something completely different. He wasn't interested in that so we each kept our birth last names and our kids hyphenate.
Anonymous
Post 12/23/2020 12:41     Subject: Re:I don't like my husband's last name
I have known TWO Kelly Kelley’s in my life and I just don’t get it. You already had your husbands name in the front!!!!!
Anonymous
Post 12/23/2020 12:29     Subject: I don't like my husband's last name
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Yes tell me about it.

Buttwad


This reminds me of the SNL skit with Nicolas Cage as Asswipe Johnson.
Anonymous
Post 12/23/2020 08:34     Subject: I don't like my husband's last name
I hate mine too but I did change my name. I’ve had Russians tell me we pronounce the name wrong. Awesome. No one can spell it either. People often strike up convos about my name, but it has nothing to do with me. My ancestry is mostly British.
Anonymous
Post 12/23/2020 08:32     Subject: I don't like my husband's last name
My husband’s last name is fine, but even though I am very happily married many years later, I deeply regret changing my name. As the mom to daughters, it just hit me how incredibly weird it is as a society that we expect grown adults of one gender to totally change their identity when they get married. This doesn’t happen as much in Middle Eastern or Latin cultures.
Anonymous
Post 12/23/2020 05:34     Subject: I don't like my husband's last name
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I don't like my husband's last name either. It's very unique, kind of guttural sounding, and never, ever, pronounced correctly.

I did change my name, because it meant so much to him - it was REALLY important.

I have gotten used to it, but I'll never really like it.

He makes reservations under my maiden name - which drives me crazy given how deeply he felt about the issue.


Lol. Now that's funny.

My DH's name, spoken over the phone, can sound a lot like a very famous actor. We've had a range of outright confusion, a hang up from a host thinking it was a prank call, and disappointment when we nobodies showed up.


Tom Cruz?
Anonymous
Post 12/23/2020 05:29     Subject: I don't like my husband's last name
I don’t hate my husband’s last name but I feel awkward with it. He was adopted so his last name is very ethnic yet he’s very white. People are always confused when they meet our children (and us) for the first time. This happens when we register the kids for school, sports, etc.
Anonymous
Post 12/22/2020 16:11     Subject: I don't like my husband's last name
Anonymous wrote:Changing your last name is outdated, imo. I’m not my husband’s property, I have my own name. Honestly though OP no one cares.


Agree. Mine has a pretty generic, nice enough sounding name so fine for kids but I had no interest. He was basically like, "do whatever you want. Seems like most professional women keep their names so always assumed you would too, but you can have it if you want."

I REALLY don't understand women who take terrible last names. I have a few friends like that and I just do not get it. "I was never really a fan of my maiden name Coleman and it was important to DH so I am a Buttkiss now." No way, no how.
Anonymous
Post 12/22/2020 16:10     Subject: Re:I don't like my husband's last name
There’s nothing wrong with basic last names. Smith, Jones, etc are all fine names, easy to spell, easy to remember.

Not every name needs to be unique. Try a personality instead.
Anonymous
Post 12/22/2020 15:43     Subject: Re:I don't like my husband's last name
Anonymous wrote:My DH last name is fine, but I hate his family and don’t like to be linked in that way. Nevertheless, I took his last name.


I don't understand why you changed it then.
Anonymous
Post 12/22/2020 14:40     Subject: I don't like my husband's last name
I love DH’s last name, but it’s very ethnic and I belong to a different ethnic group. Same racial group, but very different except for religion. Doesn’t work well with my very ethnic first name. So I kept my bland non-ethnic maiden name.
Anonymous
Post 12/22/2020 14:06     Subject: I don't like my husband's last name
Me too. But my DH didn't care. His name is bland. I regret giving our kids his last name.