Anonymous
07/23/2020 18:38
Subject: Is this weird, or is it just me?
OP, it seems normal to me. That wasn't the relationship I had with my dad, but I did with my mom. I think it sounds sweet.
Anonymous
07/23/2020 18:07
Subject: Re:Is this weird, or is it just me?
OP is weird for asking. If you were still married, this would be called a "family vacation".
Anonymous
07/23/2020 17:48
Subject: Re:Is this weird, or is it just me?
Anonymous wrote:This is OP. Son and girlfriend are around 21, and they’ve been together for a few months
My SO wanted to spend ‘quality time’ with his son, which I can totally understand. Not quite sure how that would work with the girlfriend in tow.
Thanks for your input, everyone. Maybe I’m overthinking this.
You are completely overthinking it. If you want a young adult to hang out with you, include the people they care about or they won’t come.
Anonymous
07/23/2020 17:13
Subject: Is this weird, or is it just me?
This isn’t odd in the least. I certainly traveled with my parents throughout my 20s. Perhaps the issue is that you weren’t originally invited, felt left out, and bristled at the fact that the GF was going to be there? That’s an understandable reaction - but there’s nothing strange about them traveling together.
Anonymous
07/23/2020 15:46
Subject: Is this weird, or is it just me?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Did you want to go? How long have you two been together? No, I don’t think it’s weird. But I get that you’re feeling left out since it’s not going to just be the two of them.
Yeah, this.
My parents would always let us bring our boyfriends with us on vacation, high school and up. I’m from SC and white families tend to go on beach vacations in the summer and it’s normal for people to bring along their boyfriends and girlfriends.
Did you want to go to? It seems perhaps a bit odd you were excluded if you wa Ted to go, depending on how long you have been dating. If my boyfriend wanted to take his sons on vacation without me I’d be open to that idea as long as he saved vacation days for the two of us. It if the sons brought girlfriends I’d feel a but put out if I was not invited.
This is OP. Thanks PP and PPP. I was asked if I wanted to go (almost as an afterthought) but I declined because I wanted father and son to spend time together without me and my child around. We’ve been together for 3 years now.
This was not a thing in my family when I was growing up, so it’s good to know that this is fairly normal.
Anonymous
07/23/2020 15:38
Subject: Is this weird, or is it just me?
Anonymous wrote:Did you want to go? How long have you two been together? No, I don’t think it’s weird. But I get that you’re feeling left out since it’s not going to just be the two of them.
Yeah, this.
My parents would always let us bring our boyfriends with us on vacation, high school and up. I’m from SC and white families tend to go on beach vacations in the summer and it’s normal for people to bring along their boyfriends and girlfriends.
Did you want to go to? It seems perhaps a bit odd you were excluded if you wa Ted to go, depending on how long you have been dating. If my boyfriend wanted to take his sons on vacation without me I’d be open to that idea as long as he saved vacation days for the two of us. It if the sons brought girlfriends I’d feel a but put out if I was not invited.
Anonymous
07/23/2020 15:32
Subject: Is this weird, or is it just me?
Did you want to go? How long have you two been together? No, I don’t think it’s weird. But I get that you’re feeling left out since it’s not going to just be the two of them.
Anonymous
07/23/2020 15:23
Subject: Re:Is this weird, or is it just me?
Does not seem weird on its face. I agree that its positive if adult children still want to and enjoy socializing with their parents -- speaks to a healthy dynamic and mutual respect. And if the relationship with the girlfriend is serious, it is respectful and appropriate to include her in the plans.
Of course, if there are factors we don't know about, I might retract all that. I can imagine lots of scenarios in which this could be weird or inappropriate, but I don't think the mere idea of it is weird.
Of course, if there are factors we don't know about, I might retract all that. I can imagine lots of scenarios in which this could be weird or inappropriate, but I don't think the mere idea of it is weird.