Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Woman up and tell her to back off.

Bish cash me outside how bout that!!

Ya heard?

Anonymous wrote:Your husband should refer to you as mother.

Truly OP. This is all sounding very Mike and Mother Pence. It’s so bizarre how uncomfortable some married people are with their spouses doing things independently with people of a different sex.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Like others, this would make me uncomfortable. But it's also sad a woman can't be friends with a man unless his wife is included.

Does this apply to coworkers, too? There's a mid-60 year old woman at my husband's office that continuously throws herself at him (he is mid-40s).

I hit the roof when I found out they'd had 1:1 lunches during work. He was all, "but, her age?? And I don't find her attractive (she's not)" yet I'm sure she doesn't see it that way.

I think you overreacted.

Yeah, with that age difference and the situation (lunch? during work hours? really?), I wouldn't worry about it at alllll. You sound insecure.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Like others, this would make me uncomfortable. But it's also sad a woman can't be friends with a man unless his wife is included.

Does this apply to coworkers, too? There's a mid-60 year old woman at my husband's office that continuously throws herself at him (he is mid-40s).

I hit the roof when I found out they'd had 1:1 lunches during work. He was all, "but, her age?? And I don't find her attractive (she's not)" yet I'm sure she doesn't see it that way.

Your reaction is over the top. Unless you find other suspicious things around their working relationship, a 1:1 lunch during work is not out of the ordinary.

The drinks thing and the restaurant thing are weird.

I'm a relatively recent divorcee, with many couple friends, and I almost never text the "husband" without including the "wife."

Sometimes it feels awkward, because previously I would have just texted the "husband" if the thing I was asking about pertained to only them (like a soccer team we both coach), but now I always include the wife.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Like others, this would make me uncomfortable. But it's also sad a woman can't be friends with a man unless his wife is included.

Does this apply to coworkers, too? There's a mid-60 year old woman at my husband's office that continuously throws herself at him (he is mid-40s).

I hit the roof when I found out they'd had 1:1 lunches during work. He was all, "but, her age?? And I don't find her attractive (she's not)" yet I'm sure she doesn't see it that way.

I think you overreacted.

Block her number from his phone
I would just ghost

Anonymous wrote:Woman up and tell her to back off.

Bish cash me outside how bout that!!

Anonymous wrote:Op, how does she indicate she wants to hang out with only him? I would assume the invites are for both of you unless she uses specific language to exclude you.
"Hey you wanna go on a hike today?" I would assume she means the whole family, with her and her kids.

"Hey do you want to go on a hike today, just the two of us? " That's different.

Hahahahaha yeah right.

Op, how does she indicate she wants to hang out with only him? I would assume the invites are for both of you unless she uses specific language to exclude you.
"Hey you wanna go on a hike today?" I would assume she means the whole family, with her and her kids.

"Hey do you want to go on a hike today, just the two of us? " That's different.

Op, what do you mean she is a nice person??!! You have no standards. That is your fault.

She obviously wants to spend time with your husband. Husband needs to start ignoring her texts outright and you only communicate with her. Just say husband is busy with work.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This isn’t your husband, is it (with details shifted)?

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/915511.page

Wait, what? Isn’t this a DH posting above? And the OP of this thread is a DW.

I think it’s the same OP, with details changes. She/he is trying to work something out - who knows if it’s the DW, DH or troll.

The neighbor sounds lonely and lost, which is sad, but your DH should not be a stand-in for male companionship. It is not appropriate for her to create a social relationship with him alone that includes drinking and dinners.

If you have known her a while and she's really a decent person I would chalk this up to loneliness. DH should decline future solo meetings, but maybe you both can check in with her from time to time. I hope she finds her way through the grief.

Your husband should refer to you as mother.