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Anonymous wrote:OP again - I also went off Instagram back in October, it has definitely help! I was feeling so anxious and upset every day when I would log on and see all of my friends going out to dinner, having dinner parties, etc. when my husband and I have been pretty much seeing no one since March. He is high risk b/c he is type 1 diabetic and I am now high risk being pregnant, so we just can't see friends or go anywhere.

Not to freak you out, but as a Mom of a type I, I learned that type I men have a higher likelihood of their kids being type I too. Definitely keep a close eye on your child from birth. Get A1Cs every year and antibody testing.

OP here. Thanks, I appreciate this. My understanding is that since my husband is Type 1, the odds of our child having it is about 1/17. It may actually be less because he was diagnosed in his 20's, not as a child. For some reason that plays a role. Nothing I can really do to control that at this point, so I don't stress too much about it (I have enough to stress out about, clearly!). If our kid is Type 1, we will manage it. The good thing is that both my husband and myself have a very good understanding of diabetes management. My husband has hypoglycemia unawareness and frequent lows during the night, so I kind of already feel like I do have a kid with Type 1 in some ways. Obviously nowhere near the level of management that actually having a child with Type 1 would require, though. Props to you for handling that!

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Anonymous wrote:Yes, absolutely stress can cause premature labor, premature birth, stillbirth or miscarriage. Sorry to worry you even more, OP, but that is well-documented.

Please talk to your OB about this. Talk to your husband and close friends. Your OB needs to monitor you frequently, particularly blood pressure-wise. Your family needs to lift the burden off you in whichever way they can, even if they don't get it, they HAVE to listen and do their utmost to help you. Insist. If you need medication, make sure it's safe to take during pregnancy.

I've asked about this and the advice I have heard is basically that the level of stress you would need to cause any of these outcomes (and even then, only potentially) is EXTREMELY high. Like you'd have to be a sex-trafficking victim being beaten and starved in war-torn Syria to be really concerned about impacts from stress. My OB has said she has never seen any of these effects in middle class women with access to decent healthcare despite things like spousal or parental death, 90 hr work-weeks, cancer diagnosis, etc. I agree with the rest of your point, but I don't think there is any reason to worry OP.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes, absolutely stress can cause premature labor, premature birth, stillbirth or miscarriage. Sorry to worry you even more, OP, but that is well-documented.

Please talk to your OB about this. Talk to your husband and close friends. Your OB needs to monitor you frequently, particularly blood pressure-wise. Your family needs to lift the burden off you in whichever way they can, even if they don't get it, they HAVE to listen and do their utmost to help you. Insist. If you need medication, make sure it's safe to take during pregnancy.

I've asked about this and the advice I have heard is basically that the level of stress you would need to cause any of these outcomes (and even then, only potentially) is EXTREMELY high. Like you'd have to be a sex-trafficking victim being beaten and starved in war-torn Syria to be really concerned about impacts from stress. My OB has said she has never seen any of these effects in middle class women with access to decent healthcare despite things like spousal or parental death, 90 hr work-weeks, cancer diagnosis, etc. I agree with the rest of your point, but I don't think there is any reason to worry OP.

My 3rd out of 6 pregnancy was highly stressful. An older child had a really bad diagnosis requiring many Dr visits and CPS got involved due to some misunderstandings, and we had no where to live.

He's an incredibly bright healthy little guy now. But when we finally purchased our home at 5 months pregnant (we'd been forced to move suddenly into a really unstable situation) I cried in relief.

Anonymous wrote:OP again - I also went off Instagram back in October, it has definitely help! I was feeling so anxious and upset every day when I would log on and see all of my friends going out to dinner, having dinner parties, etc. when my husband and I have been pretty much seeing no one since March. He is high risk b/c he is type 1 diabetic and I am now high risk being pregnant, so we just can't see friends or go anywhere.

Not to freak you out, but as a Mom of a type I, I learned that type I men have a higher likelihood of their kids being type I too. Definitely keep a close eye on your child from birth. Get A1Cs every year and antibody testing.

I worried about eating healthy during my pregnancy, but then my doctor told me that babies are born healthy in famine stricken Ethiopia.

I do know one person who had a stillbirth after the whole Ashley Madison debacle, and her husband was on the list.