Anonymous wrote:My goal for my older kids is just to get them to manage their own work the first semester. I don't care how they do, I need them just to learn to do it and double check that they've done it.

I had this goal too, but the teachers aren’t even facilitating that for the kids to be able to do.

I thought I was doing ok at first because everything seemed centralized. now it’s starting to fall apart because the teachers don’t put all the independent assignments in one place. we’re in 3rd with a deparmentalized class, so there are 3 different teachers putting independent assignments in 4-5 different places, including verbally to the kids.

How to cope with the frustration? I am frustrated when the teacher e-mails that we are missing an assignment. This is 1st grade. This is not developmentally appropriate. On top of this the teacher my DD has is slightly depressed herself so it makes things worse. After listening to her teach that 1 +3 = 3 +1 over and over again I'm dead.

I was having these issues in the spring. I pulled them out of school and am homeschooling instead. It’s pretty easy to stay on top of it since I am in charge of it, there are no platforms, and it occurs around my schedule.
Bonus, grandparents and family can help out over FaceTime or zoom.

Same, PP. We have been homeschooling for a few weeks now and it is so much less stressful. We are trying out different curriculums and doing it on our schedule. Not perfect, but 95% less stress on the family as a whole, and they are learning.

The level of organization expected of elementary school students at our FCPS school (multiple transitions, breaks, links, assignments, plaforms) was in my opinion more than most college kids typically handle.

Yes. Parents and kids are struggling. It’s not working: the 4 schedules in one house, no ones really learning, refusing to do the work activities, different work groups every day getting missed, everyone angry or sad or giving up.

Yup. Every day I’m realizing something new for my 5th grader’s schooling (some assignment he’s missed, some folder we haven’t checked with reading materials). My first grader was 20 minutes late yesterday for her math class. (We told her to log on and she logged onto the wrong session). Every time I think we’ve got a groove and getting the hang of things I find we’re just as disorganized as ever. I’ve never felt a desire to quit my job until now.

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Anonymous wrote:This is a rhetorical question, right?

Not rhetorical because I can’t imagine so many high achieving parents letting their kids get bad grades and not turn in homework. Seriously, I am doing okay with 3-4 hours of work now but in the coming weeks that will not fly. I presume most of you have pretty demanding jobs. How are you able to turn off hitting all your deadlines? Because this feels like a lot of extra deadlines for me. Are you letting the teachers know it’s too much or somehow becoming apathetic about your kids’ performance? Are you worried your children will learn grades don’t matter or are you having discussions about this?

To the PP above who’s not struggling, how old are your kids and what school district are they in?

High achieving PP here, and I'm letting the ball drop on homework for my K student 100%

I actually feel like this is good for both of us. UMC parents have been way too involved in their kids education, stepping in at every point to ensure there is never any failure.

We’re doing this too, one kid will not so her assignments during break. We don’t have time to discipline her over and over on this.

So the balls are dropping, the child is not learning math or the materials. outcomes are not being met.

And then there is the siblings fighting during breaks. Lovely. Ages 4-8. Virtual schooling fall 2020z. It was a fun novelty in spring but now it’s a nightmare for th e kids, their education, parents job, stress of all.

So make it less stressful, drop the chain, you cannot so everyone’s job for them. Show they what they created.

DS is more proficent in google classroom and zoom. So its been very challenging start using google meet and canvas. Canvas is challenging so far. Each teacher posts info differently. its like a treasure hunt trying to find stuff. Finally was able to download the app to tablet so hope DS will become less dependent on us. Strangly the app is easier to find assignments compare to desktop site. Some teachers are having technical issues and posting assignmens multiple times. some teachers dont give a hoot and want you to figure it out. sigh I hate DL. I also try to remember my coworkers are dealing with the same thing. So I refrain from getting annoyed with them about work related stuff. I cant wait for 2020 to be over.

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Anonymous wrote:This is a rhetorical question, right?

Not rhetorical because I can’t imagine so many high achieving parents letting their kids get bad grades and not turn in homework. Seriously, I am doing okay with 3-4 hours of work now but in the coming weeks that will not fly. I presume most of you have pretty demanding jobs. How are you able to turn off hitting all your deadlines? Because this feels like a lot of extra deadlines for me. Are you letting the teachers know it’s too much or somehow becoming apathetic about your kids’ performance? Are you worried your children will learn grades don’t matter or are you having discussions about this?

To the PP above who’s not struggling, how old are your kids and what school district are they in?

We had two weeks of battles to get our second grader to do daily assignments. It’s covering up what’s working and not working for virtual learning for our student and the school

Tonight we told our 2nd grader the following:
Listen to your teacher’s lessons and assignments directions. Participate as much as you can in class.
Do your assignments the best you can and post them.
Ask us anytime if you need help.

After two weeks of this we will call the teacher and ask how the child is doing both in class and with the short assignments.

I just want to add that during the teacher call if they acknowledge how little my kid is participating and how few homeworks have been turned in, we will demand a solution. Change of teacher, daycares facilitator, in person education, our tuition back, etc. It is a private school.
The teacher and school need to hear and know that they are failing some/many of their young students: failing to teach them well, failing to engage them well, failing their progress, failing their development.

But it’s a sad day in this town where the only education choices are screen time classes and assignments OR a parent quits their job to homeschool or pays an in person tutor $100/ hour. And good luck if you have more than one young kid not motivated by virtual teaching.

Spring was a disaster for my K and 1 with me being pregnant plus having a 2 year old. Our district, like many, struggled with virtual technology and my children’s engagement lasted about an hour. Right now I have a good friend who is a young, former ES teacher running a mini school out of her home for 4 children. My kids are thriving especially my K who in four weeks has become addicted to learning words and reading. Our driveway is full of her chalk words. I’d love for them to be back in school full time but I believe this is much better for them than virtual or hybrid especially at their age.

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Anonymous wrote:This is a rhetorical question, right?

Not rhetorical because I can’t imagine so many high achieving parents letting their kids get bad grades and not turn in homework. Seriously, I am doing okay with 3-4 hours of work now but in the coming weeks that will not fly. I presume most of you have pretty demanding jobs. How are you able to turn off hitting all your deadlines? Because this feels like a lot of extra deadlines for me. Are you letting the teachers know it’s too much or somehow becoming apathetic about your kids’ performance? Are you worried your children will learn grades don’t matter or are you having discussions about this?

To the PP above who’s not struggling, how old are your kids and what school district are they in?

High achieving PP here, and I'm letting the ball drop on homework for my K student 100%

I actually feel like this is good for both of us. UMC parents have been way too involved in their kids education, stepping in at every point to ensure there is never any failure.

Yes. I also think they should give them Mondays off. My friend’s school district gives each child two assignments per day that are a Must Do and two Could Do. You can do these asynchronous or log on and listen to class. All assignments need to be handed in by the Sunday of the assigned week. Much better, more flexibility.

All these different portals and apps and one thing and another. We’re done with it already. Especially with younger kids who need assistance.

Same here! I have a preschooler whose preschool is closed, plus a young elementary kid. He's not always paying attention during class, he doesn't really follow where the assignments are... it's a mess. Trying to get any work done or even watch the preschooler and do something meaningful with him at the same time is a nightmare. It feels like the whole day is totally disjointed. No one can do anything for more than a few minutes without being interrupted.

In or there words, we are no longer doing check ins on outstanding work and then fighting about doing the work, or reteaching lessons to an anxious kid.

We are all going to be calm and peaceful and do our own work, myself included. If my child doesn’t learn anything for three months, so be it. That is what the school provided, it didn’t work for my child, so be it.

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Anonymous wrote:This is a rhetorical question, right?

Not rhetorical because I can’t imagine so many high achieving parents letting their kids get bad grades and not turn in homework. Seriously, I am doing okay with 3-4 hours of work now but in the coming weeks that will not fly. I presume most of you have pretty demanding jobs. How are you able to turn off hitting all your deadlines? Because this feels like a lot of extra deadlines for me. Are you letting the teachers know it’s too much or somehow becoming apathetic about your kids’ performance? Are you worried your children will learn grades don’t matter or are you having discussions about this?

To the PP above who’s not struggling, how old are your kids and what school district are they in?

We had two weeks of battles to get our second grader to do daily assignments. It’s covering up what’s working and not working for virtual learning for our student and the school

Tonight we told our 2nd grader the following:
Listen to your teacher’s lessons and assignments directions. Participate as much as you can in class.
Do your assignments the best you can and post them.
Ask us anytime if you need help.

After two weeks of this we will call the teacher and ask how the child is doing both in class and with the short assignments.