Anonymous wrote:A - Just turn her into an outside dog.

B- You have six kids and not ONE of them loves the dog enough to take responsibility for it? Even the husband?

My kids compete to see which one can coax our lab to sleep with them. He usually picks me though. Lol. #nevercrate. #dogscansenselove

A - Just turn her into an outside dog.

B- You have six kids and not ONE of them loves the dog enough to take responsibility for it? Even the husband?

Anonymous wrote:The dog is still a young dog. She’ll probably mellow considerably. Imo they really hit their prime around 6.

Figure out a better boarding situation for when you travel. If she likes other dogs, she might do great at a doggy daycare type place.

Then figure out training for problem behaviors or how to set up your home/life to make it easier. A place to contain the dog that can’t be destroyed, etc.

Set up a care schedule for the kids so it’s not always your problem.

Or maybe don’t contain the dog. I’ve never had any dogs “contained” and they all turned out great. That’s likely her problem.

You tuff it out. You adopted that dog. You choose to have six kids and cannot handle it all. Grow up and figure it out.

The dog is still a young dog. She’ll probably mellow considerably. Imo they really hit their prime around 6.

Figure out a better boarding situation for when you travel. If she likes other dogs, she might do great at a doggy daycare type place.

Then figure out training for problem behaviors or how to set up your home/life to make it easier. A place to contain the dog that can’t be destroyed, etc.

Set up a care schedule for the kids so it’s not always your problem.

Why would you put a 3.5 yo dog in a crate? When does that happen? I thought people who used them did it for potty training to take them from crate to outside. At that age why isn’t the dog sleeping on a dog bed or actually with the kid or you? I’ve have many dogs in my life (all labs and hounds) and never figured what people did with crates but maybe that is the problem here.

There are other supplements that you can give dogs to help with health and mood. If you're considering medication, you could also consider some of those. And a special diet. Allergies can do strange things.

I got rid of a puppy recently. It was a heart wrenching and traumatic experience but I have no regrets for my own mental health and the direct correlation to our family’s wellbeing. I encourage you to go with your desire to rehome the dog. I was honest with my family about the reasons why and while there were a lot of tears, there is also an understanding that it was for the best.

I've fostered 30 dogs and I have NEVER had a dog escape a crate. WTH kind of crate are you using? I just get them off Amazon and they contain any and all kinds of dogs.
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The answer is you treat her like a puppy. If you can't have eyes-on her or she's not outside, she's in the crate. You assign particular kids to walk her or ensure potty breaks at particular times of day. Set an Alexa reminder.

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Anonymous wrote:Well, my anxious, high needs cat is now on Prozac and that has transformed her into a nice kitty, so maybe talk to your vet about that?

(I know this cements my status as a crazy cat lady, but it really has stopped the scratching, howling, and inappropriate peeing).

That's a great idea! I posted before to rehome your dog, but then read your post about your child how loves her participating in her care. For this child's sake, maybe try anti-anxiety meds?

Also, have you tried doggy diapers? I have an incontinent dog, and diapers have been a lifesaver. I bought washable ones and they work well.

I think you should definitely try both of those first as during these trying times you want to minimize the amount of stress/emotional upheaval on children. If you do decide to rehome, you can contact your shelter where you adopted her. Right now there are so many families who would love to a adopt even a high need dog, and they may have the time to really devote to her.

You think? The rescue we used has dozens of dogs available and most people want puppies.

Coincidentally, the child who loves the dog is also ADHD and high needs. I really want bring myself to get rid of her and have that child hate me. The thing is, most of the time she lays around and does nothing. It’s just all the particulars of her care that can be so annoying. The medication is a great idea especially for when we might travel with her, leave or when everyone heads back to work and school at some point.

So far we’ve had someone stay with her when we went Away but that person is willing to stay home almost the whole time. Since we had crate issues I can’t imagine putting her in a kennel. I fear they’d call us when we are hundreds of miles away (in the future ).

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Anonymous wrote:Well, my anxious, high needs cat is now on Prozac and that has transformed her into a nice kitty, so maybe talk to your vet about that?

(I know this cements my status as a crazy cat lady, but it really has stopped the scratching, howling, and inappropriate peeing).

That's a great idea! I posted before to rehome your dog, but then read your post about your child how loves her participating in her care. For this child's sake, maybe try anti-anxiety meds?

Also, have you tried doggy diapers? I have an incontinent dog, and diapers have been a lifesaver. I bought washable ones and they work well.

I think you should definitely try both of those first as during these trying times you want to minimize the amount of stress/emotional upheaval on children. If you do decide to rehome, you can contact your shelter where you adopted her. Right now there are so many families who would love to a adopt even a high need dog, and they may have the time to really devote to her.

Anonymous wrote:Dog sounds like it has ADHD and needs a military style dog trainer, like a super nanny for dogs .

No, this is a terrible thing to do to an anxious dog. The exact opposite of what the dog needs.

Anonymous wrote:Well, my anxious, high needs cat is now on Prozac and that has transformed her into a nice kitty, so maybe talk to your vet about that?

(I know this cements my status as a crazy cat lady, but it really has stopped the scratching, howling, and inappropriate peeing).

That's a great idea! I posted before to rehome your dog, but then read your post about your child how loves her participating in her care. For this child's sake, maybe try anti-anxiety meds?

Also, have you tried doggy diapers? I have an incontinent dog, and diapers have been a lifesaver. I bought washable ones and they work well.

Seriously, life is too short. It’s not worth it to suffer all of these years, and it does sound like suffering. Contact the rescue and say you’d like to regime the dog.