Very sweet. Keep doing this. It will probably only last a couple more years now. These days will vanish like morning mist before you know it.

- Mom of college kids.

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Anonymous wrote:I am just put off by the idea that she requires it. Does that mean she asks, or she demands?

This. How's her behavior otherwise? You are the parent, you decide whether she gets the song.

DP. I would consider whether she just likes it to go to sleep, or can't sleep unless you do it. I had a roommate in college whose parents had always helped her go to sleep (only child). She was so used to it, it was really hard for her to go sleep alone. This led to umm, strange situations where there would be guys over just because she hated going to sleep by herself.

We still read to our 12 year old at bedtime. It’s been the bedtime routine since he was born, we all like it, so why not? If your routine is singing, I’d still think why not keep it unless you don’t want to do it anymore. No need to phase it out,

Anonymous wrote:I am just put off by the idea that she requires it. Does that mean she asks, or she demands?

This. How's her behavior otherwise? You are the parent, you decide whether she gets the song.

My dd is almost 13 and still wants us to snuggle every night. It’s not a bad thing unless it takes longer than you would like—like if she demands you stay until she’s completely out and it takes awhile...that is the only reason I would stop.

Anonymous wrote:Ferber chapter 4 sleep associations. Her friends will tell her it’s weird or she’ll suspect it’s weird and tell you to stop one day. Also means she doesn’t have another parent in the picture that ever puts her to bed? But yes sweet thing between you two.

Not OP, but I still sing to my boys even on the nights my DH puts them to bed. I go in after they are done reading. DD, however, is not interested in my singing even on the nights I put her to bed.

Another of the sad losses of the pandemic is that my 11yo DD insisted we walk her to her classroom door (not front door!) every day. I love/hated it. Sometimes she'd even let me hold her hand the whole way in. There was maybe one other kid whose parents consistently did this too. I assume when school back #1 no parents will be allowed in school and #2-by time there's anything close to normal she'll have moved past it. FWIW she's a very independent kid-not shy or clingy.

Please don't stop because you think it might be weird. It is sweet, she is still a child, and these are hard times on kids.

My daughter (12) and I usually read each other to sleep. I am a single mom and my daughter and i have lived in a huge basement studio apartment since she was 18 months old. We each have a queen size bed but often co-sleep. We settle in to bed for the evening around 8:00 with a mug of tea and read to each other from our books. She will be asleep by 8:30 and I shortly thereafter.

She often sleeps at her grandparent's house on weekends (gives me a break and a chance to date) and they play soft music that drifts into her bedroom. She has quite a range of musical appreciation!

I think it's great. She's old enough to remember it forever, too. Good job mom.

Our dad would sing us to sleep. parents never read us stories at bedtime; they were too exhausted by then. But singing was better anyway.

Anonymous wrote:Sometimes I think it’s weird and need to phase it out and other times I think it’s sweet and I need to hang onto it.
Thoughts?

My daughter wanted me to do this when she was that age too. It lasted until around 11 or 12 years old and her bedroom routines just kind of changed as she got older. She is 16 now and no harm came from it. They grow up so quickly - I wouldn't worry about it!

I am just put off by the idea that she requires it. Does that mean she asks, or she demands?

If you don’t mind doing so, it’s lovely.

Enjoy it while it lasts. Soon (age 12/13)you will be persona non grata.