Anonymous
Post 09/01/2020 17:59     Subject: Re:Single mom by choice-Am I crazy?
Anonymous wrote:Yes. Get a dog.


My daughter and I don’t like animals.
Anonymous
Post 09/01/2020 17:57     Subject: Single mom by choice-Am I crazy?
Anonymous wrote:Yes. Get married. Kids need a father figure.


I wish it were that easy.
Anonymous
Post 09/01/2020 17:57     Subject: Single mom by choice-Am I crazy?
Anonymous wrote:This is a terrible idea. Everyone gets some kind of baby fever as they get close to menopause. It's hormonal, and it will pass. You'd be crazy to do this without a spouse or co-parent since you already have a child who needs you.


I’ve always wanted more kids, it obviously didn’t happen sooner because I got divorced. But the baby fever was always there.
Anonymous
Post 09/01/2020 17:54     Subject: Single mom by choice-Am I crazy?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Yes. Get married. Kids need a father figure.


Children need a father and that baby will need family outside of you. The only thing I would consider is asking XH if he'd be willing to father another.

FWIW, I don't think you're crazy. You need to think this through. What are the implications for your son, you career, your future lifestyle, and the life of that child once you're gone?


I don’t think his wife would be okay with that.
Anonymous
Post 09/01/2020 16:32     Subject: Single mom by choice-Am I crazy?
Anonymous wrote:This is a terrible idea. Everyone gets some kind of baby fever as they get close to menopause. It's hormonal, and it will pass. You'd be crazy to do this without a spouse or co-parent since you already have a child who needs you.


Not everybody is weak and needy.
Anonymous
Post 09/01/2020 16:31     Subject: Single mom by choice-Am I crazy?
This is a terrible idea. Everyone gets some kind of baby fever as they get close to menopause. It's hormonal, and it will pass. You'd be crazy to do this without a spouse or co-parent since you already have a child who needs you.
Anonymous
Post 09/01/2020 16:27     Subject: Single mom by choice-Am I crazy?
Anonymous wrote:I would adopt or foster at your age. That way you won't be dealing with the additional risk and expense of childbirth, which are considerable at 42.


Literally every foster kid experienced trauma, abuse and/or sexual molestation.
Anonymous
Post 09/01/2020 16:27     Subject: Single mom by choice-Am I crazy?
Anonymous wrote:I would adopt or foster at your age. That way you won't be dealing with the additional risk and expense of childbirth, which are considerable at 42.


Do you realize how much adoption is? We easily paid over $60K. I stopped counting. If OP can afford it, go for it.
Anonymous
Post 09/01/2020 16:27     Subject: Re:Single mom by choice-Am I crazy?
The answers on this thread are insane. This is not 1950, jeez.

Anonymous
Post 09/01/2020 16:26     Subject: Single mom by choice-Am I crazy?
If you can afford it, go for it.
Anonymous
Post 09/01/2020 16:25     Subject: Re:Single mom by choice-Am I crazy?
Your fifteen-year-old is entering a time when she really needs you. As I say this as a high school teacher and parent of three young adults. You're not crazy, but I would advise looking for another outlet for your nurturing instincts.
Anonymous
Post 09/01/2020 16:12     Subject: Single mom by choice-Am I crazy?
Do it OP. If your numbers add up and your body can produce it, do it.
Anonymous
Post 09/01/2020 16:10     Subject: Single mom by choice-Am I crazy?
Anonymous wrote:You'd better have a sibling who is willing and able to raise your child in the event of your death or incapacitation. What if you're in a car accident - now you're a single wheelchair mom. What if you get laid off - single unemployed mom. What if you get sick? Single bedridden mom. Ever since my wife died (I have two young kids), I realized there are all these things that dual parents take for granted - even divorced parents. When you're divorced, you still have a potential second income and home to support your kids. I don't go scuba diving, I don't go into the city at night, I don't exceed the speed limit anymore. I realized that my kids are one accident away from being sent to a foster home. And that would be terrible.


Hugs to you and your children.
Anonymous
Post 09/01/2020 16:08     Subject: Single mom by choice-Am I crazy?
I would adopt or foster at your age. That way you won't be dealing with the additional risk and expense of childbirth, which are considerable at 42.
Anonymous
Post 09/01/2020 16:07     Subject: Single mom by choice-Am I crazy?
Very bad idea if you ask us here. Where is the current teenager's father? Is he involved in his life? I am surprised you are interested in giving birth to a baby without his/her father. That's pretty bad. Are you from a broken home too to have a thinking like this?