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Anonymous wrote:If you haven't dated I don't think you're asexual. You just haven't found someone you're attracted to and I believe you will and that could be a man or woman. I'm older than you and a virgin too. It just takes the right person to turn you on. Find what turns you on and go from there.

I was going to say this. The right person may change how you feel about sex.

Anonymous wrote:I want to get married so bad. I want someone to build a family with and have that happily ever after. I don't see myself alone. Here's the thing...

I think I'm asexual. I've never had ANY interest in sex. I don't think I have any hormonal issues. I loooove cutesy romantic stuff - holding hands, gifts, etc. - but sex? No. Couldn't care less.

So...how do I date? Can I get married? I hate saying this but the other asexual people I know are a bit ...odd. Like personality/interest wise I can't see us being compatible.

What do you think?

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Anonymous wrote:Guy here. I believe you OP. Your self description may be accurate,
but I want to mention the possibility that you may be wrong about yourself.

I dated a couple of women who had essentially no experience with orgasms before they met me, which in both cases was years after college. One of them had literally never had an orgasm and another had experienced what I gather were pretty small ones, and only when she was alone. Both had been sexual with men and vaguely enjoyed the companionship and some happy feelings about pleasing the men, but that was pretty much all they enjoyed. You could say I had a softer touch and was more attuned to their needs than their prior boyfriends had been and even they themselves had been. They ended up becoming almost insatiable. They couldn't believe what they had been missing.

I have no idea how often that kind of lack of self awareness happens.

Please call me

Or at least share your secrets. -Guy

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Guy here. I believe you OP. Your self description may be accurate,
but I want to mention the possibility that you may be wrong about yourself.

I dated a couple of women who had essentially no experience with orgasms before they met me, which in both cases was years after college. One of them had literally never had an orgasm and another had experienced what I gather were pretty small ones, and only when she was alone. Both had been sexual with men and vaguely enjoyed the companionship and some happy feelings about pleasing the men, but that was pretty much all they enjoyed. You could say I had a softer touch and was more attuned to their needs than their prior boyfriends had been and even they themselves had been. They ended up becoming almost insatiable. They couldn't believe what they had been missing.

I have no idea how often that kind of lack of self awareness happens.

Please call me

Anonymous wrote:Guy here. I believe you OP. Your self description may be accurate,
but I want to mention the possibility that you may be wrong about yourself.

I dated a couple of women who had essentially no experience with orgasms before they met me, which in both cases was years after college. One of them had literally never had an orgasm and another had experienced what I gather were pretty small ones, and only when she was alone. Both had been sexual with men and vaguely enjoyed the companionship and some happy feelings about pleasing the men, but that was pretty much all they enjoyed. You could say I had a softer touch and was more attuned to their needs than their prior boyfriends had been and even they themselves had been. They ended up becoming almost insatiable. They couldn't believe what they had been missing.

I have no idea how often that kind of lack of self awareness happens.

Anonymous wrote:If you haven't dated I don't think you're asexual. You just haven't found someone you're attracted to and I believe you will and that could be a man or woman. I'm older than you and a virgin too. It just takes the right person to turn you on. Find what turns you on and go from there.

Anonymous wrote:Do you come from a religious background?

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Anonymous wrote:Not to be gross, but do you masturbate?

I didn’t lose my virginity until I was 25 and like you I thought I might be asexual. I masturbated so I had the physical arousal part but didn’t really think about sex with another person that much and certainly never yearned for it. I would go on dates and kind of had fun making out with those men but never wanted it to go further. Then I got into my first relationship and started to understand wanting sex and really desiring it with my partner. I guess that would mean I’m “demisexual” because it seems I don’t have a sexual desire without a strong emotional connection. Within the bounds of a relationship I’m actually really high libido.

SO your man can look like humpty dumpty but as long as the emotional connection is there you have a high libido?

Anonymous wrote:Not to be gross, but do you masturbate?

I didn’t lose my virginity until I was 25 and like you I thought I might be asexual. I masturbated so I had the physical arousal part but didn’t really think about sex with another person that much and certainly never yearned for it. I would go on dates and kind of had fun making out with those men but never wanted it to go further. Then I got into my first relationship and started to understand wanting sex and really desiring it with my partner. I guess that would mean I’m “demisexual” because it seems I don’t have a sexual desire without a strong emotional connection. Within the bounds of a relationship I’m actually really high libido.