Anonymous
Post 09/02/2020 20:57     Subject: Re:Am I being too sensitive about doctors COVID statement?
Anonymous wrote:Sounds like she hates her job, and has poor bedside manner. Switch doctors. Also, pregnancy MIGHT be at an increased risk, not ARE at an increased risk, according to the CDC.


This. There's no particular reason to think COVID presents a risk to the baby's development. However, pregnancy is quite hard on the body, which does make you more vulnerable to complications related to COVID. Overall, though, the risk is still rather low for younger, healthy women.

The OB was needlessly alarmist. At worst, they don't know the current literature. At worst, they know, but were exaggerating the risks to make a point. Either way, I wouldn't trust them.
Anonymous
Post 09/02/2020 20:35     Subject: Am I being too sensitive about doctors COVID statement?
OP, two of my sister's have brand new grandchildren that were born during the pandemic and are perfectly healthy. I know the mother's and babies were very fortunate but just wanted to share some positive news.

I wish you well.
Anonymous
Post 09/02/2020 20:30     Subject: Am I being too sensitive about doctors COVID statement?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:What are the risks? Stillbirth, clotting issues, placental abruption?

If you look at data, hospitalizations from COVID are bottoming out, as are deaths. I guess if you're obese and have pre-existing conditions, yea, COVID would be the straw to break the camel's back but to a healthy pregnant woman...why scare monger if the data doesn't support it?

OP, I'd switch if you feel uncomfortable with her relational style, doesn't matter if she was talking to you about COVID or about your desire to VBAC. When it's not a good fit, you might feel less confident speaking up and advocating for yourself the rest of the pregnancy.


Where have you been???? There are a lot of risks to COVID beyond death. And we have no idea the king term damage to an exposed fetus. Of course this is an extraordinarily risky time to be pregnant. Nothing has been this dangerous, plunking health wise, in 102 years!


Lord, autocorrect! *Public health wise!


Yea, HIV was no big deal at all plunking health wise several decades ago.

So what are the risks? I have seen an increase in stillbirths since March, though I wonder if that is more related to extremely restricted in-person healthcare/pregnant women opting to stay away from doctors, like that poor RHOC daughter.

Again, OP, wherever you stand on how threatening this virus really is (do you work in a LTC facility? or perhaps a Foster Farms poultry processing plant?) I'd go with a doctor who has better chemistry with you. Best wishes for a safe pregnancy.
Anonymous
Post 09/02/2020 19:59     Subject: Am I being too sensitive about doctors COVID statement?
Anonymous wrote:What are the risks? Stillbirth, clotting issues, placental abruption?

If you look at data, hospitalizations from COVID are bottoming out, as are deaths. I guess if you're obese and have pre-existing conditions, yea, COVID would be the straw to break the camel's back but to a healthy pregnant woman...why scare monger if the data doesn't support it?

OP, I'd switch if you feel uncomfortable with her relational style, doesn't matter if she was talking to you about COVID or about your desire to VBAC. When it's not a good fit, you might feel less confident speaking up and advocating for yourself the rest of the pregnancy.


Just a high fever is a big risk to the fetus. At a minimum, you don't want to get COVID while pregant for the same reasons you don't want to get the Flu while pregnant.
Anonymous
Post 09/02/2020 19:36     Subject: Re:Am I being too sensitive about doctors COVID statement?
Sounds like she hates her job, and has poor bedside manner. Switch doctors. Also, pregnancy MIGHT be at an increased risk, not ARE at an increased risk, according to the CDC.
Anonymous
Post 09/02/2020 18:54     Subject: Am I being too sensitive about doctors COVID statement?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:What are the risks? Stillbirth, clotting issues, placental abruption?

If you look at data, hospitalizations from COVID are bottoming out, as are deaths. I guess if you're obese and have pre-existing conditions, yea, COVID would be the straw to break the camel's back but to a healthy pregnant woman...why scare monger if the data doesn't support it?

OP, I'd switch if you feel uncomfortable with her relational style, doesn't matter if she was talking to you about COVID or about your desire to VBAC. When it's not a good fit, you might feel less confident speaking up and advocating for yourself the rest of the pregnancy.


Where have you been???? There are a lot of risks to COVID beyond death. And we have no idea the king term damage to an exposed fetus. Of course this is an extraordinarily risky time to be pregnant. Nothing has been this dangerous, plunking health wise, in 102 years!


Lord, autocorrect! *Public health wise!
Anonymous
Post 09/02/2020 18:53     Subject: Am I being too sensitive about doctors COVID statement?
Anonymous wrote:What are the risks? Stillbirth, clotting issues, placental abruption?

If you look at data, hospitalizations from COVID are bottoming out, as are deaths. I guess if you're obese and have pre-existing conditions, yea, COVID would be the straw to break the camel's back but to a healthy pregnant woman...why scare monger if the data doesn't support it?

OP, I'd switch if you feel uncomfortable with her relational style, doesn't matter if she was talking to you about COVID or about your desire to VBAC. When it's not a good fit, you might feel less confident speaking up and advocating for yourself the rest of the pregnancy.


Where have you been???? There are a lot of risks to COVID beyond death. And we have no idea the king term damage to an exposed fetus. Of course this is an extraordinarily risky time to be pregnant. Nothing has been this dangerous, plunking health wise, in 102 years!
Anonymous
Post 09/02/2020 18:36     Subject: Am I being too sensitive about doctors COVID statement?
What are the risks? Stillbirth, clotting issues, placental abruption?

If you look at data, hospitalizations from COVID are bottoming out, as are deaths. I guess if you're obese and have pre-existing conditions, yea, COVID would be the straw to break the camel's back but to a healthy pregnant woman...why scare monger if the data doesn't support it?

OP, I'd switch if you feel uncomfortable with her relational style, doesn't matter if she was talking to you about COVID or about your desire to VBAC. When it's not a good fit, you might feel less confident speaking up and advocating for yourself the rest of the pregnancy.
Anonymous
Post 09/02/2020 17:43     Subject: Re:Am I being too sensitive about doctors COVID statement?
Anonymous wrote:It doesn't sound like OP's sensitive about the strong risk warning, she's sensitive about the comment that it's not a good time to be (get?) pregnant. OP feels judged. The fact is, she's telling you the truth about that, too. I don't know how old you are, but if it were me, I would have waited this out another 6 months to a year.


What are you doing on this forum?
Anonymous
Post 09/02/2020 17:00     Subject: Re:Am I being too sensitive about doctors COVID statement?
It doesn't sound like OP's sensitive about the strong risk warning, she's sensitive about the comment that it's not a good time to be (get?) pregnant. OP feels judged. The fact is, she's telling you the truth about that, too. I don't know how old you are, but if it were me, I would have waited this out another 6 months to a year.
Anonymous
Post 09/02/2020 16:59     Subject: Am I being too sensitive about doctors COVID statement?
She’s right. It’s a terrible time to be pregnant. You should stay away from others besides those in your household as much as you can.
Anonymous
Post 09/02/2020 16:56     Subject: Re:Am I being too sensitive about doctors COVID statement?
Anonymous wrote:It's hard to tell without context, but it does sound like she was trying to scare you, which frankly IMO is a condescending way to approach warning a patient and probably says a lot about how she's going to treat you throughout the pregnancy. I think the question you need to ask is, even if her warning was legit, do I want to continue being spoken to like I'm a moron, or do I want a provider who lays out facts without lecturing or talking down to me and then lets me make my own decisions? There are providers out there who do not behave that way and you still have plenty of time to switch.

Also, you may be "high risk" for contracting covid because pregnancy suppresses the body's immune responses, but the threat of covid, or even contracting covid, does not make your pregnancy a "high risk" one. I hope she was not saying it does, because that is blatantly false and makes me think she is setting you up for lots of micro-managing of your pregnancy and delivery that isn't evidence-based.


All of this. And if you don’t connect with an OB, for whatever reason, that’s a good reason to switch.
Anonymous
Post 09/02/2020 15:59     Subject: Re:Am I being too sensitive about doctors COVID statement?
It's hard to tell without context, but it does sound like she was trying to scare you, which frankly IMO is a condescending way to approach warning a patient and probably says a lot about how she's going to treat you throughout the pregnancy. I think the question you need to ask is, even if her warning was legit, do I want to continue being spoken to like I'm a moron, or do I want a provider who lays out facts without lecturing or talking down to me and then lets me make my own decisions? There are providers out there who do not behave that way and you still have plenty of time to switch.

Also, you may be "high risk" for contracting covid because pregnancy suppresses the body's immune responses, but the threat of covid, or even contracting covid, does not make your pregnancy a "high risk" one. I hope she was not saying it does, because that is blatantly false and makes me think she is setting you up for lots of micro-managing of your pregnancy and delivery that isn't evidence-based.
Anonymous
Post 09/02/2020 15:57     Subject: Am I being too sensitive about doctors COVID statement?
Anonymous wrote:You're being overly sensitive. She's trying to warn you to not socialize with people without staying a few meters away and wearing a mask. Don't go shopping outdoors for the sake of going shopping. If you don't have to go with your husband (or wife) to the store, then don't - stay home.



This. Just be extra careful because no one really knows the long term effects.
Anonymous
Post 09/02/2020 15:56     Subject: Re:Am I being too sensitive about doctors COVID statement?
Plus, we don’t have long term data on Covid but we have plenty on high fevers and respiratory distress - you definitely don’t want to have this while you’re pregnant, especially before the baby can be delivered in an emergency.