Please don't comment on her weight to her. Ever.

It’s more about what they look like.

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Anonymous wrote:My 11 1/2 year old is about 5 feet tall and weighs 78 pounds.

My 12 yr old child is skinny like that but she's taller. She's 12 years old. 5'7" and 95 lbs.

Your child is dangerously underweight.

Incorrect. She's normal weight for a child.

Anonymous wrote:eating disorder survivor here- 10 year olds have little to no control over their weight. my eating disorder started when I was 10 years old and gained 20 pounds in one year. I can vividly remember my mother telling my father that when we returned from my physical appt. I remember making it my goal to not gain any weight. And every single time I went to the doctor that year, the number went up by a pound or so. It drove me crazy and it was the beginning of a long battle with restricting food and extreme guilt about food.

They don't but their parents do.

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Anonymous wrote:My 11 1/2 year old is about 5 feet tall and weighs 78 pounds.

My 12 yr old child is skinny like that but she's taller. She's 12 years old. 5'7" and 95 lbs.

Your child is dangerously underweight.

eating disorder survivor here- 10 year olds have little to no control over their weight. my eating disorder started when I was 10 years old and gained 20 pounds in one year. I can vividly remember my mother telling my father that when we returned from my physical appt. I remember making it my goal to not gain any weight. And every single time I went to the doctor that year, the number went up by a pound or so. It drove me crazy and it was the beginning of a long battle with restricting food and extreme guilt about food.

Anonymous wrote:My kids don’t step on scales unless they’re at the doctors office, and then the doctor tells us if it’s a healthy weight or not. Please don’t have a scale around a 10 year old girl and fuss how much the number is. She will absolutely have issues with body and weight if you do.

This

It’s fine. She’s tall. ☺️

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Anonymous wrote:You mean a 10 year old who is 5' not a 5'10" girl, right?

99.99% sure that’s what she means. I was also confused at first.

Me too! My DD is 5’10 and 150 she looks great!

Here’s the cdc calculator with info on healthy ranges of BMI:
https://www.cdc.gov/healthyweight/bmi/calculator.html

Anonymous wrote:That is a normal height/weight ratio. The standard rule of thumb is 100 lbs at 5 feet, 5 lbs per inch of height thereafter. You may have an eating disorder, yourself. If so get it treated, don’t inflict it on your child.

That works for grownups but not necessarily for pre-pubescent kids.

That is a normal height/weight ratio. The standard rule of thumb is 100 lbs at 5 feet, 5 lbs per inch of height thereafter. You may have an eating disorder, yourself. If so get it treated, don’t inflict it on your child.

Anonymous wrote:My 11 1/2 year old is about 5 feet tall and weighs 78 pounds.

My 12 yr old child is skinny like that but she's taller. She's 12 years old. 5'7" and 95 lbs.

OP here, I should have used a comma. She is 10 years old. She is 5 feet tall. I think she could stand to be more active. Covid has slowed her down. I don't think we're due for a doctor appointment wellness check for another 9 months.

Fwiw, my DD was also right around 100 lbs at 10 yo and 5 feet. She was still 100 lbs at 5-1 and 5-2. Now she is 5’4”, 11 years old, and weighed 104 at her last doctor’s visit. As long as your kid is active and eats a relatively balanced diet, she’s fine!