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Anonymous wrote:You’re only 2months pp and already working out 5 days per week? Go easy on yourself. You’ll lose the weight.

Why are people so judgy about this? If she’s comfortable and it makes her feel good, why not work out? My doctor told me that I could work out as soon as it felt good. There was no 6 week rule.

Your doctor is a moron. Giving birth is a physical trauma regardless of delivery mode. Most women will not regain full core function and pelvic floor function until at least a year postpartum. Most women have some degree of pelvic organ prolapse after delivering. Running or exercising too hard or lifting too much early postpartum is a great way to cause a prolapse, worsen a prolapse, or worsen diastasis recti (which everyone gets to some degree). But sure, you do you.

You sound super bitter. Different PP and started working out at 2-3 ish weeks postpartum, easing into it. I was lucky to have two easy deliveries and no tearing and there also was no 6 week wait for me. Not everyone has the same experience.

OP, lots of long walks will help. For me the only thing that really helped the weight come off was a Fitbit to track actual activity and cardio...

Different poster. Her tone is a bit harsh, but I think she means well. She's trying to highlight important information about pelvic floor health. Maybe she's just exasperated by how little time is spent educating pregnant women about these matters.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You’re only 2months pp and already working out 5 days per week? Go easy on yourself. You’ll lose the weight.

Why are people so judgy about this? If she’s comfortable and it makes her feel good, why not work out? My doctor told me that I could work out as soon as it felt good. There was no 6 week rule.

Your doctor is a moron. Giving birth is a physical trauma regardless of delivery mode. Most women will not regain full core function and pelvic floor function until at least a year postpartum. Most women have some degree of pelvic organ prolapse after delivering. Running or exercising too hard or lifting too much early postpartum is a great way to cause a prolapse, worsen a prolapse, or worsen diastasis recti (which everyone gets to some degree). But sure, you do you.

You sound super bitter. Different PP and started working out at 2-3 ish weeks postpartum, easing into it. I was lucky to have two easy deliveries and no tearing and there also was no 6 week wait for me. Not everyone has the same experience.

OP, lots of long walks will help. For me the only thing that really helped the weight come off was a Fitbit to track actual activity and cardio...

The vast majority of women tear. You are the exception, not the norm.’

You can also get you thyroid levels checked. Mine went way out of whack while breastfeeding.

Agree with others though- breastfeeding plus second baby. It’s a lot. Black spandex and big cozies sweaters for the win!

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You’re only 2months pp and already working out 5 days per week? Go easy on yourself. You’ll lose the weight.

Why are people so judgy about this? If she’s comfortable and it makes her feel good, why not work out? My doctor told me that I could work out as soon as it felt good. There was no 6 week rule.

Your doctor is a moron. Giving birth is a physical trauma regardless of delivery mode. Most women will not regain full core function and pelvic floor function until at least a year postpartum. Most women have some degree of pelvic organ prolapse after delivering. Running or exercising too hard or lifting too much early postpartum is a great way to cause a prolapse, worsen a prolapse, or worsen diastasis recti (which everyone gets to some degree). But sure, you do you.

You sound super bitter. Different PP and started working out at 2-3 ish weeks postpartum, easing into it. I was lucky to have two easy deliveries and no tearing and there also was no 6 week wait for me. Not everyone has the same experience.

OP, lots of long walks will help. For me the only thing that really helped the weight come off was a Fitbit to track actual activity and cardio...

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You’re only 2months pp and already working out 5 days per week? Go easy on yourself. You’ll lose the weight.

Why are people so judgy about this? If she’s comfortable and it makes her feel good, why not work out? My doctor told me that I could work out as soon as it felt good. There was no 6 week rule.

Your doctor is a moron. Giving birth is a physical trauma regardless of delivery mode. Most women will not regain full core function and pelvic floor function until at least a year postpartum. Most women have some degree of pelvic organ prolapse after delivering. Running or exercising too hard or lifting too much early postpartum is a great way to cause a prolapse, worsen a prolapse, or worsen diastasis recti (which everyone gets to some degree). But sure, you do you.

I agree with everything the PP said, but understand your frustration. After giving birth, you just want to feel like you have some control in your life and want to feel normal and achieving a goal weight is a nice concrete way of doing that. I gained 25 lbs during pregnancy and lost 10 lbs immediately after birth. Despite eating healthy and going on walks, the last 15 lbs stayed on until 4 months pp. I think it was hormonal.

OP here -

Thanks for all the real perspective and thanks for being kind.

I am going to try to accept my body for what it is right now and embrace it. I am going to try to spend less time worrying at this early stage and just eat healthy because it's good to do regardless.

Regarding the exercise - I was in great shape when I gave birth so I started yoga and pelvic floor work at 4 weeks PP and I'm pretty much back to my work out schedule now. I already have a prolapse from my first pregnancy and am under care of urogyn so I'm comfortable where I am with that. Also no crunching or diastasis recti compromising core work.

I appreciate the feedback. I also plan to follow up with a therapist for the amount of anxiety this is causing me

I think what you need right now is just mental acceptance. You sound like you have healthy habits and are still in a healthy body weight range, even if it's bigger than what you want. You have two little kids and a lot going on. I would just accept your bigger body for now. Buy some bigger clothes. In a year or two, if you're still bigger than you want, you can revisit.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You’re only 2months pp and already working out 5 days per week? Go easy on yourself. You’ll lose the weight.

Why are people so judgy about this? If she’s comfortable and it makes her feel good, why not work out? My doctor told me that I could work out as soon as it felt good. There was no 6 week rule.

Your doctor is a moron. Giving birth is a physical trauma regardless of delivery mode. Most women will not regain full core function and pelvic floor function until at least a year postpartum. Most women have some degree of pelvic organ prolapse after delivering. Running or exercising too hard or lifting too much early postpartum is a great way to cause a prolapse, worsen a prolapse, or worsen diastasis recti (which everyone gets to some degree). But sure, you do you.

I agree with everything the PP said, but understand your frustration. After giving birth, you just want to feel like you have some control in your life and want to feel normal and achieving a goal weight is a nice concrete way of doing that. I gained 25 lbs during pregnancy and lost 10 lbs immediately after birth. Despite eating healthy and going on walks, the last 15 lbs stayed on until 4 months pp. I think it was hormonal.

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Anonymous wrote:You’re only 2months pp and already working out 5 days per week? Go easy on yourself. You’ll lose the weight.

Why are people so judgy about this? If she’s comfortable and it makes her feel good, why not work out? My doctor told me that I could work out as soon as it felt good. There was no 6 week rule.

Your doctor is a moron. Giving birth is a physical trauma regardless of delivery mode. Most women will not regain full core function and pelvic floor function until at least a year postpartum. Most women have some degree of pelvic organ prolapse after delivering. Running or exercising too hard or lifting too much early postpartum is a great way to cause a prolapse, worsen a prolapse, or worsen diastasis recti (which everyone gets to some degree). But sure, you do you.

Anonymous wrote:You’re only 2months pp and already working out 5 days per week? Go easy on yourself. You’ll lose the weight.

Why are people so judgy about this? If she’s comfortable and it makes her feel good, why not work out? My doctor told me that I could work out as soon as it felt good. There was no 6 week rule.

Diligently track and count calories for a week. I was in your same boat and when I counted my calories I realized I was eating closer to 2500-3000 calories a day rather than 2000. Dh was trying to be supportive and picking up takeout on the way home and I was just eating too much and snacking more since I was home all day. I ended up doing meal replacement shakes for lunch and some bars because it was much easier to count calories. Once I got my portion sizes under control, I lost 20lbs in 4-5 months.

There is nothing more frustrating than breastfeeding and working out constantly and not losing- I get it. But you can’t outrun a bad diet/overeating. It took 2-3 weeks to solidify my new habits, but the weight loss made it so easy to stick with.

I bet you will lose at least half of that over the coming months. For me personally, my body hung on to about 6-7 lbs the entire time I was breastfeeding. A lot, but not all, of that was in my breasts themselves - I went from a B cup to a DD until I weaned! Sleep deprivation also makes weight loss hard, so it might get better when your baby starts sleeping through the night. Go easy on yourself!

You’re only 2months pp and already working out 5 days per week? Go easy on yourself. You’ll lose the weight.

Please have compassion on yourself. You just birthed a child and are working hard to sustain him/her! Being only 15 lbs up at 8 weeks pp is pretty darn impressive to me, especially since most women aren’t allowed to exercise til after the 6 week appointment. I also agree with whoever said the weight seemed to come off in a chunk, then plateau for a bit, then more. Breastfeeding for me was amazing and by the time I weaned- 12 months with my first, 18 months with my second- I weighed less than my pre-pregnancy weight (I’m average weight but with big boobs and moderately tall).

As someone else mentioned, if you feel yourself obsessing about it, I would consider talking to your OB about a therapist and possible PPA. It certainly doesn’t hurt to talk these things out with a trained professional.

Do not listen to Pp about stopping exercise- terrible advice! I agree with PPs that it’s hard for some women to lose the weight while breastfeeding. It’s a myth that it necessarily burns the weight right off.

Anonymous wrote:Give yourself at least 9 months to get back to your fighting weight ( but even up to one year is within normal range).

This. With my first i held onto the last 10 lbs until i weaned around 1. Dropped it in 2 months with no effort. Second kid is 15 months, still breasfeeding and i have and extra 12-15 and not in the same places qs last time. Give yourself some grace. Your body carried and sustained a human and is still doing it. Hormones are such a powerful thing too and are different with every baby.