Anonymous wrote:My group of 5 from HS has dwindled to my group of 3. We don't talk as often as we probably should but rarely go more than a month or two work without some texting. The history is there. They can jump back in at any moment and I inherently trust them, they just know my heart and mine theirs. None of us live near each other. One I only see every 3 year or so.

But we are absolutely bonded still in our 40s

I should say I have a huge group of women from college that I have a more social media relationship with but we also can easily just pick up when we see each other again. I also have a smaller group of women from college within that group that I talk to daily or weekly and some that our kids are even friends.

Was not either or for me.

My group of 5 from HS has dwindled to my group of 3. We don't talk as often as we probably should but rarely go more than a month or two work without some texting. The history is there. They can jump back in at any moment and I inherently trust them, they just know my heart and mine theirs. None of us live near each other. One I only see every 3 year or so.

But we are absolutely bonded still in our 40s

They went to a tight knit high school only like 100 kids or so lol. Their friend group all got into the same school, except 1 or 2.

Movie nights still every other Friday, or something similar. But they all chose respective majors so still making new friends.

My father is still best friends with his childhood best friend despite living 6 hours apart. It is very sweet. Now that they are all retired he sees other childhood friends too.

My senior DD remained more than social media friends with about a dozen of her high school friends and sees about 5-6 of them regularly when they’re all home from school. Sophomore DD has a larger friend group from HS and sees about 12-15 of them regularly.

Personally I am in monthly or more contact (more than social media) with about 8 high school friends. They are absolutely people who would drop anything to help me if I asked, as I would for them. I am not that close with college friends.

I am in regular contact with three, but there was a definite lull during the college years, because we were all having a blast at our respective schools. We picked back up easily post-graduation. I am in contact with them monthly.

I have a DD who is a college senior. She never really had a solid group of friends and a socially stressful high school experience. She has one friend from hs says she sees when she can.

I grew up locally and have remained close with 5 friends—2 of whom I met as the new girl in 5th grade. Our collective friendship has ebbed and flowed- we had other BFFs in middle school, got closer and added 3 more by freshman year of high school. We ran in different circles and are a diverse group. We scattered for college. Some have been in each other’s weddings, there were a few years when one friend checked out due to some personal issues. Not perfect. We do meet up and vacation together and a few of us visit each other or tend to see one more than we see the others.

My kids aren't that old yet, but my four closest friends in the world are my two high school best friends and my two college best friends.

Anonymous wrote:OP, it's a varied as the individual. With my own, and both went to college out of state pretty far away, and now live away from their HS area, both have maintained close HS friendships with half a dozen or more friends. Close enough to be in each other's weddings, for example.

ITA this just completely varies. Your kid may stay BFFs with their HS friends or May never talk to them again. You just have to wait and see.

OP, it's a varied as the individual. With my own, and both went to college out of state pretty far away, and now live away from their HS area, both have maintained close HS friendships with half a dozen or more friends. Close enough to be in each other's weddings, for example.

Anonymous wrote:I’ve been wondering the same thing, with a HS senior and seeing his friend group of four guys, doing so much together and having a lot of fun. I’m thinking of a year from now when they go off in four different directions and I’m sad it will most likely come to an end.

That said, I have a friend from Elem school I’m still close to. We weren’t very close during a few periods of time, nothing dramatic, just different directions our lives took, but now we’re both 50 and talk every day.

My brother had a pack like that - they are all 50+ now and 4 of the 5 are still close.

Anonymous wrote:Almost non-existent

Same here. Boy did that add challenges to the pandemic. Thankfully he's headed back to school.

It is a shame, I think, that he didn't want to maintain the relationships, but it is very normal to have let them go.

I’ve been wondering the same thing, with a HS senior and seeing his friend group of four guys, doing so much together and having a lot of fun. I’m thinking of a year from now when they go off in four different directions and I’m sad it will most likely come to an end.

That said, I have a friend from Elem school I’m still close to. We weren’t very close during a few periods of time, nothing dramatic, just different directions our lives took, but now we’re both 50 and talk every day.

Son hangs with the same group.

Anonymous wrote:Stayed friends with some, still friends to this day. And it isn't necessarily the ones you would think it would be. Just let your kids figure this out on their own, okay?