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Anonymous wrote:My wife and I are expecting our first child. She’s 31 and I’m 35. She is happy that we are having a child but is upset with timing. We have been married for a little over a year. She is a healthcare worker ( works from home) and worried about getting pregnant with the pandemic. We had decided to wait until next fall to start trying, but we got pregnant. She is happy overall but I can tell she is worried. It sucks because I feel like I can’t be that happy about it. How do I help ease her worry? How can I be happy but respectful of her feelings at the same time?

First of all you did not get pregnant. Im assuming you are a male? You can be happy and supportive. If she is still worried after you reassiring her maybe she can talk to someone about her feelings?

Congrats

It's an unplanned pregnancy. I didn't know lesbian sex can cause someone to get pregnant.

Are u the op? You literally said WE are pregnant. My question was rhetorical. And soon two women will be able to have a baby

Two women will never be able to have a baby without the help of a man.

Yes you need the sperm but, one day perhaps not.

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Anonymous wrote:You do have other options if she is still early in the pregnancy.

OP here. She is 16 weeks pregnant and no. We would never consider any other option besides keeping our child. He was unexpected but a wonderful gift.

Troll. You don’t find out the gender until 20 weeks.

OP here. You can figure out the gender earlier. We found out at 8 weeks.

Insurance doesn't cover that blood test unless you are over 35

not op, but that's not true. my insurance covered it when i was 32

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Anonymous wrote:My wife and I are expecting our first child. She’s 31 and I’m 35. She is happy that we are having a child but is upset with timing. We have been married for a little over a year. She is a healthcare worker ( works from home) and worried about getting pregnant with the pandemic. We had decided to wait until next fall to start trying, but we got pregnant. She is happy overall but I can tell she is worried. It sucks because I feel like I can’t be that happy about it. How do I help ease her worry? How can I be happy but respectful of her feelings at the same time?

First of all you did not get pregnant. Im assuming you are a male? You can be happy and supportive. If she is still worried after you reassiring her maybe she can talk to someone about her feelings?

Congrats

You know what he means. Plus, he said they’re expecting. That’s normal to say “ we’re expecting..” They are both expecting, not just her.

My wife and I are expecting our first child. She’s 31 and I’m 35. She is happy that we are having a child but is upset with timing. We have been married for a little over a year. She is a healthcare worker ( works from home) and worried about getting pregnant with the pandemic. We had decided to wait until next fall to start trying, but we got pregnant. She is happy overall but I can tell she is worried. It sucks because I feel like I can’t be that happy about it. How do I help ease her worry? How can I be happy but respectful of her feelings at the same time?

No, he said WE ARE PREGNANT RIGHT THERE! NO He is not. Only his wife is pregnant!!!!!! It is one of my pet peeves. The other is "I have TWO twins" .

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Anonymous wrote:Why didn’t you guys use birth control?

OP here. We did use birth control but she still got pregnant.

Many people get pregnant on birth control. It’s no 100% effective.

I don't beleive that.

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Anonymous wrote:You do have other options if she is still early in the pregnancy.

OP here. She is 16 weeks pregnant and no. We would never consider any other option besides keeping our child. He was unexpected but a wonderful gift.

Troll. You don’t find out the gender until 20 weeks.

Honey, no. I found out at 12 weeks. Genetic testing. (Not OP)

This person calling Troll is such an idiot. Get with the times, Grandma.

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Anonymous wrote:You do have other options if she is still early in the pregnancy.

OP here. She is 16 weeks pregnant and no. We would never consider any other option besides keeping our child. He was unexpected but a wonderful gift.

Troll. You don’t find out the gender until 20 weeks.

OP here. You can figure out the gender earlier. We found out at 8 weeks.

Insurance doesn't cover that blood test unless you are over 35

It was meant to be! Congratulations!!

I didn’t have Covid with my first pregnancy but I worried and obsessed over everything. It will be okay and by the time she’s ready to deliver the Covid situation is going to very different with the vaccine and less crowded hospitals in 40 weeks.

Go into a quarantine type mode so you can ride it out. Both of my daughters had babies over the last few months and that’s what they did and everything was fine.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, you sound like a nice person. There’s never a perfect time to have a baby. You do your best to plan, but they come when they come.

Maybe you could plan an evening focused on you two - cook something that appeals to her at this stage in pregnancy and get tickets to some virtual concert or event. Help her feel cared for in a way that’s not pregnancy-centric. Just give her some time to process, you know?

OP here. We are broth very excited but she is super worried being pregnant in a pandemic. She is worried about Hong to appointments, working with co-workers ( she goes into work a couple times a month), and giving birth during a pandemic, etc. I know she is happy but the worry is keeping her from being super excited about it.

Maybe you could encourage her to post on here to ask for Covid pregnancy and birth stories from other women. My Covid baby experience was great and I’m so in love with my baby. I started out nervous too, but the care I was getting as the pregnancy progressed put my mind at ease.

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Anonymous wrote:You do have other options if she is still early in the pregnancy.

OP here. She is 16 weeks pregnant and no. We would never consider any other option besides keeping our child. He was unexpected but a wonderful gift.

Troll. You don’t find out the gender until 20 weeks.

OP here. You can figure out the gender earlier. We found out at 8 weeks.

OP here. Meant to say 10 weeks but really we found out around 12. We did genetic testing and found out gender through a blood tests ( NIPT).

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Anonymous wrote:You do have other options if she is still early in the pregnancy.

OP here. She is 16 weeks pregnant and no. We would never consider any other option besides keeping our child. He was unexpected but a wonderful gift.

Troll. You don’t find out the gender until 20 weeks.

Honey, no. I found out at 12 weeks. Genetic testing. (Not OP)

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Anonymous wrote:You do have other options if she is still early in the pregnancy.

OP here. She is 16 weeks pregnant and no. We would never consider any other option besides keeping our child. He was unexpected but a wonderful gift.

Troll. You don’t find out the gender until 20 weeks.

OP here. You can figure out the gender earlier. We found out at 8 weeks.

You express happiness and that you are looking forward to being a father, just not in a crazy over the top way. Acknowledge her fears, yet express confidence that you trust all will work out fine.

Anonymous wrote:OP, you sound like a nice person. There’s never a perfect time to have a baby. You do your best to plan, but they come when they come.

Maybe you could plan an evening focused on you two - cook something that appeals to her at this stage in pregnancy and get tickets to some virtual concert or event. Help her feel cared for in a way that’s not pregnancy-centric. Just give her some time to process, you know?

OP here. We are broth very excited but she is super worried being pregnant in a pandemic. She is worried about Hong to appointments, working with co-workers ( she goes into work a couple times a month), and giving birth during a pandemic, etc. I know she is happy but the worry is keeping her from being super excited about it.

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Anonymous wrote:You do have other options if she is still early in the pregnancy.

OP here. She is 16 weeks pregnant and no. We would never consider any other option besides keeping our child. He was unexpected but a wonderful gift.

Troll. You don’t find out the gender until 20 weeks.