It's not true for everyone, but more importantly do you care?

They want a mini-me

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it is because men leave and don't keep the relationship with their family of origin up as much as a woman.

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This. Girls will take care of you when you're older. More time with grandchildren. Not having to navigate tricky DIL dynamics. Less likely your daughters will be involved in criminal activity.

Disagree. I am one of two girls and our parents do not expect us to take care of them when they are older. They are older now. Grandparents love my two boys as much as their granddaughters

Also, HUGE PLUS.... BOYS DON"T get pregnant. LOL

Anonymous wrote:The Ramona books in particular are the exact type of things more parents should read with their sons. Those aren't "girly" books - they're about a little kid doing little kid stuff. Girls read millions of similar books about boys and manage to identify with them.

My boys loved the Ramona books! Ramona is also in the Henry Huggins books.

The Ramona books in particular are the exact type of things more parents should read with their sons. Those aren't "girly" books - they're about a little kid doing little kid stuff. Girls read millions of similar books about boys and manage to identify with them.

Anonymous wrote:For me it was being able to re-write the crappy mother-daughter experience I had with my own mother, and also being able to experience certain childhood things all over again: the Ramona books, certain toys, certain activities. Obviously there are no guarantees, but I've gotten such a big kick out of sharing things with my daughter that my son doesn't quite appreciate as much. (Of course he and I have certain things too that we share.)

I read those with my boys. I've enjoyed raising them and showing them "girl" type things I enjoyed as a kid. Children aren't biased like adults are. My younger son loves the color pink. We should avoid stereotyping and pigeonholing our on kids into gender "norms". They miss so much that way.

Anonymous wrote:I think it is because men leave and don't keep the relationship with their family of origin up as much as a woman.

+1
This. Girls will take care of you when you're older. More time with grandchildren. Not having to navigate tricky DIL dynamics. Less likely your daughters will be involved in criminal activity.

For me it was being able to re-write the crappy mother-daughter experience I had with my own mother, and also being able to experience certain childhood things all over again: the Ramona books, certain toys, certain activities. Obviously there are no guarantees, but I've gotten such a big kick out of sharing things with my daughter that my son doesn't quite appreciate as much. (Of course he and I have certain things too that we share.)

Anonymous wrote:2 sons here and I wouldn’t have it any other way.

Same. I actually wanted and prayed for boys. I am one of 5 girls and I didn't want more than one daughter. If my first had been a girl, she would have been an only.

OP why did you post here when there’s a separate post on this?! Do you even have kids? I think you’re being mean. You have no idea until you’re in someone else’s shoes.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have both. I already am upset about having to be a mil one day. Men grown up and don’t care for their families

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Girls get married too, PP. This one is weird.

No one wants to have a daughter in law.

You recognize this is nuts, right? Life isn't a Cathy comic. Plenty of people have healthy relationships with their families, including in laws.

But I think a woman who would be upset to have a son because an unnamed future woman will steal him from the family is probably the type of MIL that everyone loves to hate, so have fun with your self-fulfilling prophecy.

Anonymous wrote:2 sons here and I wouldn’t have it any other way.

Same.

I never had the "urge" to have a girl. Actually I hoped for a son as my first born, then I wanted another boy so they could be BFFs.

I have friends with girls and I don't feel like I am missing out on anything. Less drama and less tantrums for sure! lol.

Anonymous wrote:Weird, I always see people disappointed they didn't have a boy.

Are these people in DC?

I think there's often a regional trend. People on the coasts tend to prefer girls, whereas people in red state areas have a higher tendency to prefer boys.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have both. I already am upset about having to be a mil one day. Men grown up and don’t care for their families

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Girls get married too, PP. This one is weird.

No one wants to have a daughter in law.

I didn't care if I had boys or girls, but perhaps because the example in my family was that the men (both my father, and my two grandfathers) were close to their families of origin. This was in a rural area in Virginia. My husband also could not have been a better or more tender caretaker for his mother when she needed him as she became elderly. I didn't have any preexisting expectations that my sons (2) or my daughter (1) were going to end up as more dutiful/closer/loving to their parents.