Anonymous wrote:I don’t think you can’t win either way.

I am a lawyer but a low paid one. Have worked mainly in public service. Five figure income. I once had a guy break up with me after a few months of dating and one reason he gave was that he was in the nonprofit world too (but a director - I bet he made somewhere in the 125 to 300 range) and didn’t make a ton of money. He was divorced and had a couple kids about to enter college. I was surprised by that throwaway comment and while I wished I had pursued it I did not, but from what he said I think he was saying he didn’t like that I didn’t make more money?? I lived in a not very impressive apartment at the time, did not have a car, was not living large, etc.

What he didn’t know is that I actually have an inherited trust found worth around eight millions dollars.

But if he was dumping me because of my five figure income, and knowing that I had a large trust fund would have made him not dump me, then I don’t think he was a good guy anyway.

Anonymous wrote:Why would you say “we” have a place there? Isn’t it your beach house? The “we” would be off putting to me. I’d feel you didn’t have time to date - you are taken by this “we” group. Kids? Ex?

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Anonymous wrote:I'm 32, no kids, never been married. My BF (38) jokes with me that he could date a 1k/hour lawyer, however, he found women like that always compete with him. Men, to a certain extent, don't care about your job. Have a job that pays your bills and isn't embarrassing, beyond that if they also make money they just find it annoying.

Uh, your BF is a sexist douche. To your bolded, women like that do not "always compete with him". All women making over $150k a year are not competing with your BF as a core personality trait. Your BF is imaging that women ALL these women are competing with him because he has regressive ideas about women.

Hope you have fun being a mommy.

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t think you can’t win either way.

I am a lawyer but a low paid one. Have worked mainly in public service. Five figure income. I once had a guy break up with me after a few months of dating and one reason he gave was that he was in the nonprofit world too (but a director - I bet he made somewhere in the 125 to 300 range) and didn’t make a ton of money. He was divorced and had a couple kids about to enter college. I was surprised by that throwaway comment and while I wished I had pursued it I did not, but from what he said I think he was saying he didn’t like that I didn’t make more money?? I lived in a not very impressive apartment at the time, did not have a car, was not living large, etc.

What he didn’t know is that I actually have an inherited trust found worth around eight millions dollars.

But if he was dumping me because of my five figure income, and knowing that I had a large trust fund would have made him not dump me, then I don’t think he was a good guy anyway.

Can win

Anonymous wrote:I don’t think you can’t win either way.

I am a lawyer but a low paid one. Have worked mainly in public service. Five figure income. I once had a guy break up with me after a few months of dating and one reason he gave was that he was in the nonprofit world too (but a director - I bet he made somewhere in the 125 to 300 range) and didn’t make a ton of money. He was divorced and had a couple kids about to enter college. I was surprised by that throwaway comment and while I wished I had pursued it I did not, but from what he said I think he was saying he didn’t like that I didn’t make more money?? I lived in a not very impressive apartment at the time, did not have a car, was not living large, etc.

What he didn’t know is that I actually have an inherited trust found worth around eight millions dollars.

But if he was dumping me because of my five figure income, and knowing that I had a large trust fund would have made him not dump me, then I don’t think he was a good guy anyway.

Anonymous wrote:I'm 32, no kids, never been married. My BF (38) jokes with me that he could date a 1k/hour lawyer, however, he found women like that always compete with him. Men, to a certain extent, don't care about your job. Have a job that pays your bills and isn't embarrassing, beyond that if they also make money they just find it annoying.

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Anonymous wrote:It will usually go something like. How was your weekend? Me: Great got to spend some time outdoors. Really? Where? Me: name of Beach Town. Wow! You go there a lot. Me: yeah, we actually have a place there. Where did you say you worked? Me: name of place. Next conversation. Hey- I looked you up you are the X at place of employment. Me: Yep. Then something like you must really do well for yourself? Me: I do okay. Then I am ghosted or told something like.. I don’t really see this working out. Your a nice person and have a lot going for you but I don’t see it working out.

Why are you just standing there allowing yourself to be interrogated? It sounds like you WANT to show off. Close up your social media and after someone asks you a question, ask them a question.

Him: How was your weekend?
You: Great, got to spend some time outdoors.
NEW YOU: What about YOU? / How did you spend YOUR weekend?

You don't have to show off that you have a beach house. You could have just said, "yeah I really ike that area. what about you - where do you like to go to unwind on weekends?"

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Anonymous wrote:It will usually go something like. How was your weekend? Me: Great got to spend some time outdoors. Really? Where? Me: name of Beach Town. Wow! You go there a lot. Me: yeah, we actually have a place there. Where did you say you worked? Me: name of place. Next conversation. Hey- I looked you up you are the X at place of employment. Me: Yep. Then something like you must really do well for yourself? Me: I do okay. Then I am ghosted or told something like.. I don’t really see this working out. Your a nice person and have a lot going for you but I don’t see it working out.

Why are you just standing there allowing yourself to be interrogated? It sounds like you WANT to show off. Close up your social media and after someone asks you a question, ask them a question.

Him: How was your weekend?
You: Great, got to spend some time outdoors.
NEW YOU: What about YOU? / How did you spend YOUR weekend?

You don't have to show off that you have a beach house. You could have just said, "yeah I really ike that area. what about you - where do you like to go to unwind on weekends?"

Anonymous wrote:It will usually go something like. How was your weekend? Me: Great got to spend some time outdoors. Really? Where? Me: name of Beach Town. Wow! You go there a lot. Me: yeah, we actually have a place there. Where did you say you worked? Me: name of place. Next conversation. Hey- I looked you up you are the X at place of employment. Me: Yep. Then something like you must really do well for yourself? Me: I do okay. Then I am ghosted or told something like.. I don’t really see this working out. Your a nice person and have a lot going for you but I don’t see it working out.

Anonymous wrote:I can’t believe this is actually an issue. I’m about your age with a second home, a decent career and a very high net worth and have never had any issues with men being turned off, intimidated or whatever about it. I don’t make a big deal out if it. I don’t wear it on my sleeve but I don’t hide it. I think it’s weird if anyone is actually ghosting you for that reason. There’s got to be a better reason.

On the flip side my XH is a huge gold digger and it was a big plus for him when the woman he was dating was wealthy. So if anything I think you’d be attracting more men, not repelling them. So it has to be something else.