Can we assume OP that you are not having much sex with him these days due to your lack of interest? So I think you should appreciate the fact his alternative source is online and not IRL.

Man here. It's the hottest site on the internet now, so I can see why he was curious. Think of it like Instagram except you pay to see the content, and there are more likely to be nudes. I doubt some woman with 15k followers is going to start long conversations with your husband.

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Are you sure it's not spam, and that he really did sign up for the site? Kind of like how you read about something on DCUM, then find that the ads all hawk that item or service?

Oh yea he definitely signed up. As soon as I saw it I said something. He looked shocked, told me he was curious but already deleted it, asked me why I was going through his phone and then he started crying apologizing

No idea what 'only fans' is. I assumed it meant you were on someone's twitter/facebook/instagram and could only post compliments. Duh.

Crying/apologizing so immediately seems extreme and seems a little over the top. I'd wonder what else he was up to. Having said that, I don't care about porn, but it's a lousy feeling when you are pregnant, combined with the fact he is taking money out of the mouth of his child by spending it on porn. Dumb. Sad. "thanks dad"

Anonymous wrote:Not everyone on there is selling nudes or sex videos. Some celebrities and athletes use it to connect with fans and make money at same time. It is basically Square for digital content in the fact that is a platform that lets you collect money while providing a fence to your content.

Sounds like the site's marketing department found this thread....

OP, you're right that he likely has scrubbed other stuff now. And there probably was other stuff on his phone, tablet, laptop. I'm sorry. I'd move fast to get into serious couples counseling because the trust and dignity of the marriage is truly compromised. He needs to come clean about what else he's been viewing/doing or it'll be hard to trust that tearful apology he made. I'd make intensive counseling a requirement if he claims to want to keep the marriage. Yeah, I take this kind of crap seriously.

Not everyone on there is selling nudes or sex videos. Some celebrities and athletes use it to connect with fans and make money at same time. It is basically Square for digital content in the fact that is a platform that lets you collect money while providing a fence to your content.

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Anonymous wrote:This would be a dealbreaker for me. It's amazing to me how low the bar is for men- apparently now women are okay with them literally paying for sex acts. Pathetic society

He's not "paying for sex acts". It's all digital.

Digital doesn’t mean it’s not sexual or immoral. Child porn is digital.

Exactly

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Anonymous wrote:I’d go nuclear on him.

I did something similar when my H was being a creep while I was pregnant. We were on vacation, so I packed up, went home, and moved out. Didn’t move back in until I made it very clear that if it ever happened again, he would lose half his money, half his time with his child, and would never see me again.

I know people will say it’s too extreme but I’ve learned that men don’t GAF unless there are severe consequences. Act like a dog, get treated like one.

Yes, I agree with that philosophy. Doormats always lose.

This is 100% accurate but people dont want to acknowledge it

Anonymous wrote:I’d go nuclear on him.

I did something similar when my H was being a creep while I was pregnant. We were on vacation, so I packed up, went home, and moved out. Didn’t move back in until I made it very clear that if it ever happened again, he would lose half his money, half his time with his child, and would never see me again.

I know people will say it’s too extreme but I’ve learned that men don’t GAF unless there are severe consequences. Act like a dog, get treated like one.

Yes, I agree with that philosophy. Doormats always lose.

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Anonymous wrote:If he's 'chatting' with stars who have 1000s of followers do you really care.

I get if he's having real conversations with women and requesting certain things that they then do...

I don’t know if he chatted with anyone. I guess I confronted the situation too early before I could search more. I’m sure everything is wiped clean now. He says he was curious, signed up and then deleted it. He’s not dumb though, he knew what it was when he signed up. Im apparently the ignorant one because I’ve never even heard of this. 😔

We have a really good marriage, 1 kid here 1 on the way. He is sleeping upstairs, I told him I didn’t want to see him tonight. But to answer your question, I think sexting anyone is a form of cheating

Make an appt w a CSAT therapist. You found the tip of the iceberg and he wanted to be found out bcs he's out of control w his anxiety

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Anonymous wrote:This would be a dealbreaker for me. It's amazing to me how low the bar is for men- apparently now women are okay with them literally paying for sex acts. Pathetic society

He's not "paying for sex acts". It's all digital.

Digital doesn’t mean it’s not sexual or immoral. Child porn is digital.

I mean, it might be a digital image, but it’s illegal/immoral because there is a real child being hurt somewhere. If it were just a cartoon of a child it would be creepy and gross, but not illegal.

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Anonymous wrote:This would be a dealbreaker for me. It's amazing to me how low the bar is for men- apparently now women are okay with them literally paying for sex acts. Pathetic society

He's not "paying for sex acts". It's all digital.

Digital doesn’t mean it’s not sexual or immoral. Child porn is digital.

Anonymous wrote:This would be a dealbreaker for me. It's amazing to me how low the bar is for men- apparently now women are okay with them literally paying for sex acts. Pathetic society

He's not "paying for sex acts". It's all digital.

Anonymous wrote:If he's 'chatting' with stars who have 1000s of followers do you really care.

I get if he's having real conversations with women and requesting certain things that they then do...

I don’t know if he chatted with anyone. I guess I confronted the situation too early before I could search more. I’m sure everything is wiped clean now. He says he was curious, signed up and then deleted it. He’s not dumb though, he knew what it was when he signed up. Im apparently the ignorant one because I’ve never even heard of this. 😔

We have a really good marriage, 1 kid here 1 on the way. He is sleeping upstairs, I told him I didn’t want to see him tonight. But to answer your question, I think sexting anyone is a form of cheating

If Anthony Weiner had just waited 10 years he could have sent his d**k pics to these women and they wouldn't have given a flying f about sexual harassment.

Well...who did he sign up for? Bella Thorne? Come on don't leave us hanging.