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Anonymous wrote:It’s a complex decision for sure. We are not waiting - we have been TTC our second for six months with one early loss along the way. We had already waited for about six months because of some health matters I was dealing with last year. We are beyond the window for our ideal age gap and now just seeing what happens. We know life happens in unexpected ways but waiting for a vaccine would mean a much bigger gap then we really envisioned. Who knows what they will say about how long you should wait to try after getting it or if there may be effects.

Good luck on your decision and TTC journey.

Off-topic, but can I ask how have you (or are you) making peace with not having the ideal age gap? I've also been TTC my second for 6 months, with a MMC at 3 months, and I'm having such a hard time with grieving how I thought my family would look as that age gap gets bigger every month I don't conceive. I'm hoping in 5 years I'll feel like a few months difference is no big deal, but now, in the moment, I'm really struggling with this. Especially as at this point, I'll also most likely be a year older by the time I have my second, and what that looks like for future family plans.

It does make me sad to think that they won’t be in the range of proximity that I hoped for because to me that was significant for their relationship. But I also know you can’t force your kids relationships and sometimes kids close in age don’t get along, while those far apart do. If the gap is under four years then I still have some hope, and we have... 9-10 months to try to make that happen. After we hit a point where it would be a four year gap, I think we will need to re-examine what we want to do. We both come from big extended families and for various reasons our existing kiddo won’t have that so a sibling or even siblings were really important to us. So I guess we modify what we dreamed of because we can’t do much else.

I'm moving forward. If we had a clear-cut timeline about when it would be widely accessible, I might wait. I'm in my TWW. If I conceived, and the vaccine is available in June for example, that wouldn't have felt worth the wait. I'd just continue to stay hunkered down and have hubby get vaccinated to offer some protection for late pregnancy. It would be a bummer to conceive in February and the vaccine is available in March. I'm in my mid- 30's so this is a factor. No-one has a crystal ball. Maybe the next president will be more planful and communicative. So, if I haven't conceived when a clear plan is laid out, I might reconsider.

Anonymous wrote:It’s a complex decision for sure. We are not waiting - we have been TTC our second for six months with one early loss along the way. We had already waited for about six months because of some health matters I was dealing with last year. We are beyond the window for our ideal age gap and now just seeing what happens. We know life happens in unexpected ways but waiting for a vaccine would mean a much bigger gap then we really envisioned. Who knows what they will say about how long you should wait to try after getting it or if there may be effects.

Good luck on your decision and TTC journey.

Off-topic, but can I ask how have you (or are you) making peace with not having the ideal age gap? I've also been TTC my second for 6 months, with a MMC at 3 months, and I'm having such a hard time with grieving how I thought my family would look as that age gap gets bigger every month I don't conceive. I'm hoping in 5 years I'll feel like a few months difference is no big deal, but now, in the moment, I'm really struggling with this. Especially as at this point, I'll also most likely be a year older by the time I have my second, and what that looks like for future family plans.

Yes. Id like to wait so I can be vaccinated before I become pregnant. It will make the pregnancy less stressful for me if I know I probably have immunity. You wont be able to get the vaccine after you are already pregnant. So I will wait to try after I have received a vaccine. But that is just me! Pregnancy brings out my anxiety. It would worry me the whole pregnancy otherwise.

It’s a complex decision for sure. We are not waiting - we have been TTC our second for six months with one early loss along the way. We had already waited for about six months because of some health matters I was dealing with last year. We are beyond the window for our ideal age gap and now just seeing what happens. We know life happens in unexpected ways but waiting for a vaccine would mean a much bigger gap then we really envisioned. Who knows what they will say about how long you should wait to try after getting it or if there may be effects.

Good luck on your decision and TTC journey.