Anonymous wrote:If a teacher is using sarcasm with 6 year olds, that teacher can't handle her emotions & needs a new job. JMO.

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Anonymous wrote:I am on 5he spectrum and still have trouble with understanding sarcasm. My kids definitely would not have understood at this age. This is a question of asking kids to monitor an adults emotions. It seems weird.

On the spectrum of what?

I am on 5he spectrum and still have trouble with understanding sarcasm. My kids definitely would not have understood at this age. This is a question of asking kids to monitor an adults emotions. It seems weird.

This sounds like my DD’s preK teacher last year. We kind of knew the teacher was a jerk but didn’t have a ton of insight into what her classroom was like until distance learning started in the spring. We were shocked and wished we’d followed our guts earlier and pulled out DD out of the class, which is obviously way easier in preschool than in a continuing school. High expectations and tough love are ok, but not in Kindergarten.

Also my Kindergartner would never be able to come back at a specific time or after a certain amount of time without a timer and a warning. Her teacher occasionally has them work quietly and independently and keeps them on Zoom with a visual clock and verbal check-ins. And even then my very conscientious child loses track, gets confused by the quiet, and just logs off.

Anonymous wrote:Why do you have the opportunity to change teachers? This isn't something normally offered...at all. Either you have a real, legitimate concern beyond what you've shared and admin knows it's a problem, in which case you should absolutely switch--or you have been such a bear that admin is giving in and trying to placate you and spread the crazy around. I promise you if you switch for the latter reason, your child is being placed with an asterisk next to their name that says "tread lightly, parent is crazy". I get a few of those every September complements of last year's teachers.

OP here. My daughter has been slow to learn her sight words and has been told by the teacher that her knowing so little is "unacceptable" & it's doing a number on her self esteem. The sarcastic comments are daily and not targeted towards my child specifically but for a teacher who works with only 9 kids on a camera, it seems a litle extreme. She also uses videos often and does not do a lot of one on one work. Maybe I'll be labeled crazy parent but I doubt that. I've noticed how the teacher's demeanor changes with the kids the day the principal popped onto the screen to check in. She likely doesn't have the full picture of what this teacher expects and does not do on a daily basis. For example, she opens a program for them to do and then tells them to come back at a certain time. They are 5 & 6. Without a parent listening and keeping track, certain students are late. She will then ask why they were late in a not so nice tone. They're 5 and can't tell time, obviously. I am lucky enough to be around and observe, keep her on track, and do what I can. Other parents can't. I've noticed some kids aren't in the class anymore. We started with 14. We have 9-10 now.

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Anonymous wrote:Sarcastic comments - Let it go. You can’t police teachers’ personalities. It’s not hurting anyone.

“Sad” comments - That’s not sarcasm. That’s a legit technique to get kids to listen. Kids are people-pleasers and typically want to make their teachers happy.

Breaks - Override the teacher here. She shouldn’t be trying to control bathroom breaks during DL. Tell your DD to just go, no asking.

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Anonymous wrote:Sarcastic comments - Let it go. You can’t police teachers’ personalities. It’s not hurting anyone.

“Sad” comments - That’s not sarcasm. That’s a legit technique to get kids to listen. Kids are people-pleasers and typically want to make their teachers happy.

Breaks - Override the teacher here. She shouldn’t be trying to control bathroom breaks during DL. Tell your DD to just go, no asking.

This.

For the bathroom breaks, just turn off the camera and go. DD is not in a classroom right now.

Why do you have the opportunity to change teachers? This isn't something normally offered...at all. Either you have a real, legitimate concern beyond what you've shared and admin knows it's a problem, in which case you should absolutely switch--or you have been such a bear that admin is giving in and trying to placate you and spread the crazy around. I promise you if you switch for the latter reason, your child is being placed with an asterisk next to their name that says "tread lightly, parent is crazy". I get a few of those every September complements of last year's teachers.

If a teacher is using sarcasm with 6 year olds, that teacher can't handle her emotions & needs a new job. JMO.

Anonymous wrote:“I don’t think children should be responsible for the emotions for adults” Really? The teacher is communicating to her students in words that children understand. Children need to understand that their actions have consequences. Newsflash, OP, people’s actions do have consequences and do affect how how others feel. You are a piece of work. Please, please, please bring this example to your Principal and ask for a new teacher....

Perhaps some people shouldn't be teachers! Like you!

I would start teaching your kid about sarcasm. Explain how the words are different than what she means. Ask you kid what they think about it. Tell them they shouldn’t feel bad if the teacher is talking like that. Etc. I taught my son this kind of thing early on, and he could take that stuff in stride or at least see it for what it was, which I was really glad about.

Anonymous wrote:Sarcastic comments - Let it go. You can’t police teachers’ personalities. It’s not hurting anyone.

“Sad” comments - That’s not sarcasm. That’s a legit technique to get kids to listen. Kids are people-pleasers and typically want to make their teachers happy.

Breaks - Override the teacher here. She shouldn’t be trying to control bathroom breaks during DL. Tell your DD to just go, no asking.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't understand how teachers can control bathroom breaks during distance learning

Mine needs to #2 at a specific time of day. IDK why. But it’s not aligned with the schedule. It happens. During math. Clockwork.

Anonymous wrote:Parents can not monitor their kids while in class. Most parents are working.

Hire help.

“I don’t think children should be responsible for the emotions for adults” Really? The teacher is communicating to her students in words that children understand. Children need to understand that their actions have consequences. Newsflash, OP, people’s actions do have consequences and do affect how how others feel. You are a piece of work. Please, please, please bring this example to your Principal and ask for a new teacher....