I’m your age and single. Most guys are looking for sex, it’s really hard to find romance these days.

lol 'romance' is for twenty somethings not 44 year olds. be an adult.

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Anonymous wrote:I only ever wanted a great romantic love...and I got it. I have great education, hobbies, marriage, home, great kids, but I walked away from a wonderful career because I live in USA. I guess you cannot have everything.

You can though, many people do.

If you don't, that's on you. Not "fate." Do something about it if you are unhappy.

Well, I am not unhappy. In fact not working was the best thing that happened to me and my family, but DCUM thinks I should be sad. Of course it was not 'fate'. I decided that I had amassed enough wealth to not work anymore in a soul sucking corporate environment. I could not justify spending my lifetime working in an office. So there is that too.

Midlife crisis is real. Been 20+ years. At this point I stay out of habit. Romance has a shelf life. It too bad that we force ourselves to be unhappy because of our upbringing/religion/status quo. Oh well. DADT is what Clinton proposed in the military (and in his personal life, it seems). DADT works for many. More than most of us assume. I wouldn’t divorce. Why?! You have almost everything. But go find some romance. If you want.

Anonymous wrote:I only ever wanted a great romantic love...and I got it. I have great education, hobbies, marriage, home, great kids, but I walked away from a wonderful career because I live in USA. I guess you cannot have everything.

You can though, many people do.

If you don't, that's on you. Not "fate." Do something about it if you are unhappy.

I only ever wanted a great romantic love...and I got it. I have great education, hobbies, marriage, home, great kids, but I walked away from a wonderful career because I live in USA. I guess you cannot have everything.

I guess I'll be the naysayer. As someone who has been happily married to the same person for close to 20 years, I do think romantic love is real and that everyone deserves to find it and have it in their lives. I can't imagine my life without my DH. It would be bleak.

I say go find it, as long as you think you can respectfully co-parent with your ex.

Wait until your kids leave for college, then leave.

OP, you can absolutely have romantic love with someone else, but it will be a trade-off at this point.

Been married for a while to the same guy - we just don't love each other. Married because we thought it was the right thing to do but we aren't even friends.

I never understood this. How do people decide to get married if they are not totally in love with each other?!

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Anonymous wrote:I have to say OP if you've not "experienced romantic love" then that's about you, mostly. At 44 you're not going to find it anywhere else.

Make the best of what you have and be a better parent / partner in the family you have.

I didn’t say I haven’t experienced it. I have. In college and grad school. What I meant was that my life is full otherwise but I don’t have a loving relationship with my spouse.

Then do something about it.

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Anonymous wrote:I have to say OP if you've not "experienced romantic love" then that's about you, mostly. At 44 you're not going to find it anywhere else.

Make the best of what you have and be a better parent / partner in the family you have.

I didn’t say I haven’t experienced it. I have. In college and grad school. What I meant was that my life is full otherwise but I don’t have a loving relationship with my spouse.

Oh well.
What do you expect us to do about it?

Anonymous wrote:I have to say OP if you've not "experienced romantic love" then that's about you, mostly. At 44 you're not going to find it anywhere else.

Make the best of what you have and be a better parent / partner in the family you have.

I didn’t say I haven’t experienced it. I have. In college and grad school. What I meant was that my life is full otherwise but I don’t have a loving relationship with my spouse.

Anonymous wrote:Romance fades. I’d aim for mutual respect and support and great companionship.

Yes that’s what I want. I figured it’s part of romantic love. I don’t have it

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Anonymous wrote:OP, at 44 you sound more like an immature teenager

Get your sh*t together.

I see this stupid sh@t from so many men and women having midlife crisis.

Many had it in spades with their spouses in the early years. Unwilling to do any work and delusional about lifelong love.

Use RBG’s marriage as your model. Not Harlequain romance or Ashley Madison taglines.

Pathetic

Invoking RBG and then calling someone pathetic. Yes we’ll done.