As someone who was raised by stepmoms, I think it is possible to broach the topic, but only if you let her steer the conversation. NOT with her dad around is my suggestion, it's possible she feels judged by him. Ask about her health and well-being. See if she expresses goals of her own.

Anonymous wrote:It is futile, OP. The girl will always stay fat because her mother enabled her. She probably never knew what good nutrition was or regular exercise. The girl is 20, not 2. It is too late to change anything.

This.

Stepmom of obese SS 17 going on 18 whose mother never wanted to do the right thing.

Dh and I are here if he ever decides he wants to learn what a healthy lifestyle looks like (yes, we model it) - but until he chooses that, the only thing we can do is keep modeling the lifestyle we have chosen.

How does your DH not know if she has medical insurance?!!!

OP. We cook healthy meals. She’s always hungry, not just double servings, but triple and quadruple. Long walks are hard for her, she can barely last a mile. My own kids are pretty active and they like hanging out with her but even they commented that they cannot do a lot of stuff with her like hiking or kayaking or skiing. They don’t always want to play board games or watch TV.

About physician: I’m not sure if she sees anyone. Her dad tried to steer conversation about medical insurance and she said she hasn’t seen a doctor since she graduated high school😳

Does she see a physician? That would be her physician’s job, NOT her stepmother’s!!

Saved my life too. I suggested it.

Anonymous wrote:Ask if shes ever considered gastric bypass and offer to look into it with her.

this is what saved my life. I got it at 30, I wish I had gotten it earlier so I could have lived more of my life at a normal weight. I was an obese high schooler, obese in college, obese as an adult. Maxed out at almost 300lbs. Now I'm 150 (5lbs from "normal BMI") and doing so well.

Keep your mouth shut!!!