Anonymous wrote:For a person that likes frequent penetration sex:

1. To prevent utis You’ll need to get a bidet. They’re lots of types on amazon, preferably one with a spray, if no bidet. You can use a cup of water , just spread the legs and pour the water over your clit,labia etc. Rinse repeat at least 2-3 times before and after intercourse

2. Lube helps

3. Pain relievers help

4. What does your foreplay ritual look like? Maybe he takes so long because he is on a head trip.

OP has already stated that she does not like twice daily 20 minute long PIV intercourse. She shouldn’t be taking painkillers because of sex. The issue here is that her boyfriend needs to listen to her needs rather than Leading his demands Trump her comfort with twice daily 20 minute long intercourse which is pretty unreasonable by most women’s standards. Many women cannot physically tolerate intercourse that lasts 20 minutes much less twice a day. OP deserves a sex life that is pleasurable, and doesn’t leave her in pain

Anonymous wrote:For a person that likes frequent penetration sex:

1. To prevent utis You’ll need to get a bidet. They’re lots of types on amazon, preferably one with a spray, if no bidet. You can use a cup of water , just spread the legs and pour the water over your clit,labia etc. Rinse repeat at least 2-3 times before and after intercourse

2. Lube helps

3. Pain relievers help

4. What does your foreplay ritual look like? Maybe he takes so long because he is on a head trip.

This sound like a Rx for someone who is going to be trafficked and raped frequently. I am high drive, but I can't imagine being in a relationship where I was expected to lie down, use tons of lube, and take pain relievers to have sex multiple times a day. And no matter what OP is saying, I do think this frequency is contributing to his inability to orgasm in a reasonable amount of time. Personally, even as high drive as I can be, I'd try out going awhile, like at least 10 days, and see if he really needs 20+ minutes to come.

For a person that likes frequent penetration sex:

1. To prevent utis You’ll need to get a bidet. They’re lots of types on amazon, preferably one with a spray, if no bidet. You can use a cup of water , just spread the legs and pour the water over your clit,labia etc. Rinse repeat at least 2-3 times before and after intercourse

2. Lube helps

3. Pain relievers help

4. What does your foreplay ritual look like? Maybe he takes so long because he is on a head trip.

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Anonymous wrote:Do you live together?

OP here. We live together. He isn’t hurting me. I get sore but this is no abuse or violence. He has an issue where he can’t orgasm quickly and sex lasts 20+ minutes before he can orgasm. That’s a lot for me. I’ve had sex with past partners everyday but it was quickies and I was fine.

Yeah this is what I’m talking about. I posted earlier about not understanding when I was younger that the issue was him, not me. 20+ minute sex twice a day would make a lot of women sore. I think you need to explain to him that it’s not pleasurable for you because you are getting sore. Plus, if you only had sex once a day or once every other day, he probably would orgasm sooner.

OP here. We have had sex a couple do items a week when he was out of town or when we were sick, etc., and he still has the same issue. He said he has always and issue no matter the frequency or who he is with or by himself.

Well, that’s doesn’t mean you have to have intercourse until he come if that makes you sore. Have sex for as long as is comfortable for you, then ask him to stop and switch to something else. Hand job, oral, whatever.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you live together?

OP here. We live together. He isn’t hurting me. I get sore but this is no abuse or violence. He has an issue where he can’t orgasm quickly and sex lasts 20+ minutes before he can orgasm. That’s a lot for me. I’ve had sex with past partners everyday but it was quickies and I was fine.

He's being selfish. Once a day is fine. He can spank it if he needs to go again.

Except maybe the issue is that he is masturbating too much and that is why he is taking forever to orgasm.

Op, twenty minutes is “a lot” for most women. How old are you guys?

OP here. I’m 35 and he is 39.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you live together?

OP here. We live together. He isn’t hurting me. I get sore but this is no abuse or violence. He has an issue where he can’t orgasm quickly and sex lasts 20+ minutes before he can orgasm. That’s a lot for me. I’ve had sex with past partners everyday but it was quickies and I was fine.

Yeah this is what I’m talking about. I posted earlier about not understanding when I was younger that the issue was him, not me. 20+ minute sex twice a day would make a lot of women sore. I think you need to explain to him that it’s not pleasurable for you because you are getting sore. Plus, if you only had sex once a day or once every other day, he probably would orgasm sooner.

OP here. We have had sex a couple do items a week when he was out of town or when we were sick, etc., and he still has the same issue. He said he has always and issue no matter the frequency or who he is with or by himself.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you live together?

OP here. We live together. He isn’t hurting me. I get sore but this is no abuse or violence. He has an issue where he can’t orgasm quickly and sex lasts 20+ minutes before he can orgasm. That’s a lot for me. I’ve had sex with past partners everyday but it was quickies and I was fine.

He's being selfish. Once a day is fine. He can spank it if he needs to go again.

Except maybe the issue is that he is masturbating too much and that is why he is taking forever to orgasm.

Op, twenty minutes is “a lot” for most women. How old are you guys?

TMI. Must be a troll.

Anonymous wrote:Had too much sex a few days into our honeymoon and ended up with a UTI

What causes the UTI when there is too much sex?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you live together?

OP here. We live together. He isn’t hurting me. I get sore but this is no abuse or violence. He has an issue where he can’t orgasm quickly and sex lasts 20+ minutes before he can orgasm. That’s a lot for me. I’ve had sex with past partners everyday but it was quickies and I was fine.

Maybe if you guys had sex once every day or two, he could orgasm quicker. But I think you need to communicate your needs.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you live together?

OP here. We live together. He isn’t hurting me. I get sore but this is no abuse or violence. He has an issue where he can’t orgasm quickly and sex lasts 20+ minutes before he can orgasm. That’s a lot for me. I’ve had sex with past partners everyday but it was quickies and I was fine.

He's being selfish. Once a day is fine. He can spank it if he needs to go again.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you live together?

OP here. We live together. He isn’t hurting me. I get sore but this is no abuse or violence. He has an issue where he can’t orgasm quickly and sex lasts 20+ minutes before he can orgasm. That’s a lot for me. I’ve had sex with past partners everyday but it was quickies and I was fine.

Yeah this is what I’m talking about. I posted earlier about not understanding when I was younger that the issue was him, not me. 20+ minute sex twice a day would make a lot of women sore. I think you need to explain to him that it’s not pleasurable for you because you are getting sore. Plus, if you only had sex once a day or once every other day, he probably would orgasm sooner.

Anonymous wrote:Sexual incompatibility is a relationship killer. It will get worse for both of you.

+1

You guys aren’t sexually compatible. Sorry.

Anonymous wrote:Do you live together?

OP here. We live together. He isn’t hurting me. I get sore but this is no abuse or violence. He has an issue where he can’t orgasm quickly and sex lasts 20+ minutes before he can orgasm. That’s a lot for me. I’ve had sex with past partners everyday but it was quickies and I was fine.

Sexual incompatibility is a relationship killer. It will get worse for both of you.