Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:And let them eat cake, right?

I am thinking about doing this but the privilege of being able to do so really feels horrible. But I’m also not sure how differently o would give if I was here as opppsrd to elsewhere.

I'm genuinely curious - if you feel horrible about your privilege, do you also give most of your money to help those less fortunate? Because anyone who says they feel bad about their privilege but doesn't do anything about it strikes me as...I can't think of the right word.

Interesting question. I do not give most of my money to help those less fortunate than me (and I’m nowhere near a millionaire or anything; I still have student loan debt at 40). I do give money to help those less fortunate but I am thjinh about privilege in this sense of being here for my community of neighbors and school. But I admit I haven’t been doing all that much on that front anyway.

I'm tempted to go because being in a tiny apartment in the city has been challenging. On the other hand, our other place is rural and I don't think that our wifi is going to be robust enough to handle 2 parents working and a kid doing DL (no cable, all DSL and the hub was overloaded even before everyone started working & going to school from home). And our place is far enough away that I don't want to go for just a couple of days, so I'd need to be prepared to take vacation as a backup plan. I long for some time there though and would do it in a heartbeat if the tech were better (or if I had vacation time to burn).

No, we are saving money, and the kids have comfortable desk set ups that help keep a nice school routine.

We bought a beach house and live there now.

I was the poster who quoted* Marie Antoinette and I wasn't asking anyone to feel guilty. If you have the means, I guess you can do it, whatever-- feels pretty neutral in itself

It just struck me as haha funny. Like asking if you're still paying your horse groomer and your personal assistant not to come in during the pandemic.


*apocryphal, I know!

No. We live in San Francisco. We've been in the house since March. We have a second place, but it's a condo in NYC, so this is not the time for that.

I'm really curious about the people who think this is residency fraud. We hear plenty of stories about people pulling their kids out of school to go to Europe because that's the timing for a family wedding or something. They are out of town but kids are doing work yet no one ever claims they are defrauding the school system.

Unless the family is permanently moving somewhere, it's really no different than a long vacation, right? Before anyone jumps on me, we don't have the resources to decamp for a month or two, so I'm not trying to defend my own actions. We may try and take two or three days here and there to rent a cabin or something, but no extended time periods out of the area since that's not in our budget and my family lives in a high risk part of the country so we won't travel there.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:And let them eat cake, right?

I am thinking about doing this but the privilege of being able to do so really feels horrible. But I’m also not sure how differently o would give if I was here as opppsrd to elsewhere.

I'm genuinely curious - if you feel horrible about your privilege, do you also give most of your money to help those less fortunate? Because anyone who says they feel bad about their privilege but doesn't do anything about it strikes me as...I can't think of the right word.