Anonymous wrote:I can't get over how unappreciative some of you are! Everything doesn't have to be practical, planned, and requested by you. I love receiving special, surprise gifts that my husband has picked out. We both do that.

This!!!! No wonder your husbands cheat!

Anonymous wrote:I can't get over how unappreciative some of you are! Everything doesn't have to be practical, planned, and requested by you. I love receiving special, surprise gifts that my husband has picked out. We both do that.

BUT THEY CAN'T AFFORD THIS! She doesn't even really LIKE jewelry, and they NEED other things. She feels unappreciative because this gift is a physical representation that he doesn't listen to her.

Give him the 5 Love Languages Book. Because that’s what went wrong here. We had to read it as part of marriage counseling and it makes so much sense. Diamond earrings are NOT your love language especially with young kids.

Anonymous wrote:It’s weird to have a kid in daycare but disposable income for 5k in jewelry. Priorities seem a bit off.

Wha? I had to read this three times to understand what this poster is saying.... but i think they are saying that, if you have $5000 disposable income, you shouldn't be working so that your kid doesn't have to be in daycare?

dcum never ceases to amaze....

It’s weird to have a kid in daycare but disposable income for 5k in jewelry. Priorities seem a bit off.

ring! not rink.

OP - I've been in the same situation with my husband. I have a 2 carat diamond rink sitting in my drawer that I can't stand. It was an anniversary gift after I'd said what I would like is a band with 3 small diamonds. It's absolutely not the sort of thing I'd ever choose to wear and we didn't have the money to spare either. And for those of you who think we're being ungrateful - that's not the case at all. With my husband at least, it's because he either doesn't listen to what I'm saying or he hears me, but thinks he knows better than I do what I should want. Most of my gifts would make you think they're from someone who has never met me.

If you can't get a refund, I would use the exchange to get the signature ring you wanted and see about getting something else such as a watch maybe even for him. A watch is something that will able to be used or browse and see what else they have.

I wouldn't keep the earrings that you never wanted and won't use.

Blame those jewelry commercials. Men think that's what wives/girlfriends want then get upset when you say it's not what you want.

SNL has a skit for you. At least he didn't buy a car!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WcEylCwkSxE

Try to think about how he bought you this gift from a good place in his heart. Although, yes, I would be unhappy in your situation, too. I'm sorry you can't return them, my DH bought me diamond earrings after my baby was born, and I was able to exchange them for a ring, a necklace, and a more simple pair of gold earrings. I still wear the three pieces I picked out, 13 years later, just about every day, and my DH wasn't offended at all by my exchange. Your DH, like mine, probably just wants you to be happy, so if you can exchange them for other, more practical items, do it!

Anonymous wrote:I can't get over how unappreciative some of you are! Everything doesn't have to be practical, planned, and requested by you. I love receiving special, surprise gifts that my husband has picked out. We both do that.

This isn't a special surprise. It's not like it came out of the blue. He asked her specifically and explicitly multiple times if she would like this exact gift and she said no. What's to appreciate when a person asks for your input and then ignores it?

Return them, OP. Tell him you would love to get them on your 15th or 20th wedding anniversary (whatever is at least 5 years out). Tell him that for now you’d really love to put the money toward X, and really sell to him the idea that this is what you really want and explain why it will give you happiness. My husband used to buy me jewelry and I didn’t want it, had no place I’d really ever wear it, and didn’t want to waste the money on something that would sit in a drawer.

Sell it.

Anonymous wrote:I can't get over how unappreciative some of you are! Everything doesn't have to be practical, planned, and requested by you. I love receiving special, surprise gifts that my husband has picked out. We both do that.

That's great, but if that surprise means that you can no longer afford (at least not comfortably) to replace the rotting pipes in your bathroom, or make the $2,000 monthly payment on your kid's daycare, is it really worth it?