When you are both ready. I don't really see what time in the pregnancy has to do with it!

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Anonymous wrote:Between the 3rd & 4rth.

Ooops

Is it presumes paternity even in this circumstance?

Ds was 5. We were fairly sure that we didn't want another one but we had DS on the younger side (I was 27 DH was 32). Well it was time for my IUD to come out and we were much more positive we only wanted one so DH got the vasectomy.

Anonymous wrote:We just had our 3rd kid and have talked about DH getting a vasectomy. We are 98% sure we are done having kids but are nervous about shutting the door completely. When did you schedule dh’s vasectomy? I am kind of thinking when the baby is 2 we will get it done since we will be out of the baby stage and most likely won’t be having more.

My husband had it when our last one was 6 weeks old. hahahaha!

My DH had it done ten days before DC2 was born.

Anonymous wrote:We just had our 3rd kid and have talked about DH getting a vasectomy. We are 98% sure we are done having kids but are nervous about shutting the door completely. When did you schedule dh’s vasectomy? I am kind of thinking when the baby is 2 we will get it done since we will be out of the baby stage and most likely won’t be having more.

I'd encourage you and your DH to discuss that 2% reservation that's holding you back. Is it one of your 2%, while the other is at 100%? What are the reasons for the 2%? Would banking sperm be an easy solution to get both of you (or the holdout, if there is only one), to 100%?

My story is that I was the 2% while my DH was 100%. I did exactly what you're suggesting-- asked to wait until DC3 was 2. I found out I was pregnant with DC4 weeks before the vasectomy. It was really hard on both of us individually, because by then I was also 100% sure I was done. So both of us were not happy about it. But it was also really hard on our marriage, because DH had a hard time not resenting the fact that I had been the hold out. Really, if one of you is 100% sure, then that's reason enough to do it ASAP.

FWIW, we decided to have DC4. He's awesome, and working through it has made our marriage stronger. But it could have gone the other way, and I definitely don't wish an unplanned, unwanted (at least initially!) pregnancy on anyone.

Good luck, OP!

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Anonymous wrote:As a man I would never get one.

Then I hope you wear condoms every time and always pull out.

This. Is was the best thing to ever happen to my husband’s sex life. But you do you, PP.

Right after last child was born. No reason to wait as we were done.

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Anonymous wrote:As a man I would never get one.

Then you are a selfish SOB.

And a wimp.

Anonymous wrote:As a man I would never get one.

Then you are a selfish SOB.

Anonymous wrote:We just had our 3rd kid and have talked about DH getting a vasectomy. We are 98% sure we are done having kids but are nervous about shutting the door completely. When did you schedule dh’s vasectomy? I am kind of thinking when the baby is 2 we will get it done since we will be out of the baby stage and most likely won’t be having more.

Immediately after third child was born. Why wait two years? He can freeze sperm in the event you (and I emphasIze YOU) want another child.

A month before my maternity leave was over.