Anonymous wrote:eh I could totally be that mom and say " it's fine" because really your daughter is 7 and I imagine within hearing range and I would not want to hurt her feelings. Is a short hello exchange fine, sure. Do I want to engage another person's child, while I watch my toddler and wonder when it's going to end. Ha, ha I know that sounds harsh but it's fine usually means it was fine, but maybe time to wrap up shop. Does anyone want to answer more kid questions from a stranger's child after being quarantined/cooped up with their own kids for months? Tell me I am not alone with wanting a break from all the kid chatter. I say this lovingly OP.

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Anonymous wrote:I think she was politely trying to tell you to manage your kid, or at least to indicate to you that the behavior was out of the norm. Some adults don’t really want to be approached by kids they don’t know. It can be hard to get out of the conversation, sometimes you’re confused about whether the kid needs help or something, and you’re trying to watch your own child. Just wanted to give you an honest response. It often helps to remember that random strangers don’t find your child as charming as you do.

OP - Sigh. There are so many antisocial people here that I really should have prefaced this post by saying the mom and I ended up chatting for awhile with her asking my kids names, ages, schools, etc. As I mentioned, I was intervening to make sure my kids weren’t being annoying. Obviously if she gave me antisocial vibes I would’ve kept them away.

My question I guess was I just see my kids as my kids and don’t really understand how they came out extroverted. I guess I’ve also really never understood the kids who hung behind their parents legs and didn’t know if it was nature or nurture. And since my kids are young, I don’t know how these traits manifest in adults and how they impact their future success.

Sigh- typical DCUM adding more details to make your OP look better.

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Anonymous wrote:I think she was politely trying to tell you to manage your kid, or at least to indicate to you that the behavior was out of the norm. Some adults don’t really want to be approached by kids they don’t know. It can be hard to get out of the conversation, sometimes you’re confused about whether the kid needs help or something, and you’re trying to watch your own child. Just wanted to give you an honest response. It often helps to remember that random strangers don’t find your child as charming as you do.

OP I think your reading comprehension is poor. As I said, I was coming up to get my daughter so she wouldn’t annoy the parent. The parent assured me she was fine. She also said that any parent at the playground who didn’t want to talk to kids shouldn’t be there, so I don’t think she was politely telling me to manage my daughter who was making conversation.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m an introvert raising an extrovert. I guarantee you that there’s nothing I did that caused my dd to be extremely outgoing and friendly. That’s just how she came to me. Her social instincts are completely different than mine.

I don’t think any trait is good or bad. The world needs and has room for all kinds of people.

This 100%. My husband is an extrovert, I'm an introvert, we have one of each (two kids). It's absolutely innate.

Anonymous wrote:I’m an introvert raising an extrovert. I guarantee you that there’s nothing I did that caused my dd to be extremely outgoing and friendly. That’s just how she came to me. Her social instincts are completely different than mine.

I don’t think any trait is good or bad. The world needs and has room for all kinds of people.

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Anonymous wrote:OP are you from the midwest? I don't see your kid as friendly. I see her as possibly friendly but also possibly not reading social cues. When I was nursing my youngest daughter at a playground while watching my oldest daughter play, I did not find the 7 yr old boy who ran up and stared at my boob and asking me questions "does it hurt? does the baby know it's a boob?" to be outgoing and friendly, but annoying and intrusive.

Outgoing and friendly is when someone near them drops something and they pick it up, and hand it back with "Here you go!" and a smile. Or when you're all ordering food at a restaurant and when the waitress comes back to deliver drinks says "Your earrings are really pretty."

OP - except then would you start a conversation with the 7 year old’s mom and ask a lot of questions about the family?

No we are not in the Midwest.

I guess I’m unsure if it’s a good thing because I’m wondering how it translates to adulthood. Are they extroverted because they’re confident and feel good about themselves? Or are they extra inquisitive and can’t hold back asking questions? I just view them as my kids and when the other mom pointed this out I wasn’t sure if I should say thank you or what.

Anonymous wrote:eh I could totally be that mom and say " it's fine" because really your daughter is 7 and I imagine within hearing range and I would not want to hurt her feelings. Is a short hello exchange fine, sure. Do I want to engage another person's child, while I watch my toddler and wonder when it's going to end. Ha, ha I know that sounds harsh but it's fine usually means it was fine, but maybe time to wrap up shop. Does anyone want to answer more kid questions from a stranger's child after being quarantined/cooped up with their own kids for months? Tell me I am not alone with wanting a break from all the kid chatter. I say this lovingly OP.

Anonymous wrote:OP are you from the midwest? I don't see your kid as friendly. I see her as possibly friendly but also possibly not reading social cues. When I was nursing my youngest daughter at a playground while watching my oldest daughter play, I did not find the 7 yr old boy who ran up and stared at my boob and asking me questions "does it hurt? does the baby know it's a boob?" to be outgoing and friendly, but annoying and intrusive.

Outgoing and friendly is when someone near them drops something and they pick it up, and hand it back with "Here you go!" and a smile. Or when you're all ordering food at a restaurant and when the waitress comes back to deliver drinks says "Your earrings are really pretty."

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Anonymous wrote:I think she was politely trying to tell you to manage your kid, or at least to indicate to you that the behavior was out of the norm. Some adults don’t really want to be approached by kids they don’t know. It can be hard to get out of the conversation, sometimes you’re confused about whether the kid needs help or something, and you’re trying to watch your own child. Just wanted to give you an honest response. It often helps to remember that random strangers don’t find your child as charming as you do.

OP - Sigh. There are so many antisocial people here that I really should have prefaced this post by saying the mom and I ended up chatting for awhile with her asking my kids names, ages, schools, etc. As I mentioned, I was intervening to make sure my kids weren’t being annoying. Obviously if she gave me antisocial vibes I would’ve kept them away.

My question I guess was I just see my kids as my kids and don’t really understand how they came out extroverted. I guess I’ve also really never understood the kids who hung behind their parents legs and didn’t know if it was nature or nurture. And since my kids are young, I don’t know how these traits manifest in adults and how they impact their future success.

Anonymous wrote:I think she was politely trying to tell you to manage your kid, or at least to indicate to you that the behavior was out of the norm. Some adults don’t really want to be approached by kids they don’t know. It can be hard to get out of the conversation, sometimes you’re confused about whether the kid needs help or something, and you’re trying to watch your own child. Just wanted to give you an honest response. It often helps to remember that random strangers don’t find your child as charming as you do.