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Anonymous wrote:Congrats! Our daughter’s nickname is different from her given name, and it can be a real pain especially, like Sarah nn Sadie, both her names are recognized as given names in their own right (unlike nicknaming a kid Peanut or something). I don’t think it’s weird for one to have the nn and not the other, just know that the “going by a nickname” can have drawbacks.

Can Sadie be her first name and Sarah her middle?

Sadie is a nickname for Sarah. What you propose is like naming a kid Tommy Thomas.

I think OP’s choices are lovely. We don’t have any twins but I have 2 who always use their whole name and one who uses a nickname. It’s fine.

Yeah, most people don't think of Sadie as a nickname for Sarah. I don't. Sarah isn't traditionally nicknamed in the way that Thomas is, so your analogy doesn't hold. Sadie and Sarah are two distinct names; at least with most nicknames, they're shorter and derived from the name itself. Calling Sarah Sadie is like people who name their kid Thomas and call him Chip.

Sadie has been a nickname for Sarah for over two hundred years, and eventually became a name of its own. Sally was a nickname for Sarah, too. So it was quite traditional, it's just not that common anymore.

If it's now so uncommon that no one knows it's a traditional nickname, that it is a traditional nickname doesn't matter. Again, it's like someone naming their kid Thomas and calling him Chip. Have fun explaining it, including the "it's been a nickname for over two hundred years" part. It gets old. (Which isn't to say the OP shouldn't do it, just to go into it knowing that it will be a PITA for her and her daughter.)

I would just name her Sadie. My husband has a nickname (that sounds like a real name) that is not related to his first legal name and he complains all the time about it.

All legal docs, professional stuff. drs appointments, etc are in his full name but he has to explain over and over what his nickname is when people call him by his full name. People get confused when they think his nickname is is real name and see a different full legal name on documents.

Sometimes he just doesn't correct people because he is so tired of doing it. He has even considered legally changing his name to his nickname but that would be a huge hassle.

Just name her the name you are going to use.

As a fellow over-thinker, I get where you are coming from. I like names that "match" in significance, formality, etc. My SIL has 3 girls, 2 with very feminine traditional family names to honor relatives, and 1 girl with a gender-neutral, probably more common for boys name they just liked, no significance. Drives me nuts.

I like Sarah and Caroline, calling them Sadie and Caroline. If those are the names that are meaningful to you I would stick with them. Sadie may to explain to some that Sadie is a nickname for Sarah, but that's no big deal. As someone with a 3 syllable name that people often shorten without my permission, just know that there are those types out there who will try to call her Carrie or another nickname, and having a sister with a nickname may seem like you don't mind nicknames and encourage this behavior, etc. Who knows, your daughter may decide she likes Carrie or a different nn altogether.

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Anonymous wrote:Congrats! Our daughter’s nickname is different from her given name, and it can be a real pain especially, like Sarah nn Sadie, both her names are recognized as given names in their own right (unlike nicknaming a kid Peanut or something). I don’t think it’s weird for one to have the nn and not the other, just know that the “going by a nickname” can have drawbacks.

Can Sadie be her first name and Sarah her middle?

Sadie is a nickname for Sarah. What you propose is like naming a kid Tommy Thomas.

I think OP’s choices are lovely. We don’t have any twins but I have 2 who always use their whole name and one who uses a nickname. It’s fine.

Yeah, most people don't think of Sadie as a nickname for Sarah. I don't. Sarah isn't traditionally nicknamed in the way that Thomas is, so your analogy doesn't hold. Sadie and Sarah are two distinct names; at least with most nicknames, they're shorter and derived from the name itself. Calling Sarah Sadie is like people who name their kid Thomas and call him Chip.

Sadie has been a nickname for Sarah for over two hundred years, and eventually became a name of its own. Sally was a nickname for Sarah, too. So it was quite traditional, it's just not that common anymore.

You are def overthinking

Our twins are Rosie (Rosemary) and Colleen

How about Callie for Caroline?

Anonymous wrote:Expecting girl twins at the end of the month. Very excited! Trying to nail down names. I really want to name one Sarah going by Sadie and the other Caroline. Is it weird for one to have and go by a nickname and one not to? I hate the names Carrie and Carly so those are not an option for Caroline. I love Sadie and have always wanted to name my daughter that (which is why I am not going with just Sarah no nickname) but I also recognize that Sadie is slightly cutesy, if you will, and want to give her the option of using something more formal if she chooses as she gets older. Also both Sarah and Sadie are very meaningful to our family. (Caroline is too, for that matter.)

Am I over thinking it?

Caroline doesn't need a nickname. It's a beautiful name. I don't think it's a name that needs a nickname at all. It perfect.

Sadie, however, I think is VERY cutesy. I think it's a good baby and child name, but it's not my favorite grown up name. Like, Elsie.

I like Caroline and Sarah. Why don't you do that?

I like your names, OP. And if Caroline thinks it's not fair that she doesn't have a nickname when she gets older, she will have plenty of options.

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Anonymous wrote:Congrats! Our daughter’s nickname is different from her given name, and it can be a real pain especially, like Sarah nn Sadie, both her names are recognized as given names in their own right (unlike nicknaming a kid Peanut or something). I don’t think it’s weird for one to have the nn and not the other, just know that the “going by a nickname” can have drawbacks.

Can Sadie be her first name and Sarah her middle?

Sadie is a nickname for Sarah. What you propose is like naming a kid Tommy Thomas.

I think OP’s choices are lovely. We don’t have any twins but I have 2 who always use their whole name and one who uses a nickname. It’s fine.

Yeah, most people don't think of Sadie as a nickname for Sarah. I don't. Sarah isn't traditionally nicknamed in the way that Thomas is, so your analogy doesn't hold. Sadie and Sarah are two distinct names; at least with most nicknames, they're shorter and derived from the name itself. Calling Sarah Sadie is like people who name their kid Thomas and call him Chip.

I think your plan is perfect! Dont change! Sarah and Caroline go nicely together. Caroline doesnt need a nickname just because you want to call Sarah Sadie.

Not an issue. A friend has Amelia and Josephine, who is called Jo. A neighbor has Maxwell (called Max) and Brendan. I also know identical twin girls, one with a nn and one without.

It’s not odd or unusual at all.

Anonymous wrote:Cara could be a nice for Caroline. Do you like that better?

Just don't use a nickname. You don't have to figure out a first name AND a nickname you like. Just the first name is fine.

I'm Elizabeth. No nickname. It's possible!

Not a big deal!

But, I do feel compelled to point out that you ultimately won't be able to decide what the girls go by once they get older. If you REALLY, REALLY hate Carrie, just keep in mind she may like it.

My daughter became amendment about calling herself by a nickname my husband doesn't like around age 7-8. He's the only one that still insists on always calling her by her full name.

Anonymous wrote:Name her what you want to call her. There is nothing controversial about the name Sadie. I have one of these nicknames used as my name, and frankly I would rather my nickname have been my name. When you get older and have to use your real name professionally, you don’t know what to introduce yourself as. Or you just kind of lose one.

This.

I’m over 60, and still have to pause when greeting someone over the phone to think about whether they know me by my given name or my nickname.

I made sure to give my kid a name that is very, very hard to nickname.

I hate nicknames. Can you tell?

Name her Sadie.

I think you're overthinking it regarding the twins/nickname thing and generally don't think it's weird to have a twin with a nickname and one without. (One of my twins has a nickname, but it's more like a shortened version of their given name - think Chris instead of Christopher, and the other twin just has a short given name - think Clara).

That said, I don't think Sadie makes sense as a nickname for Sarah and is going to be really confusing. I'd just name her Sadie, and/or maybe consider using Sarah as Caroline's middle name.