No one has answered OP’s question.

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Anonymous wrote: .... No one is owed sex, just like no one is owed anything

For example, a sexless wife is not owed his fidelity.

I strongly object to you deleting the rest of my post to try to make a point I said explicitly I was not making. If you'd like to respond to what I said, respond to it, but not not self select a line and make it seem like I said something I didn't. You could have made your point without distorting the meaning of mine.

Sorry PP your post was excellent and I agree with almost everything you said. However it was soooo long and my point is for the contingent who scream (rightfully so) “nobody is entitled to sex” needs to also recognize the corollary “nobody is entitled to fidelity”.

I disagree with you. When you get married you don't say I vow to always have sex with you, but you do make a vow to fidelity. I would say no one is entitled to have someone stay married to them if they are not meeting their end of the bargain. But as we learn in Kindergarten, two wrongs do not make a right.

Oh you want to pull out the vows? They are bi directional. To have and to hold. Forsake all others. It means I won’t have sex with anybody except you (... because we will be having sex with each other). And once you stop meeting your partner’s sexual needs, there can be no continued expectation of them forsaking all others. It’s not a case of two wrongs making a right, there just is no other possible way to stay married except to have sex elsewhere. Like you said, if that bothers you, simply divorce.

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Anonymous wrote: .... No one is owed sex, just like no one is owed anything

For example, a sexless wife is not owed his fidelity.

I strongly object to you deleting the rest of my post to try to make a point I said explicitly I was not making. If you'd like to respond to what I said, respond to it, but not not self select a line and make it seem like I said something I didn't. You could have made your point without distorting the meaning of mine.

Sorry PP your post was excellent and I agree with almost everything you said. However it was soooo long and my point is for the contingent who scream (rightfully so) “nobody is entitled to sex” needs to also recognize the corollary “nobody is entitled to fidelity”.

I disagree with you. When you get married you don't say I vow to always have sex with you, but you do make a vow to fidelity. I would say no one is entitled to have someone stay married to them if they are not meeting their end of the bargain. But as we learn in Kindergarten, two wrongs do not make a right.

Most marriage vows are interpreted as having sex with your spouse. The fidelity is link to sex and the sex is linked to fidelity. It is not la carte as you seem to wish.

Two wrongs don't make a right still stands regardless.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote: .... No one is owed sex, just like no one is owed anything

For example, a sexless wife is not owed his fidelity.

I strongly object to you deleting the rest of my post to try to make a point I said explicitly I was not making. If you'd like to respond to what I said, respond to it, but not not self select a line and make it seem like I said something I didn't. You could have made your point without distorting the meaning of mine.

Sorry PP your post was excellent and I agree with almost everything you said. However it was soooo long and my point is for the contingent who scream (rightfully so) “nobody is entitled to sex” needs to also recognize the corollary “nobody is entitled to fidelity”.

I disagree with you. When you get married you don't say I vow to always have sex with you, but you do make a vow to fidelity. I would say no one is entitled to have someone stay married to them if they are not meeting their end of the bargain. But as we learn in Kindergarten, two wrongs do not make a right.

Depends on your vows. Some “have and hold” and “forsake all others.”

It's a sin. Adultery is a major sin in many religions...so if marriage was between two people in a religious ceremony of a religion that views adultery as a sin (as the majority do)---YES--STAYING monogamous to your partner was part of the deal.

Seriously, wtf?

I get some of the wishy-washy preachers you find on line, or homemade vows without a priest/preacher/rabbi, etc...but for centuries most marriages consider sex outside of the marriage a sin. Maybe that doesn't matter to you, but it matters to a helluva lot of people.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote: .... No one is owed sex, just like no one is owed anything

For example, a sexless wife is not owed his fidelity.

I strongly object to you deleting the rest of my post to try to make a point I said explicitly I was not making. If you'd like to respond to what I said, respond to it, but not not self select a line and make it seem like I said something I didn't. You could have made your point without distorting the meaning of mine.

Sorry PP your post was excellent and I agree with almost everything you said. However it was soooo long and my point is for the contingent who scream (rightfully so) “nobody is entitled to sex” needs to also recognize the corollary “nobody is entitled to fidelity”.

I disagree with you. When you get married you don't say I vow to always have sex with you, but you do make a vow to fidelity. I would say no one is entitled to have someone stay married to them if they are not meeting their end of the bargain. But as we learn in Kindergarten, two wrongs do not make a right.

Most marriage vows are interpreted as having sex with your spouse. The fidelity is link to sex and the sex is linked to fidelity. It is not la carte as you seem to wish.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote: .... No one is owed sex, just like no one is owed anything

For example, a sexless wife is not owed his fidelity.

I strongly object to you deleting the rest of my post to try to make a point I said explicitly I was not making. If you'd like to respond to what I said, respond to it, but not not self select a line and make it seem like I said something I didn't. You could have made your point without distorting the meaning of mine.

Sorry PP your post was excellent and I agree with almost everything you said. However it was soooo long and my point is for the contingent who scream (rightfully so) “nobody is entitled to sex” needs to also recognize the corollary “nobody is entitled to fidelity”.

I disagree with you. When you get married you don't say I vow to always have sex with you, but you do make a vow to fidelity. I would say no one is entitled to have someone stay married to them if they are not meeting their end of the bargain. But as we learn in Kindergarten, two wrongs do not make a right.

Depends on your vows. Some “have and hold” and “forsake all others.”

Anonymous wrote:What's preventing you from having more sex with your husband?

What in your mind cold be done to bring sex up to at least once a week, even if you had to schedule it in?


Once a month is pretty low even with 3 young kids.

I would rather be on DCUM. I only check it once or twice a day...

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote: .... No one is owed sex, just like no one is owed anything

For example, a sexless wife is not owed his fidelity.

I strongly object to you deleting the rest of my post to try to make a point I said explicitly I was not making. If you'd like to respond to what I said, respond to it, but not not self select a line and make it seem like I said something I didn't. You could have made your point without distorting the meaning of mine.

Sorry PP your post was excellent and I agree with almost everything you said. However it was soooo long and my point is for the contingent who scream (rightfully so) “nobody is entitled to sex” needs to also recognize the corollary “nobody is entitled to fidelity”.

I disagree with you. When you get married you don't say I vow to always have sex with you, but you do make a vow to fidelity. I would say no one is entitled to have someone stay married to them if they are not meeting their end of the bargain. But as we learn in Kindergarten, two wrongs do not make a right.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote: .... No one is owed sex, just like no one is owed anything

For example, a sexless wife is not owed his fidelity.

I strongly object to you deleting the rest of my post to try to make a point I said explicitly I was not making. If you'd like to respond to what I said, respond to it, but not not self select a line and make it seem like I said something I didn't. You could have made your point without distorting the meaning of mine.

Sorry PP your post was excellent and I agree with almost everything you said. However it was soooo long and my point is for the contingent who scream (rightfully so) “nobody is entitled to sex” needs to also recognize the corollary “nobody is entitled to fidelity”.

How old are your kids? Are you still within a year postpartum? Still breastfeeding? If you are, that really can mess w your hormones. If your kids are all a bit older (say over age 2 or so and not breastfeeding) then it’s more likely a different issue. Figure out what it is that’s preventing you from wanting to have sex. I’m a woman with 2 young kids and “about once per month” would not be nearly enough sex for me either. But obviously your DH making demands isn’t going to work. Figure out why you don’t want to have sex more often and try to work on that issue(s).

What's preventing you from having more sex with your husband?

What in your mind cold be done to bring sex up to at least once a week, even if you had to schedule it in?


Once a month is pretty low even with 3 young kids.

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Anonymous wrote: .... No one is owed sex, just like no one is owed anything

For example, a sexless wife is not owed his fidelity.

I strongly object to you deleting the rest of my post to try to make a point I said explicitly I was not making. If you'd like to respond to what I said, respond to it, but not not self select a line and make it seem like I said something I didn't. You could have made your point without distorting the meaning of mine.

Anonymous wrote: .... No one is owed sex, just like no one is owed anything

For example, a sexless wife is not owed his fidelity.

Anonymous wrote:Three young kids means you’re still young and being “content” with sex once a month means you are just taking one for the team. Even with 3 kids and two careers you should be able to find 30 minutes twice a week for sex but it sounds like you have no desire. This will not end well for you so do something or face the consequences.

Her kids are young. Doesn’t necessarily mean OP is young.

Once per month are you friggen serious? Give him a hall pass otherwise I don’t see your marriage lasting much longer.