Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do people really do this, OP?
So rude...

This is rude? It used to be considered a term of endearment. I guess in this day and age, being offended is trendy.

I went from a basic English word last name to a Spanish last name. It’s not common but also not hard to say or spell (we even dropped the Spanish pronunciation). I still get Mrs. A or weird spellings, even when responding to my messages. It took years before I realized one misspelling was an autocorrect mistake! I’ve literally never been offended by anyone as I know it’s not intentional. What I would LOVE, however, is if adults felt comfortable just using my first name. But it’s a show of respect from them. I just choose not to be offended by people doing their best and not intentionally trying to be disrespectful. Heck, even when I taught the 10 year old who called me every word Jeff has banned literally everyday, I wasn’t offended!

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You expect parents to call you Ms. Lastname? We are all adults. Parents and teachers should be on a first-name basis u less kids are present. So, in an email it should be addressing by first name.

Why? We are in a professional work environment. I am a teacher and have never once called a parent by their first name. I'm not friends with my students' parents. Boundaries people. I also don't accept Facebook friend requests from them. Are you suggesting I do that? Since we're all so friendly with each other?

In professional environments adults call one another by their first name. That does not mean you are friends in real life or on Facebook. It is what adults do with one another in professional environments.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do people really do this, OP?
So rude...

This is rude? It used to be considered a term of endearment. I guess in this day and age, being offended is trendy.

Do I walk around calling my students letters of the alphabet all year because they have African names that are difficult to pronounce? No, I learn to pronounce their name. It’s respect. Same needs to go for parents.

I'm sure people shorten your nickname to the letter "B" when you're not around.

Troll for sure. Never in my 30+ years as a teacher has this ever been an issue.

Most of us with long last names request that kids and teachers call us Mr/Mrs initial. It saves time, hassle and misspellings.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do people really do this, OP?
So rude...

This is rude? It used to be considered a term of endearment. I guess in this day and age, being offended is trendy.

Do I walk around calling my students letters of the alphabet all year because they have African names that are difficult to pronounce? No, I learn to pronounce their name. It’s respect. Same needs to go for parents.

Aaaaaaand there it is.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You expect parents to call you Ms. Lastname? We are all adults. Parents and teachers should be on a first-name basis u less kids are present. So, in an email it should be addressing by first name.

Why? We are in a professional work environment. I am a teacher and have never once called a parent by their first name. I'm not friends with my students' parents. Boundaries people. I also don't accept Facebook friend requests from them. Are you suggesting I do that? Since we're all so friendly with each other?

I always sign my first name with the teacher, I'd prefer that than 'Mrs.' But always refer to them as Ms./Mrs. whether it's writing or in person.

I do the same. Teachers respond and always sign off using their first name. From there, we're on a first name basis. Communication is maybe a couple of times a year. My senior sends a lot of emails due to meetings etc. He always adresses formally.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do people really do this, OP?
So rude...

This is rude? It used to be considered a term of endearment. I guess in this day and age, being offended is trendy.

Do I walk around calling my students letters of the alphabet all year because they have African names that are difficult to pronounce? No, I learn to pronounce their name. It’s respect. Same needs to go for parents.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You expect parents to call you Ms. Lastname? We are all adults. Parents and teachers should be on a first-name basis u less kids are present. So, in an email it should be addressing by first name.

Why? We are in a professional work environment. I am a teacher and have never once called a parent by their first name. I'm not friends with my students' parents. Boundaries people. I also don't accept Facebook friend requests from them. Are you suggesting I do that? Since we're all so friendly with each other?

I always sign my first name with the teacher, I'd prefer that than 'Mrs.' But always refer to them as Ms./Mrs. whether it's writing or in person.

Anonymous wrote:Do people really do this, OP?
So rude...

This is rude? It used to be considered a term of endearment. I guess in this day and age, being offended is trendy.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You expect parents to call you Ms. Lastname? We are all adults. Parents and teachers should be on a first-name basis u less kids are present. So, in an email it should be addressing by first name.

Why? We are in a professional work environment. I am a teacher and have never once called a parent by their first name. I'm not friends with my students' parents. Boundaries people. I also don't accept Facebook friend requests from them. Are you suggesting I do that? Since we're all so friendly with each other?

I guarantee that Mrs. Garabolinsky doesn’t automatically shorten the names of her students: Niraprathaki Ramachandriganipoor doesn’t get to be called “N” or
a nickname that she deems easier, even under the guise of an endearment. If Mrs, Garabolinsky wants to be called as such, then she tells her students and parents this at the beginning of every school year. Helpful to provide a backstory as to why, “I’m formal and proper and strict,” or “I’m very proud of my last name and here’s why” or “you need to be polite and respectful to me as your teacher and I will treat you with same respect and politeness.”

I’m on your side here, Mrs. Garabolinsky.

Mrs. Elizabeth Czechoslovakianname, Teacher

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You expect parents to call you Ms. Lastname? We are all adults. Parents and teachers should be on a first-name basis u less kids are present. So, in an email it should be addressing by first name.

Yes, adults set the example. You should call the teacher Ms. Lastname. You are not their friend.

You aren't friends or engaging socially. As a parent I would address a teacher or anyone I'm interacting with in a professional capacity) by their last name unless invited to do otherwise. In the case of my child's teacher, I would probably continue using the last name even then, so that I wouldn't slip and talk to the child about their teacher Larla, instead of using the last name and appropriate title (Mr., Ms., Miss, Mrs., Dr.) that the child is expected to use out of respect.

Anonymous wrote:You expect parents to call you Ms. Lastname? We are all adults. Parents and teachers should be on a first-name basis u less kids are present. So, in an email it should be addressing by first name.

Yes, adults set the example. You should call the teacher Ms. Lastname. You are not their friend.

I’m a teacher with a 3 syllable last name that isn’t complicated at all, but I don’t mind when anyone calls me Mrs. P. There are definitely bigger fish to fry.

Anonymous wrote:You expect parents to call you Ms. Lastname? We are all adults. Parents and teachers should be on a first-name basis u less kids are present. So, in an email it should be addressing by first name.

Why? We are in a professional work environment. I am a teacher and have never once called a parent by their first name. I'm not friends with my students' parents. Boundaries people. I also don't accept Facebook friend requests from them. Are you suggesting I do that? Since we're all so friendly with each other?

Anonymous wrote:Teach your students how to contact you if this means something to you. That's all.

Yep.