Anonymous
Post 10/23/2020 13:39     Subject: Re:Dating a party guy
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Does he live in a group house with a few other guys who like to play beer pong and act like they're still living in a fraternity house? If so, then you definitely need to move on.



No, he is very successful actually. Owns his own home in DC Proper. He is a consultant and started his own side company.


Is he black, and his name starts with M?


White, and name starts with D.
Anonymous
Post 10/23/2020 13:33     Subject: Dating a party guy
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:As a guy who had a similar lifestyle, it would be hard to find someone else like you. Maybe hold out a little longer and see if he picks up on it. My thing wasn’t as much partying, it was travel with a good amount of partying throw in. We would land and look at the departure board at Dulles and pick the next spot.

Dec - March were insane, NYE, bowl games, skiing, Super Bowl, winter beach trips, Europe, Asia, NCAA tournament, skiing again, beach again. At one point I was never in the same place for more than 3 days and didn’t walk through my front door for 3 months. Meeting someone that could keep up actually made me want to slow down.


This! You completely understand! I’m on a jet in every other week for work and parties are always available. We have the same lifestyle. It’s not as though we’re not compatible, asking for guidance on how to properly approach the discussion of quality “us” time without the needy aspect.


I already told you to just ask to have dinner alone! If you can't talk to him about this and you are having sex that is weird.
Anonymous
Post 10/23/2020 13:32     Subject: Re:Dating a party guy
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Does he live in a group house with a few other guys who like to play beer pong and act like they're still living in a fraternity house? If so, then you definitely need to move on.



No, he is very successful actually. Owns his own home in DC Proper. He is a consultant and started his own side company.


Is he black, and his name starts with M?
Anonymous
Post 10/23/2020 13:00     Subject: Dating a party guy
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:As a guy who had a similar lifestyle, it would be hard to find someone else like you. Maybe hold out a little longer and see if he picks up on it. My thing wasn’t as much partying, it was travel with a good amount of partying throw in. We would land and look at the departure board at Dulles and pick the next spot.

Dec - March were insane, NYE, bowl games, skiing, Super Bowl, winter beach trips, Europe, Asia, NCAA tournament, skiing again, beach again. At one point I was never in the same place for more than 3 days and didn’t walk through my front door for 3 months. Meeting someone that could keep up actually made me want to slow down.


This! You completely understand! I’m on a jet in every other week for work and parties are always available. We have the same lifestyle. It’s not as though we’re not compatible, asking for guidance on how to properly approach the discussion of quality “us” time without the needy aspect.


The fact that you view having reasonable needs as "needy" means you have some maturing to do. I sense you'll grow up, I doubt this guy will (at least on the same timeline).

It's ok to just put it out there, OP. You're afraid to because he'll say no or dodge the conversation. And you're probably correct. If he wanted to be a proper boyfriend he already would be. But talk to him anyway. The earlier you learn to advocate for yourself in a relationship, the better.
Anonymous
Post 10/23/2020 12:49     Subject: Re:Dating a party guy
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:What you describe here isn’t dating


This.

He's getting sex without having to actually have a relationship.

Stop being a doormat. This guy isn't the prize you think he is. Trust me, I'm married to a guy with money who is friends with legit billionaires, they poop and fart just like the rest of us.

"Hanging out with your friends isn't working for me anymore. I'd like for us to go on actual dates" If he protests, "this isn't the kind of relationship I want. Best of luck to you".







not OP but you sound kind of psycho
Anonymous
Post 10/23/2020 12:19     Subject: Dating a party guy
Anonymous wrote:As a guy who had a similar lifestyle, it would be hard to find someone else like you. Maybe hold out a little longer and see if he picks up on it. My thing wasn’t as much partying, it was travel with a good amount of partying throw in. We would land and look at the departure board at Dulles and pick the next spot.

Dec - March were insane, NYE, bowl games, skiing, Super Bowl, winter beach trips, Europe, Asia, NCAA tournament, skiing again, beach again. At one point I was never in the same place for more than 3 days and didn’t walk through my front door for 3 months. Meeting someone that could keep up actually made me want to slow down.


This! You completely understand! I’m on a jet in every other week for work and parties are always available. We have the same lifestyle. It’s not as though we’re not compatible, asking for guidance on how to properly approach the discussion of quality “us” time without the needy aspect.
Anonymous
Post 10/23/2020 12:15     Subject: Re:Dating a party guy
Anonymous wrote:Does he live in a group house with a few other guys who like to play beer pong and act like they're still living in a fraternity house? If so, then you definitely need to move on.



No, he is very successful actually. Owns his own home in DC Proper. He is a consultant and started his own side company.
Anonymous
Post 10/23/2020 12:12     Subject: Re:Dating a party guy
Anonymous wrote:What you describe here isn’t dating


This.

He's getting sex without having to actually have a relationship.

Stop being a doormat. This guy isn't the prize you think he is. Trust me, I'm married to a guy with money who is friends with legit billionaires, they poop and fart just like the rest of us.

"Hanging out with your friends isn't working for me anymore. I'd like for us to go on actual dates" If he protests, "this isn't the kind of relationship I want. Best of luck to you".





Anonymous
Post 10/23/2020 12:12     Subject: Dating a party guy
boat party summed it all up for me.
Anonymous
Post 10/23/2020 12:10     Subject: Dating a party guy
As a guy who had a similar lifestyle, it would be hard to find someone else like you. Maybe hold out a little longer and see if he picks up on it. My thing wasn’t as much partying, it was travel with a good amount of partying throw in. We would land and look at the departure board at Dulles and pick the next spot.

Dec - March were insane, NYE, bowl games, skiing, Super Bowl, winter beach trips, Europe, Asia, NCAA tournament, skiing again, beach again. At one point I was never in the same place for more than 3 days and didn’t walk through my front door for 3 months. Meeting someone that could keep up actually made me want to slow down.
Anonymous
Post 10/23/2020 12:10     Subject: Re:Dating a party guy
Does he live in a group house with a few other guys who like to play beer pong and act like they're still living in a fraternity house? If so, then you definitely need to move on.
Anonymous
Post 10/23/2020 12:06     Subject: Dating a party guy
Anonymous wrote:You're having trouble with a heavy drinker who parties a lot?

SHOCKING.


a heavy drinker they met who dating someone else at the time
Anonymous
Post 10/23/2020 12:05     Subject: Re:Dating a party guy
Anonymous wrote:I know this can be a hard decision op. Good Luck with it...If you are in a light mood and have a sense of humor see below..

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=_tO9dA2syYM


Awesome. Thank you! Not OP
Anonymous
Post 10/23/2020 12:04     Subject: Re:Dating a party guy
What you describe here isn’t dating
Anonymous
Post 10/23/2020 12:04     Subject: Dating a party guy
You're having trouble with a heavy drinker who parties a lot?

SHOCKING.