Anonymous
Post 12/13/2020 14:44     Subject: I don’t respect my husband - would you divorce if you were me?
^^to add, your child will still have a dad and hopefully him having 50/50 custody with a baby makes him a baby dad and more competent co-parent. He may even be a better dad than if you stay together
Anonymous
Post 12/13/2020 14:44     Subject: Re:I don’t respect my husband - would you divorce if you were me?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Can you give an example of what you mean by life’s big responsibilities? How is he not stepping up to those and how are you forced to fill in?


He doesn’t know the first thing about about maintaining anything having to do with our house or our cars, it all falls on me. And I make more money. And I work more hours.


Oh, so you are a time traveler from the 50s.


Lol. I want a partner not a child. Like all women.


You want a REAL man, but could get one so settled for beta sperm donor. Klassy
Anonymous
Post 12/13/2020 14:43     Subject: Re:I don’t respect my husband - would you divorce if you were me?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Can you give an example of what you mean by life’s big responsibilities? How is he not stepping up to those and how are you forced to fill in?


He doesn’t know the first thing about about maintaining anything having to do with our house or our cars, it all falls on me. And I make more money. And I work more hours.


Has his salary dropped since you met; or you just expected him to accelerate st a specific pace in his career?


He has stagnated and he complains constantly but does nothing to fix it or pivot. He also buries his head in the sand about how this impacts our financial goals and the fact that I have to pick up the financial slack and insists that someday, somehow he will be rich and god forbid I question or drill down into the fantasy thinking.
Anonymous
Post 12/13/2020 14:43     Subject: Re:I don’t respect my husband - would you divorce if you were me?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Can you give an example of what you mean by life’s big responsibilities? How is he not stepping up to those and how are you forced to fill in?


He doesn’t know the first thing about about maintaining anything having to do with our house or our cars, it all falls on me. And I make more money. And I work more hours.


Did he know something about maintaining house/cars or make more money or work more hours before the baby was born?
Anonymous
Post 12/13/2020 14:42     Subject: I don’t respect my husband - would you divorce if you were me?
OP, your happiness, your accomplishments, getting things done that you want to do, is largely not impacted by a spouse.
Anonymous
Post 12/13/2020 14:42     Subject: I don’t respect my husband - would you divorce if you were me?
It only gets worse from here, OP. You will only respect him less as time goes on and he will soon become unattractive too- if he isn't already.

Leave now while your child is too young to know the difference and before you have another baby with him.
Anonymous
Post 12/13/2020 14:41     Subject: Re:I don’t respect my husband - would you divorce if you were me?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Can you give an example of what you mean by life’s big responsibilities? How is he not stepping up to those and how are you forced to fill in?


He doesn’t know the first thing about about maintaining anything having to do with our house or our cars, it all falls on me. And I make more money. And I work more hours.


Oh, so you are a time traveler from the 50s.


Lol. I want a partner not a child. Like all women.
Anonymous
Post 12/13/2020 14:41     Subject: I don’t respect my husband - would you divorce if you were me?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I’m honestly baffled what your issue is. He makes big promises, like someday we’ll have a bigger house, and doesn’t deliver on your timeline? Some people like to rattle on about their dreams and goals, and if they aren’t bitter you are best not to take as promises.

You say he doesn’t handle life? So did he never live alone? Or is his way of doing things not to your standards. I’m conflicted as I met many man-babies but you haven’t convinced me.


I HATE the quality of overpromising and under delivering.


But is he promising? I think you are hearing things not there.
Anonymous
Post 12/13/2020 14:41     Subject: I don’t respect my husband - would you divorce if you were me?
Very young baby = very bad time to make big decisions. Apparently he was fine 9-10 months ago.

Could you be experiencing PPD?
Many people hate their husbands at least sometimes when babies are very young.

I would not do anything rash.

Counseling may be in order. You owe it to the very new baby to at least try to work it out.
Anonymous
Post 12/13/2020 14:41     Subject: Re:I don’t respect my husband - would you divorce if you were me?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Can you give an example of what you mean by life’s big responsibilities? How is he not stepping up to those and how are you forced to fill in?


He doesn’t know the first thing about about maintaining anything having to do with our house or our cars, it all falls on me. And I make more money. And I work more hours.


Has his salary dropped since you met; or you just expected him to accelerate st a specific pace in his career?
Anonymous
Post 12/13/2020 14:40     Subject: I don’t respect my husband - would you divorce if you were me?
Anonymous wrote:I’m honestly baffled what your issue is. He makes big promises, like someday we’ll have a bigger house, and doesn’t deliver on your timeline? Some people like to rattle on about their dreams and goals, and if they aren’t bitter you are best not to take as promises.

You say he doesn’t handle life? So did he never live alone? Or is his way of doing things not to your standards. I’m conflicted as I met many man-babies but you haven’t convinced me.


I HATE the quality of overpromising and under delivering.
Anonymous
Post 12/13/2020 14:40     Subject: I don’t respect my husband - would you divorce if you were me?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:This sounds like a you problem, not a husband problem.


How? I am very happy with the life I built for myself and can easily imagine him not in it.

There you go. If you can easily imagine life without him, kick him to the curb.
Anonymous
Post 12/13/2020 14:40     Subject: Re:I don’t respect my husband - would you divorce if you were me?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Can you give an example of what you mean by life’s big responsibilities? How is he not stepping up to those and how are you forced to fill in?


He doesn’t know the first thing about about maintaining anything having to do with our house or our cars, it all falls on me. And I make more money. And I work more hours.


Oh, so you are a time traveler from the 50s.
Anonymous
Post 12/13/2020 14:38     Subject: Re:I don’t respect my husband - would you divorce if you were me?
Anonymous wrote:Can you give an example of what you mean by life’s big responsibilities? How is he not stepping up to those and how are you forced to fill in?


He doesn’t know the first thing about about maintaining anything having to do with our house or our cars, it all falls on me. And I make more money. And I work more hours.
Anonymous
Post 12/13/2020 14:38     Subject: I don’t respect my husband - would you divorce if you were me?
I’m honestly baffled what your issue is. He makes big promises, like someday we’ll have a bigger house, and doesn’t deliver on your timeline? Some people like to rattle on about their dreams and goals, and if they aren’t bitter you are best not to take as promises.

You say he doesn’t handle life? So did he never live alone? Or is his way of doing things not to your standards. I’m conflicted as I met many man-babies but you haven’t convinced me.