Anonymous
Post 08/09/2020 12:56     Subject: Drafted letter to other woman’s husband
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP I will tell you this. I had a DH who cheated for years and I didn't know. One friend told me about one affair and I was completely devastated. Another told me about the others once we had split up. I was devastated again and it completely crushed my confidence in myself for YEARS.

I didn't need to know about all the details, I didn't benefit at all.

Please do not send a letter to this poor man.


I have a pact with my spouse that we both do NOT want to know if the other cheated. So I would be pissed if I got this letter


That’s you. They did not have a pact. She does it all behind his back. He’s completely clueless.

I talked to her once.
Anonymous
Post 08/09/2020 12:56     Subject: Re:Drafted letter to other woman’s husband
Anonymous wrote:Don’t do it. Looks pathetic.


I wouldn't think a man is pathetic if he sent me a letter telling me of an affair that his wife has with my DH, ESPECIALLY if it involved unprotected sex. This isn't an emotional issue, it's a health issue, and some "harmless" STDs can cause cancer.

I'd be grateful that I have facts and can be proactive in keeping myself healthy.
Anonymous
Post 08/09/2020 12:55     Subject: Re:Drafted letter to other woman’s husband
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Why do you assume he doesn't already know?


She’s had multiple and is a pathological, manipulative liar. He’s clueless. She plans to divorce him and make him think it’s his fault.


If she's planning to divorce him, he'll be free of her soon either way.


But he will not have to pay as much $ with this proof.


Only if you're willing to testify in their divorce trial. Evidence from anonymous sources that can't be verified generally isn't admissible.


Gladly


But you just said you're sending it anonymously with nothing to link it to you or your spouse. How will you testify if he can't contact you?


I will get burner phone for contact
Anonymous
Post 08/09/2020 12:55     Subject: Drafted letter to other woman’s husband
Anonymous wrote:OP I will tell you this. I had a DH who cheated for years and I didn't know. One friend told me about one affair and I was completely devastated. Another told me about the others once we had split up. I was devastated again and it completely crushed my confidence in myself for YEARS.

I didn't need to know about all the details, I didn't benefit at all.

Please do not send a letter to this poor man.


I have a pact with my spouse that we both do NOT want to know if the other cheated. So I would be pissed if I got this letter
Anonymous
Post 08/09/2020 12:54     Subject: Drafted letter to other woman’s husband
Anonymous wrote:OP I will tell you this. I had a DH who cheated for years and I didn't know. One friend told me about one affair and I was completely devastated. Another told me about the others once we had split up. I was devastated again and it completely crushed my confidence in myself for YEARS.

I didn't need to know about all the details, I didn't benefit at all.

Please do not send a letter to this poor man.


I’m not giving gross details...and I know all of the s@ck shit.

Just timeframe and where, how they communicated, length of it.

Nothing dirty or about the sexual details. Facts.
Anonymous
Post 08/09/2020 12:54     Subject: Re:Drafted letter to other woman’s husband
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Why do you assume he doesn't already know?


She’s had multiple and is a pathological, manipulative liar. He’s clueless. She plans to divorce him and make him think it’s his fault.


If she's planning to divorce him, he'll be free of her soon either way.


But he will not have to pay as much $ with this proof.


Only if you're willing to testify in their divorce trial. Evidence from anonymous sources that can't be verified generally isn't admissible.


Gladly


But you just said you're sending it anonymously with nothing to link it to you or your spouse. How will you testify if he can't contact you?
Anonymous
Post 08/09/2020 12:53     Subject: Re:Drafted letter to other woman’s husband
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Why do you assume he doesn't already know?


She’s had multiple and is a pathological, manipulative liar. He’s clueless. She plans to divorce him and make him think it’s his fault.


If she's planning to divorce him, he'll be free of her soon either way.


But he will not have to pay as much $ with this proof.


Only if you're willing to testify in their divorce trial. Evidence from anonymous sources that can't be verified generally isn't admissible.


Gladly
Anonymous
Post 08/09/2020 12:52     Subject: Drafted letter to other woman’s husband
OP I will tell you this. I had a DH who cheated for years and I didn't know. One friend told me about one affair and I was completely devastated. Another told me about the others once we had split up. I was devastated again and it completely crushed my confidence in myself for YEARS.

I didn't need to know about all the details, I didn't benefit at all.

Please do not send a letter to this poor man.
Anonymous
Post 08/09/2020 12:52     Subject: Re:Drafted letter to other woman’s husband
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Why do you assume he doesn't already know?


She’s had multiple and is a pathological, manipulative liar. He’s clueless. She plans to divorce him and make him think it’s his fault.


If she's planning to divorce him, he'll be free of her soon either way.


But he will not have to pay as much $ with this proof.


Only if you're willing to testify in their divorce trial. Evidence from anonymous sources that can't be verified generally isn't admissible.
Anonymous
Post 08/09/2020 12:51     Subject: Drafted letter to other woman’s husband
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Can you do it anonymously?


That’s my plan. My name and cheaters name are not being used, nor is anything traceable.


Okay, that's what I'd do.
Anonymous
Post 08/09/2020 12:50     Subject: Drafted letter to other woman’s husband
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Both.
This.

Also, give him your phone number in the correspondence if he has any additional questions.


Agree.

You can get a burner phone if u don’t want to give your #.
Anonymous
Post 08/09/2020 12:50     Subject: Re:Drafted letter to other woman’s husband
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Why do you assume he doesn't already know?


She’s had multiple and is a pathological, manipulative liar. He’s clueless. She plans to divorce him and make him think it’s his fault.


If she's planning to divorce him, he'll be free of her soon either way.


But he will not have to pay as much $ with this proof.
Anonymous
Post 08/09/2020 12:49     Subject: Drafted letter to other woman’s husband
Anonymous wrote:Can you do it anonymously?


That’s my plan. My name and cheaters name are not being used, nor is anything traceable.
Anonymous
Post 08/09/2020 12:49     Subject: Drafted letter to other woman’s husband
Anonymous wrote:Both.
This.

Also, give him your phone number in the correspondence if he has any additional questions.
Anonymous
Post 08/09/2020 12:49     Subject: Re:Drafted letter to other woman’s husband
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Why do you assume he doesn't already know?


She’s had multiple and is a pathological, manipulative liar. He’s clueless. She plans to divorce him and make him think it’s his fault.


If she's planning to divorce him, he'll be free of her soon either way.