Anonymous wrote:I think people who buy more house than they need care more about superficial things which probably is true across the board. They are therefore less likely to have good, healthy relationships based on real love. My two cents.

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Anonymous wrote:You think the new dream house will fix things. More room, better neighborhood, sense of accomplishment, pride - looking like the perfect family...

We’re probably going to split when covid is over.

What needed to be fixed? How did you not know the issues were bigger than square footage prior to moving? I guess that’s the part I don’t understand.

I think if my marriage was on shaky ground the last thing I would do is buy a brand new home. I know somebody that did it because the affair took place in the former home. I get that would be majorly triggering.

Anonymous wrote:I've read that there is an epidemiological pattern to divorces -- it was more in the context of being somewhat more likely to get a divorce if you are friends with people who get divorced. But it might work geographically as well.

Anonymous wrote:There are 12 homes on my street. Divorces galore. All happened within 10 years.

Next door, young couple, no kids, he went on deployment to Turkey for 6 months, she went to visit friends in Florida, she never came back. He divorced her, she got a new man. House was a year old. New neighbors are here to stay.

Another home, military, wife a nurse. His daughter from his first marriage broke the family. The woman and twins left, he sold the house. New family moved in, less than a year woman threw the husband out. She still lives there with the kids.

Across the street, custom built home. The man and his father built it. Lived there under 6 months. Wife in the medical field, man owns a lawn service, one child. 6 police cars showed up one night. Woman and child never came back. She packed her bags that night.

House on the top of the hill was barely a year old, man worked for the railroad, wife a lawyer. She had an affair and left. He lost the house. Couple bought the house, he was a pastor, wife worked but gambled. The breaking point came the day the power was shut off. He left, the wife moved into an apartment, older daughter took over the house. She and her husband are divorcing because he can't stay out of the clubs.

Next door to the above home another breakup. That was a money thing. A very public argument took place on the 4th of July. Drunk partying and swimming got out of control and everyone heard all their business. ALL OF IT. No wonder they had such nice furnishings. They spent more than they made.

I hate knowing all this. I get no satisfaction. It breaks my heart to see so many lives fall apart. I really dislike public fights. Keep that inside.

Anonymous wrote:There are 12 homes on my street. Divorces galore. All happened within 10 years.

Next door, young couple, no kids, he went on deployment to Turkey for 6 months, she went to visit friends in Florida, she never came back. He divorced her, she got a new man. House was a year old. New neighbors are here to stay.

Another home, military, wife a nurse. His daughter from his first marriage broke the family. The woman and twins left, he sold the house. New family moved in, less than a year woman threw the husband out. She still lives there with the kids.

Across the street, custom built home. The man and his father built it. Lived there under 6 months. Wife in the medical field, man owns a lawn service, one child. 6 police cars showed up one night. Woman and child never came back. She packed her bags that night.

House on the top of the hill was barely a year old, man worked for the railroad, wife a lawyer. She had an affair and left. He lost the house. Couple bought the house, he was a pastor, wife worked but gambled. The breaking point came the day the power was shut off. He left, the wife moved into an apartment, older daughter took over the house. She and her husband are divorcing because he can't stay out of the clubs.

Next door to the above home another breakup. That was a money thing. A very public argument took place on the 4th of July. Drunk partying and swimming got out of control and everyone heard all their business. ALL OF IT. No wonder they had such nice furnishings. They spent more than they made.

I hate knowing all this. I get no satisfaction. It breaks my heart to see so many lives fall apart. I really dislike public fights. Keep that inside.

Anonymous wrote:You think the new dream house will fix things. More room, better neighborhood, sense of accomplishment, pride - looking like the perfect family...

We’re probably going to split when covid is over.

Anonymous wrote:A couple in their late-40's moved into a huge home next to us about five years ago and within a year he was out and had moved into the city. She is now an empty nester and has failed to sell the house. She is apparently very wealthy in her own right and has had no problem attracting male companionship based on the men who pass through there.

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Anonymous wrote:Eh. When I’ve seen this, it’s made sense. It’s the belief that fixing the exterior (different house - different neighborhood - “nicer” things) will fix a fundamentally interior problem (the relationship). Like women who think getting implants are what will fix their low self-esteem. It could be kinda true in a superficial way - for awhile - but it wears off, and the real problem is still there.

In my husband's APs case, it wore off 5 months after moving into the brand new house.

I am convinced the house was for the extra guest room she used to bang her Internet guests.

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Anonymous wrote:Buying a big new house provided cover during an affair.. who would do that, it's part of gaslighting.

The idiot did not plan to get caught he/she planned to stay married and carry on the affair, the other spouse is not aware.

Yeah. I can see that. They gaslight wife with gifts, parties, dinners, new car...so she does not suspect the AP.