Anonymous
10/15/2020 17:30
Subject: My husband doesn’t know how to give a hug
Anonymous wrote:Listen I don’t think anyone has mentioned this yet, but in addition to childhood trauma, many people with high functioning autism (what used to be called Aspergers) are lousy huggers. My daughter is one. As a small child she gave and received hugs gladly but it shifted as she grew up. She tolerates my hugs but freezes up and never hugs back. When I talk to her about it she says she gets a lot out of my hugs and doesn’t even realize she’s responding like a wooden soldier.
Awwww. I’m so glad you have spoken with her about it.
Anonymous
10/15/2020 15:16
Subject: My husband doesn’t know how to give a hug
Listen I don’t think anyone has mentioned this yet, but in addition to childhood trauma, many people with high functioning autism (what used to be called Aspergers) are lousy huggers. My daughter is one. As a small child she gave and received hugs gladly but it shifted as she grew up. She tolerates my hugs but freezes up and never hugs back. When I talk to her about it she says she gets a lot out of my hugs and doesn’t even realize she’s responding like a wooden soldier.
Anonymous
10/15/2020 15:10
Subject: My husband doesn’t know how to give a hug
Anonymous wrote:What has helped is my wife asking “could I have a hug?” and letting the answer be no if that’s the answer. Sometimes I have to take a moment to get centered before we hug
Your poor wife. What a lonely marriage for her.